The Two Hottest Things You Can Say in Bed
Listen up as we reveal the magic words that will take you and your guy to new heights of excitement! Surprisingly, they're actually printable.
When you think about what makes sex good, the physical factors most likely come to mind: how you touch each other, the positions you try, and the body parts you focus on. But there's another key contributor that is often overlooked: the words you utter. "Speaking or hearing erotically charged words stimulates dopamine transmission, which plays a huge role in sexual excitement," explains Ian Kerner, PhD, author of Passionista. "They can enhance the emotional and physical intensity of the experience." Sounds great...but what should you say that won't seem ridiculous? (Unless you're a porn star, "Do me hard, bad boy!" probably doesn't roll off the tongue.) "Most women aren't sure what sounds sexy, so they don't say anything," says Logan Levkoff, PhD, a sexologist in New York City. As a result, you're missing out on pleasure — which is so not right. Here's a revelation: On a Sirius Cosmo Radio show about talking dirty in bed, tons of guys called in to share the phrase that gets them hotter than any other. By a landslide, it was "I'm coming." Yup, that's it. And what about women? Are there words with similar superpowers for us? We turned to Kerner, who divulged a sentence tailored to maximize your satisfaction.
For His Pleasure
"I'm coming." So simple, so powerful. This sentence is like the sex version of bacon — men freakin' love it. "Being a great lover is a prime source of pride for guys," Levkoff says. "Telling him you're about to orgasm is the ultimate accolade." It's proof that he's successfully satisfying you. What's more, he's gotten you so aroused that you're out of control — this phrase suggests that even if you tried, you couldn't stop from tumbling over the edge. Announcing your orgasm's arrival also amps up anticipation for that pivotal moment, thus enhancing enjoyment for both of you. "Plus, since most men are ready to climax before women are, this gives him permission to come," Kerner says. That's definitely music to his, um, ears.
For Your Pleasure
Women, on the other hand, want something less basic than bacon. What Kerner suggests: "I love it when you [verb] my [body part]," such as "I love it when you rub my thigh/kiss my neck/lick my breasts." He explains, "Verbalizing the sensation brings your attention to it, which reinforces the pleasure you're experiencing." It's like eating a yummy meal — talking about how delicious it is can make it even tastier. This phrase also helps you stay in the moment, Kerner adds. If your mind starts wandering or you're stressing about other stuff, expressing what's happening to you keeps you focused on what you're feeling that second. Your guy gets off on it too. "It shows him that he's doing something right," Levkoff says. And once he knows you dig that move, he'll probably repeat it. Excellent.
17 Dirty Talk Phrases To Build Sexual Tension
Dirty talk isn't just for the bedroom. It's for everyday communication.
Having a large repertoire of dirty phrases that you can use on your man is important if want to keep things exciting in the bedroom (and outside the bedroom) as well as keeping him faithful. Below are 17 dirty talking phrases that you can use on your man right now, whether you are in bed, you are sending him a text message, you're on the phone, or you are both walking down a crowded street.
But before I give you each of these phrases, there is a few crucial things that you must know about talking dirty to your man and making it work. This is simply because there is just no point in learning the words if you don't know how to use them properly. Let me explain.
How you talk dirty: When talking dirty to your man, you are going to find that you have a lot more success at turning your man on and building sexual tension if you do it confidently. So the next time you talk dirty to your man, make sure to speak slowly and clearly in a way that accentuates the meaning of the actual words. The last thing you want to do is stutter the words or say them incredibly fast or in a weird tone. My advice is to practice these dirty talking phrases a few times to yourself before you actually use them on your man.
Where you talk dirty: Where you talk dirty is just as important. When you are both in bed together, then you are going to talking dirty in a way that makes sex hotter for both of you. But when you are together in a public place where nothing can happen, then you are going to be talking dirty in a way that builds sexual tension. So the things that you will be saying to your man will be quite different in each case. So now that I have talked a little bit about using dirty talk in a way that is most effective, it's time to learn some dirty talking phrases!
Dirty phrases to turn him on in bed:
- You feel so good inside me.
- Just hearing you breath in my ear sends shivers down my spine.
- I love having your body on top of mine in bed. It feels incredible.
- I wish we could just stay in bed forever.
- Just like that!
- I love being your little minx in the bedroom.
- I want to taste you.
- Keep doing that.
- You're going to make me come.
- You're making me so wet.