Age Difference within Relationships

**Murphy** · 02-27-2010, 06:25 PM

How great of an age difference within relationships (sexual) is to much of a difference? Is it okay for an eighteen-year-old to get together with a forty-year-old?

Also, how young is too young in general? Is a fourteen-year-old mature enough for a healthy relationship? As an example.

**Anthropos** · 02-27-2010, 06:28 PM

Originally Posted by The Papist

Is it okay for an eighteen-year-old to get together with a forty-year-old?

I wish you good luck!

**Crusadersword** · 02-27-2010, 06:29 PM

I think within the boundaries of someone's age group is more appropriate. Someone who will accompany you for the rest of your life as one. That is hardly possible when you have a 20+ year age gap.

**Stefan** · 02-27-2010, 06:31 PM

Originally Posted by The Papist

Is a fourteen-year-old mature enough for a healthy relationship? As an example.

No, neither are people my age. Maybe some odd individuals, but in a generalized view, not even close.

**Murphy** · 02-27-2010, 06:33 PM

Originally Posted by Stefan

No, neither are people my age. Maybe some odd individuals, but in a generalized view, not even close.

Do you believe this is a product of modern society?

**Grumpy Cat** · 02-27-2010, 06:39 PM

The "creepy factor" is: your age/2 +7

So, I'm 28, that means 28/2 +7 = 14 + 7 = 21

So the minimum age I can date before it becomes creepy is 21.

**Stefan** · 02-27-2010, 06:43 PM

Originally Posted by The Papist

Do you believe this is a product of modern society?

Partially, but I think it has always been the case to some extent. It is probably more noticeable in modern society because there is more time given to people for growing up, but I think you'll always be inexperienced at such a young age. Teenagers are too fickle, and change their mind too much. We especially don't think ahead and of the consequences. I think there needs to be time for us to mature in other aspects before thinking of serious relationships. Of course there are individuals who differ from this generalization I've made.

**jerney** · 02-27-2010, 06:53 PM

Originally Posted by AcadianDriftwood

The "creepy factor" is: your age/2 +7

So, I'm 28, that means 28/2 +7 = 14 + 7 = 21

So the minumin age I can date before it becomes creepy is 21.

Maybe this is a double standard but I find it a lot more unappealing if a 28 year old female is dating a 21 year old male than the opposite. It might be because I see males who are younger than me, and even my age sometimes, as boyish, and that's creepy for me and huge turn off.

I've always preferred guys at least a few years older than me because I need a man, mkay.

**antonio** · 02-27-2010, 07:00 PM

Originally Posted by Aequoreus

How great of an age difference within relationships (sexual) is to much of a difference? Is it okay for an eighteen-year-old to get together with a forty-year-old?

Also, how young is too young in general? Is a fourteen-year-old mature enough for a healthy relationship? As an example.

A healthy relationship must be based on healthy members. So if alternative for a healthy (meaning clever or attractive or righteous) 40 y.o. is an unhealthy (meaning stupid, unatractive...) 20 y.o. it would be wiser to choose the first. Assuming that this one that I give you for free is a life lesson very difficult to interiorize when you're under 30 y.o.

PD. When 40y.o. will become 60 y.o. or 80 y.o. it's not your currently matter. It's unwiser even for the wisest to make plans such unrealistic elapsed. God only knows!