How do I make friends?

**~~Profileid~~** · 08-27-2016, 07:04 AM

Maybe this sounds pathetic idk
I had trouble enough getting my "friends" to do anything.I wanted to check out cool Brazilian restaurants in Pittsburgh,but they just wanted to do drugs and have sex. The last two people I associated with IRL I stopped talking to because they're assholes and one of them only "hung out" with me in order to beg me for cash to buy heroin. I live in a low populated area and no one seems genuinely friendly. I've tried going into stores and places and making random convos with people there, but that just makes me feel like a creepy old man.The last few jobs I've had were mostly worked by old ladies,so no point in befriending them. At the restaurant gig, I made friends with a chick. We chilled at her house and smoked pot once,but after that, she stopped answering my texts for some reason. I found it odd because I was on my best behavior that night.
I feel as if I am wasting my youth laying around and doing nothing. I don't to be old and find I had no good experiences. That thought terrifies me more than any other.

**~~Iloko~~** · 08-27-2016, 07:27 AM

Do you prefer to have more male friends...or more female friends? Or the gender doesn't matter?

**~~UkrainianGirl~~** · 08-27-2016, 07:36 AM

Go to a book club or salon or spa to make girlfriends.
Go to the park in short shorts to jog and take a slight break near guys to make guys friends.

**~~Profileid~~** · 08-27-2016, 07:49 AM

Originally Posted by shazou

Do you prefer to have more male friends...or more female friends? Or the gender doesn't matter?

Doesn't matter. I am desperate for actual human interaction at this point.

Originally Posted by UkrainianGirl

Go to a book club or salon or spa to make girlfriends.
Go to the park in short shorts to jog and take a slight break near guys to make guys friends.

Where do I find these sorts of clubs? I have spent many hours driving around my area, I see nothing. It looks so empty to me.

**~~Profileid~~** · 08-27-2016, 07:52 AM

la da dee duh

**morski** · 08-27-2016, 07:58 AM

What the others said - take up a hobby, find a nice bar/pub and become a patron. If all else fails you can always lock someone in your basement and friend the shit out of them.

**~~UkrainianGirl~~** · 08-27-2016, 08:02 AM

Originally Posted by Etain

Where do I find these sorts of clubs? I have spent many hours driving around my area, I see nothing. It looks so empty to me.

No salons near you? For hair or nails or even tanning if you wish to tan lol? Or even hang around at the mall and pretend to admire things a girl is looking at even if you don't plan to buy anything. Just start conversations about something. If a girl is looking at clothes at the mall say "oh that top (or whatever it is) is so pretty. Do you like styles like that?" you know something to get a convo going. Maybe suggest a place too like, "Oh you might like the tops they have at this place and say ever been there? "Then you can say it's a you like and blah blah blah.

Also any friends from high school or college? Those are good too. I sometimes get my girlfriends together from highschool for a movie night at home or movie theatre. Or even a slumber party. I've done those. But before you plan these make sure you find out who's interested and make a day (probably weekend) that works for them. Then gather suggestions like if movie night at your place tell them to bring their favorite movies. Maybe makeup and nail polish for them to bring to slumber party. Something like that. You still keep in touch or see high school friends in college right? Those are best choice.