Kids are overrated

[revealman]

What annoys me is when you tell people that you don't wish to have children, they instantly see you like an evil, despicable monster

The reason people have children is because of this unwritten social norm where the standard is to get married and, after a while, begin to generate progeny because "that's the thing to do". Also, most of them end up having kids because they have an idealized, completely unrealistic vision of what parenthood entails.

People imagine dressing their daughter in pretty clothes, or playing catch with their son. They don't think about being awoken at 3 a.m. by a sick, screaming kid who just threw up all over the bed, and who doesn't give a shit that you have to get up for work in four hours.

Some of my female colleagues have either infants, toddlers or kids at all ages. All they talk about is the bad stuff like getting no sleep, financial obligations or their children fighting with each other. It seems like they are always complaining. I just sit back and realize how thankful I am that I don't have to worry about these things. I’m not baby crazy...yet - but after hearing all their horror stories, it makes me not want to have kids

LOL

your own subjective opinion will not change the fact that natural law is about reproduction from the beginning.. humans are good at imaginging and making up all kinds of silly theories just because our brain aquired the skill of abstract thought so we can adapt and survive in diffrent territories and environment.. does in no way change reality and reality is that every step of human lives cycles around sex and reprodcution + aquiring resources...

the pressure people feel to make babies is derived from instincts, not social norms.. marriages often dont last because we are a polygamous species and programmed to spread genes with as many partners as possible. no matter what some recent social norms or religious laws from a 2000 year old book tell you, humans were polygamous for eons..

and of course you must not carry children, sterilisation is your ticket out of samsara

so all in all children are so "overrated" because they are only the continuation of your genes(survival is such an overrated value)..
but of course not everyone has the wish to live on..

ps. by the way you also screamed, fought and messed things up as a child maybe you are just a little bit more selfish than your parents were so you decide not to reproduce.. anyway its up to you

[revealman]

People who want to have as many kids as they can afford and are able to properly raise are superior to both the ones who don't want to have any kids, and to the ones who do not care about their kids.

There is an r strategy - people who are r-selected are similar to rabbits - they want to breed as much as possible, but they don't care about their offspring - hoping that at least some will survive. The opposite is K strategy - people who do want to have kids, but for them quality is more important than quantity:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W8N3FF_3KvU



Here example of an r-selected person who doesn't care about how many kids she has:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sjpGBEPYv80

guess condoms might have been cheaper..

like gypsies in eastern europe (r-strategy)

but also white people from lower class

the environment determines which strategy you will follow.. liberals vs. conservatives

feminism is r-strategy with single mothers who have more testosterone so they can protect their offspring(compare african women to asian or european)

liberals love social wellfare(rabbits) while right wing conservatives (wolves) prefer competitive environment

in our modern society the business men and politicians are the wolves and the rest of the social pyramid are worker rabbits.. but liberal politicians will eat up the resources anyway by countless wars and wasting food and energy cause they are uncapable of thinking in long term consequences.. there are too many rabbits compared to wolves