Don't believe there's girl for everyone

[Herr Abubu]

I stalked her and know bunch of information about here, even done some facebook quiz and scored higher than her best friend and equal as her boyfriend. As for financial support, she's something in between. Want's to be able to go vacation and not wear made in china clothes.

So this isn't someone you've gained a crush on through shared moments, experience, conversation, etc., but someone you don't even know very well personally and have stalked instead? It sounds very immature, not good. You shouldn't have a crush on a person you only know as a few images and ideas in your head.

[Pigling]

There is somebody for everybody, if you're willing to lower your standards enough.

Btw, I don't think the problem is introvertedness as much as lack of confidence. I know quite a few introverted guys in stable relationships because they're fundamentally ok with themselves and full of self-confidence - they just don't prefer to be around a lot of people all the time.

If you lack self-confidence, people pick up on that (this goes for both men and women). If you're full of self-confidence, people automatically consider you more desireable, because they believe there has to be a reason why you feel so good about yourself.

Confidence is problem, but not lack rather overconfidence, because I aim a little bit high which makes me have narcissistic approach to this problem. I just approach girl and say I'm interested or in love with her if romantic momentum gets me. I have trump-like attitude when it comes to dating.

[Pigling]

So this isn't someone you've gained a crush on through shared moments, experience, conversation, etc., but someone you don't even know very well personally and have stalked instead? It sounds very immature, not good. You shouldn't have a crush on a person you only know as a few images and ideas in your head.

Every girl I even get to know a little bit personally stops being attractive in my eyes, but I'm not sure why.

[Herr Abubu]

Every girl I even get to know a little bit personally stops being attractive in my eyes, but I'm not sure why.

It's because there's something seriously wrong with you. In Orthodox Christian theology it's thought of as something very specific, but I'm not going to spook you with that, only maybe hint at it.

You can never form a healthy relationship with a woman if you love the images and ideas you have of them and not them in their flesh, blood and spirit. There's nothing good to find in this, it will always ruin your chances of finding love and it will always be your own fault.

It's something we see a lot of today. Men and women who love characters from films and books, f.e., instead of real women and men.

[Pigling]

It's because there's something seriously wrong with you. In Orthodox Christian theology it's thought of as something very specific, but I'm not going to spook you with that, only maybe hint at it.

You can never form a healthy relationship with a woman if you love the images and ideas you have of them and not them in their flesh, blood and spirit. There's nothing good to find in this, it will always ruin your chances of finding love and it will always be your own fault.

It's something we see a lot of today. Men and women who love characters from films and books, f.e., instead of real women and men.

So it's all because I'm possessed by Satan?

[Herr Abubu]

So it's all because I'm possessed by Satan?

Not too far off.

It's being in a state of sinfulness. We stop seeing things as they are and are fooled by images, images given to us by demons, who tempt us with these images. You love these images, not women. They are simply objects through which you gratify yourself.

It's not exactly uniquely Orthodox. Plato's Allegory of the Cave hints at it.

[Pigling]

Not too far off.

It's being in a state of sinfulness. We stop seeing things as they are and are fooled by images, images given to us by demons, who tempt us with these images. You love these images, not women. They are simply objects through which you gratify yourself.

It's not exactly uniquely Orthodox. Plato's Allegory of the Cave hints at it.

Would you date morbidly obese women? Most people wouldn't, which mean they're being shallow and only care about visual appearance, but if someone try to argue them they'll say obese people have low self-control and bad mental features even if they never talked to that person. Which imply most people are like that, while you try to treat me as isolate case who's shallow and almost possess personality disorder.

[Herr Abubu]

Would you date morbidly obese women? Most people wouldn't, which mean they're being shallow and only care about visual appearance, but if someone try to argue them they'll say obese people have low self-control and bad mental features even if they never talked to that person. Which imply most people are like that, while you try to treat me as isolate case who's shallow and almost possess personality disorder.

Is obesity merely a physical state of being, though?

[Pigling]

Is obesity merely a physical state of being, though?

It shouldn't be, but what suppose to do when you're not attracted to anyone? Especially when you get to know that person attraction drops down.

[Herr Abubu]

It shouldn't be, but what suppose to do when you're not attracted to anyone? Especially when you get to know that person attraction drops down.

I'll rephrase that. Isn't obesity rather a symptom of something disorderly than the cause of the disorder itself?