Men:Will u marry lady 10 yrs older

[Herr Abubu]

Btw. it is said by psychologist that for a prosperous long term relationship is the best when:
- a man is max. 8 years older than a woman;
- a woman is max. 3 years older than a man

That may or may not be true, I don't dispute it, but psychologists are hacks and quacks.

[crazyladybutterfly]

What made you asexual crazylady? Or you think its just cool to be one?

i think i was born in this way.
but i cringe at the idea that i might be in a relationship with a man who would have sex with a 15 years old female kid.
let's say that molestation and having creeps with a lolita complex staring at me at 15 didn't really help lol (once i started to look likke an adult, at 17 , i stopped having creeps perving on me)

[MissMischief]

Marry?

I'm starting to think you're actually right. The older I get, the more it seems to me that marriage is not worth the trouble. I don't feel married people have any advantages in terms of a fulfilling sex life, being financially secure, finding happiness and having social status. So why even bother?

[Pennywise]

i think i was born in this way.
but i cringe at the idea that i might be in a relationship with a man who would have sex with a 15 years old female kid.
let's say that molestation and having creeps with a lolita complex staring at me at 15 didn't really help lol (once i started to look likke an adult, at 17 , i stopped having creeps perving on me)

Were you abused by an adult when you're 15 or something? You don't have to answer to this. These kind of similar traumatic experiences may cause sexual reluctancy. I believe that's the case with you. You need a professional help.

[Colonel Frank Grimes]

That may or may not be true, I don't dispute it, but psychologists are hacks and quacks.

What she posted could easily be tested by looking at marriages that have lasted a number of years and those that have ended in divorce. Psychologists like Freud proved their beliefs simply by rationalizing their own preconceived notions, while men like Eysenck relied on testing their hypothesis. Needless to say Eysenck rightfully attacked psychoanalysis for being hack. Unfortunately Freud's type of psychologists are still very popular in that field. It attracts a lot of goofy people for that reason.

[crazyladybutterfly]

Were you abused by an adult when you're 15 or something? You don't have to answer to this. These kind of similar traumatic experiences may cause sexual reluctancy. I believe that's case with you. You need a professional help.

a couple of times and younger than that.
what disgusted me is how common men creeping on young girls are. btw at 15-16 I looked 3 years younger and at 19-20 I was taken for a 16-17 years old...

I am not saying all men are pervs but still i find it hard to trust one

[Pennywise]

a couple of times and younger than that.
what disgusted me is how common men creeping on young girls are. btw at 15-16 I looked 3 years younger and at 19-20 I was taken for a 16-17 years old...

I am not saying all men are pervs but still i find it hard to trust one

Saying "Naaah not all man like thaaat" won't help you, I know. That's why I said you need a professional help. And it seems it's more than just a trust issue. It's up to you to take my advice or ignore it of course.

[Magnolia]

I am realistic. It's you two, in typical female fashion, who aren't. Those divorced men have a much higher likelihood of re-marrying than their female counterparts, and they usually go for girls younger than themselves. The opposite practically never happens. Then you can add in the fact that I clearly know how the male mind works. You can retort that I don't know how the female mind works, which may be true, but I sure as hell know what my eyes tell me they do.

It depends who are girls according to you. Yes there are many cases when a 44 yo divorced man starts to date a 36 yo divorced woman... It is unusual the other way around. But a 44 yo divorced man and a 20 yo single woman - NO.

And yes, maybe in your culture is common that a divorced man is a scoop for young girls, but this is not a global standard at all.

[Dandelion]

a couple of times and younger than that.
what disgusted me is how common men creeping on young girls are. btw at 15-16 I looked 3 years younger and at 19-20 I was taken for a 16-17 years old...

I am not saying all men are pervs but still i find it hard to trust one

Even on this forum there are many such examples.

[Magnolia]

What she posted could easily be tested by looking at marriages that have lasted a number of years and those that have ended in divorce. Psychologists like Freud proved their beliefs simply by rationalizing their own preconceived notions, while men like Eysenck relied on testing their hypothesis. Needless to say Eysenck rightfully attacked psychoanalysis for being hack. Unfortunately Freud's type of psychologists are still very popular in that field. It attracts a lot of goofy people for that reason.

That's exactly how it was determined.