Are men threatened by successful women?

[Antimage]

nope

if a woman is intelligent/smart , have class and is successful it's a turn on, if anything. For me at least.

Dumping her because she gets promoted or have higher salary than me sounds ridiculous

[Deymark]

I was reading a thread on here when I bumped into this post:

http://www.theapricity.com/forum/sho...=1#post4342176



That made me think.... are most guys really turned off or intimidated by smart, high-achieving, successful women? If yes, how come? Is it because they make you feel inferior or inadequate as a man or breadwinner? Do men prefer ditsy, mousey, weak women who play nice at being told what to do?

Perhaps men find the typical female stereotype of having a woman to run the house, look after the children and cook and clean for them, far sexier? Or maybe they still want to feel like they are needed and have the power and control that comes with being the main income earner.

If your girlfriend/wife were to earn more than you, would this damage your self-esteem and ego?

Irrelevant.The men that care about their's partner job are insecure of themselvs and should lower their dating standard.

[Guru]

Hell, women can even be our boss and we'd want to fuck them. But it's probably more short term rather than long term. After all, she is a go better.

The man would have to have something to bring to the table to make it a balanced relationship. What does such a woman look for in a man?

For women men's personality is the most important in that case I suppose and maybe charisma but anyway, if a man is a boss and has sex with a woman he is accused of sexual harassment, why it doesn't work in the opposite cases, women hate sex or sth ??

[Harley]

From my experience with past partners, they were threatened by my intelligence and the fact I was more successful than them at the time, which is solely attributed to being hard working and loyal.

I think my choice to settle for them spoke volumes on how I felt about males psychologically. Currently, my partner is more successful than myself. I'm currently working from home as an illustrator and copywriter. He appreciates the qualities I have and it adds to our relationship rather than creating an adversarial dynamic between us. I don't have to worry about being happy that I'm doing something well with my current partner because he won't attack me for it.

When I think of these things, I remember when I wanted to attend college, I took an assessment test for placement. After 7 years of no school, I scored 4th year honors English placement. I showed my ex husband and he snatched the paper from my hand, crumpled it in his fist, and said, "Do you think you're better than me? You think that shit means something?" Then threw it on the ground and stepped on it.

I felt ashamed when that happened. I have the belief that each person in a relationship is an extension of the other. I realize that I shackled myself to someone who wanted to be a loser, and I didn't want that to be my life.

[Wadaad]

if anything having a successful woman fall for you is a huge aphrodisiac and I imagine the sex is more fulfilling.

[zhaoyun]

I actually much prefer intelligent women. But I can see how a dumb guy would hate having a smarter woman constantly lord over him.

It really depends on the personal dynamics. But I would say that most men would not generally want a woman who has much greater social status than him.

[Wadaad]

Also I feel feminists use the 'I am toosuccessful' excuse to explain their failed relationships...when it isnt about success but rather someone who prioritizes career over relationship to climb the ladder. Whether male or female, the consequence is te same: you will be alone. Only thing is, career-oriented males cannot complain about this or it will seem like 1st world problems, also career oriented males can always visit escorts and prostitutes, but a career oriented woman will not be so satisfied by a gigolo or one night stand.

[Colonel Frank Grimes]

[Harley]

Also I feel feminists use the 'I am toosuccessful' excuse to explain their failed relationships...when it isnt about success but rather someone who prioritizes career over relationship to climb the ladder. Whether male or female, the consequence is te same: you will be alone. Only thing is, career-oriented males cannot complain about this or it will seem like 1st world problems, also career oriented males can always visit escorts and prostitutes, but a career oriented woman will not be so satisfied by a gigolo or one night stand.

I agree with this, as whether a relationship is successful or not does depend on whether the priority is to make it work.

[Guru]

Every man who is afraid of women who are intelligent and by female empowerment is a loser himself who has nothing to offer and is scared that a woman will kick his ass totally destroying his ego