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Why you should NEVER describe yourself as 'happy' or 'shy'
Experts reveal the dating profile turn-offs that will ruin your chances of finding love
Survey of 400,000 people reveals adjectives to attract potential dates
Both genders are looking for future lovers who shout about their self confidence
Women who say they are 'happy' in their profile turn men off
While women hate men calling themselves 'sexy' - men want to hear it
By NAOMI ACKERMAN
12 May 2017
Romantic hopefuls looking for love may spend hours pouring over every last detail on their dating profile, from their headshot to their hobbies and interests.
But if you've been describing yourself as 'happy', 'trustworthy' or 'spontaneous' online, you may want to start from scratch as these adjectives have been revealed to be among the biggest turn-offs.
An in-depth study of 400,000 profiles has revealed the words women and men use to describe themselves on dating profiles that turn the other sex off.
But the results were not what singletons might have expected. Calling yourself 'shy' - and even 'happy' could be turning off potential mates while describing yourself as 'curvy', if you're a woman, is more likely to lead to a dinner date.
Unsurprisingly, it turns out both genders are looking for confidence in their other halves - so whether you're using an app or a website, shouting about your self worth is likely to work.
Conversely, just 0.3 per cent of men were attracted to women who boasted about being happy.
And it is not just men who apparently want to be able to make their partner content, rather than finding someone who is already feeling good about life - just 0.4 per cent of women were turned on by the idea of a happy man.
Another shock revelation was that 'curvy' is a turn on for men. The adjective was the eighth most attractive word for women to dub themselves.
DATING BUZZWORDS FOR MEN
DO USE
1. Honest / Honesty
2. Intelligent
3. Confident
4. Humorous
5. Romance / Romantic
6. Affectionate
7. Sexy
8. Spontaneous
9. Trust / Trustworthy
AVOID
10. Shy
11. Happy
12. Curvy
DATING BUZZWORDS FOR WOMEN
DO USE
1. Sexy
2. Honest / Honesty
3. Confident
4. Affectionate
5. Intelligent
6. Humorous
7. Romance / Romantic
8. Curvy
9. Spontaneous
AVOID
10. Shy
11. Trust / Trustworthy
12. Happy
"Women should call themselves 'sexy', 'honest' and 'confident' as these are the traits men want most"
But, perhaps because of its association with weight, only 0.6 per cent of women surveyed talked about their curves in their profiles.
Both genders are reportedly equally set on looking for outgoing dates, rather than shy ones - so daters should not talk about their introversion in dating profiles.
Confidence was third on both genders' wish lists, with seven per cent of men looking for an outgoing woman and nine per cent of women wanting a confident man.
But, perhaps surprisingly, women were even more likely than men to be turned off by a shy evening at the movies. Just one per cent of female daters (compared to two per cent of male daters) want a retiring date.
A predictable piece of feedback from the hundreds of thousands of men asked about their preferences is that most of them are looking for a sexy woman - and one who knows it.
Be outgoing at all costs: But, perhaps surprisingly, women were even more likely than men to be turned off by a shy evening at the movies. Just one per cent of female daters (compared to two per cent of male daters) want a retiring date
A whopping 15 per cent of male daters were looking for sexiness most in a potential partner - but, interestingly, women are put off by men boasting about their sexual prowess.
Instead they look for men who prize their honesty - 13 per cent of those surveyed said it would be the most important trait in a potential boyfriend.
The survey was commissioned by Christian Grant, head of website Illicit Encounters.
Mr Grant commented on the unexpected findings, saying: 'With so much competition, the world of online dating is all about fine margins; anything that's even slightly off-putting marks you as a liability.
'Many people struggle to strike the balance between confidence and arrogance, instead adopting an overly modest approach, but that rarely works. Who wants to go out with someone who describes themselves as shy and introverted? Nobody, that's who.
'It's no surprise to see that both men and women are looking for someone whose honest and confident.'
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