is marriage bad for women? single childless women in their 30s seem to look very young

[Manuel]

There are even right-wing economists like Thomas Sowell who claim that the so-called pay gap is solely due to marriage. And he backs this up by going all the way to the 20s and 40s in the US. He finds that women who were never married, made as much as men of any kind, married or otherwise. In fact, I think for PhDs and professors, women who were never married with PhDs made more on average than men with PhDs.

The key word is "never married" though. Divorced women are just as worse off as married women -- financially at least.

So it doesn't seem that marriage makes sense for women who want careers and financial success above all. Some women do all of those things - family, career, financial success, etc - so clearly, it is possible to do everything. But on average, if we're talking about trends, it's probably right to say that if u want to be a mother, your career will suffer a bit (and if you're a dude, your career will likely be boosted if you get married)

Maybe traditional morals and conventions (go to college, get a job, get married, have kids -- that kind of sequence) really is just too male-centric.

[TenaciousTopologist]

I can understand how not marrying is beneficial for women, however when children come into play there has to be some incentive (marriage is the current one- albeit not a very strong one given current the divorce rates) to keep the mother and father together. children of single mothers are far more likely to suffer from mental illnesses/irregular development than those raised in conventional households. When women don't getting married, the likelihood of a child being raised by a single mother sharply increases- and that is almost always bad for the child.

[Dandelion]

1 it doesnt last long
2 these 30something women will probably remain with breasts perkier than the 24 years old post partum

And you can get affection from a pet as well, with far less of the hassle.

[StonyArabia]

marriage is more valuable for women than for men in many societal and economic prospects as well for health.

[Dandelion]

Anti family propaganda

Yeah. If it's in the newspaper one is wise to remain sceptical.

[Dandelion]

im scared of everything . i couldnt do nursing because i cant touch someone s private parts

It's probably the result of a youth trauma. You still masturbate regardless, you even told so (but you don't go in while doing so probably). It seems you only trust yourself and can't get another person to enter that level because someone has severely broken your trust in the past.
Sure you aren't aromantic because of fear it might lead to more from the other side? Asexuals often are still hetero- or homoromantic after all.

[wvwvw]

Marriage is good for your psycological well being but bad for your figure apparently. Both men and women tend to become fatter after marriage.

[wvwvw]

marriage is more valuable for women than for men in many societal and economic prospects as well for health.

Actually the opposite is more true. Unmarried men risk early death more than women.

[crazyladybutterfly]

Marriage is good for your psycological well being but bad for your figure apparently. Both men and women tend to become fatter after marriage.

i guess for women it s pregnancy. not exactly pregnancy but the idea that your small fetus needs you to eat much more and that there s no wrong in soccumbing to every your culinary desire in those 9 months
so you have women gaining as much as 20 kg or more for a small little creature that weights around 1/2 kg lol

[Dandelion]

i guess for women it s pregnancy. not exactly pregnancy but the idea that your small fetus needs you to eat much more and that there s no wrong in soccumbing to every your culinary desire in those 9 months
so you have women gaining as much as 20 kg or more for a small little creature that weights around 1/2 kg lol

Marriage isn't enough indeed. You also need to have a child with your husband and then you have him pinned down. He can't divorce you without paying dearly in alimony and you can loosen your belt and become fat, even take a short 'spicy' haircut that's easier to maintain. He has nothing to stand on and his life will become a living hell, but heck, motherhood is taxing as it is. He shouldn't complain.

Also read this for tips.

First of all, it seems that you get a lot more than 50% of his income already. It might be difficult to get a significant increase in alimony when you probably earn more than 70% of his entire income, but it's not impossible. First of all, accept that his situation is likely true. He probably can't afford much after you wiped the floor with him in court. You can blackmail him, manipulate him, or just guide him, but inform him that he should just take on another job or two so he can pay for his own one room apartment. Make sure you tell him this in private, and that he takes it up. One job is good enough to earn more money, but if you’re a real *****, you can make him work three jobs. Once he is working at this jobs, thinking it is temporary, you quickly find a good lawyer and take him to court for an increase in alimony. Since he has three jobs, he’ll at the very least have to pay you the same percentage of income in all jobs. If you have a great lawyer, you can even make sure he is forced to pay you everything he gets from that job(s). Since he can now get food stamps, you can also increase the general percentage of alimony you can get from him. You will now have more alimony income, and this will be permanent, so he has to work these jobs for the rest of his life (no retirement). Accept that this will ruin his life completely, and you can do it easily. He will hardly be able to afford even one meal now. Also, according to the law, he will lose any custody of any child he has, and you will get full custody and an increase in child payments. This is because his financial environment is unsafe for children. The hardest thing about this is the emotional side, you are destroying a man’s life and owning him like a slave. If you can get over that, make sure he pays. You will forever live in luxury, even if he can hardly afford a bowl of porridge.

Betraying my gender here. I hope this won't give me bad karma.