Would you rather marry for brains, or for looks?

[Victor]

I agree. Personality.

Of course I notice looks first. I prefer all three.
But I would marry someone of lesser, average appearance (not ugly), or lesser, average intelligence (not dumb),
if the personality is right. So personality seems to be the most important.

I would prefer to marry a nice simpleton of average appearance, than a gorgeous intelligent sociopath.
So like most people, I think that personality is overall the most important.

I don't WANT a simpleton, this is NOT ideal, but if he is mentally healthy and cute & we mostly agree & he lets me be in charge,
then I will be smart enough for both of us, and he cannot do much damage. So brains are "least important".




Looks are the initial/most obvious category that qualifies or disqualifies, but is not the top priority. Here are my priorities:

First priority, someone who is physically and mentally healthy, not amoral/sociopathic (this is mentally unhealthy).

Second priority, someone who is at about the same level as I am, of intelligence, class, and attractiveness.
(I do not want a man notably higher or lower than I am, I would prefer to stay within my "caste")

Third priority, someone who is decently attractive and who arouses me.
(My physical standards are not very high.)

Fourth priority (usually the deciding factor), someone who shares my values, the basics.

Fifth priority, someone who is compatible with me, psychologically and astrologically.

Sixth priority, someone who satisfies me sexually and keeps up with me, in many areas of life, I am very energetic.

Seventh priority, someone who can lead the household, who is confident and assertive.

99% my thoughts. Thanks for texting, I'm not that patient to do the same via smartphone.

[Hektor12]

You know, "grief through wisdom", some extremely smart people are unbearable to be next to them.

Sure but i think it also depends on who you are. If youre a person speaking the same language, such people would better companions than standard people.

[Victor]

Sure but i think it also depends on who you are. If youre a person speaking the same language, such people would better companions than standard people.

Geniuses are often lone wolves. I guess they understand that they would realize themselves better staying alone and possibly they won't be compatible with majority of people, they're quite pragmatic not letting the passions take over them.

[Hektor12]

Geniuses are often lone wolves. I guess they understand that they would realize themselves better staying alone and possibly they won't be compatible with majority of people, they're quite pragmatic not letting the passions take over them.

Sure, and it begins at childhood. Its very disappointing while you grew up to see people arent as capable as you, can solve a basic problem it a simple way, or make problems out of nothing. You think that people are broken and bugged but in reality youre the one outstanding. That of course puts a barrier between you and "the people". But there are ways to relate yourself to people as well, if you know how to do, you do.