A question for female users: Would you be with a guy who went to a prostitute?

[Katarzyna]

Men use sex worker services for many reasons, from curiosity to satisfaction of their sexual needs if they cannot meet them elsewhere. I don’t see such men as losers or pervs - to each it’s own and it’s not my place to judge. As for the question, if it happened prior dating/marriage, was safe (no STDs), and was not a regular thing, I probably would not care much. Although most men would not admit it anyway.

Agree, and as long as he doesn’t brag about it. He should know that having sex with a prostitute isn’t an achievement. He isn’t a cooler chad now just because he finally lost his virginity.

[Petalpusher]

It's only gonna look very bad if the reason for it was because you had no other choice. No pre-selection clue is one of the worst trait guys display all the time without realizing (then they send dick pics). The exact reverse is true for women's own screening as well.

[RogueState]

I don't see why a rational man would admit it towards his GF/wife - it's usually something hidden and only kept in a safe space: between (male) friends when enjoying drinks and explaining how hot was the escort (the more "chic" current name for prostitutes, prostitutes sound dirty while escort sound more high-class entertainment nowadays)

[oszkar07]

There are lots of guys that have been to them and there are lots of gals that have worked as them.

It would be as expected in theory that most females will probably vote = No, and that is understandable.

However the Real Politik ie (in reality) most women would not know if the guy there with has ever been to them as
its most likely they would not tell.

I saw a podcast interview with a high class sex worker, in response to the question : what types of men attend the service
she said : there is no type , no stereotype... they are from all walks of life.

The British actor Hugh Grant was caught in USA with a street sex worker back in the 90's.

Celebrities who have been caught with hookers include movie stars, musicians, politicians, and athletes who have either been allegedly linked to call girls or been straight up caught with their pants down with a prostitute.
Celebrity hooker scandals are not limited to just movie, TV, and music stars, though the incidents with actors Hugh Grant, Eddie Murphy, Charlie Sheen, and Danny Bonaduce are among the most well known, with many walks of life (allegedly) turning to the ladies of the night for some action. Perhaps most notably, politicians are frequently the center of these scandals with the Eliot Spitzer, Barney Frank, Silvio Berlusconi, and even the United States Secret Service all coming under fire for their political sexcapades. Other famous people who have been caught with hookers include Vince Offer and Marv Albert.
Top professional athletes are no different. Few can forget the Tiger Woods hooker scandal or when baseball player Alex Rodriguez was linked to a prostitute. Heck, several members of the Minnesota Vikings NFL team did their deed (again, allegedly) en masse during a boat party in 2005.
https://www.ranker.com/list/celebrit...x-workers/greg

[Blondie]

To be honest i dont think that, i would worry about STD. But if this situation was long time ago, then im okay with it.

[tropicalslavic]

I don't see why a rational man would admit it towards his GF/wife - it's usually something hidden and only kept in a safe space: between (male) friends when enjoying drinks and explaining how hot was the escort (the more "chic" current name for prostitutes, prostitutes sound dirty while escort sound more high-class entertainment nowadays)

I think the fact that for these kinds of men, the assumption that a relationship is based in only things that are comfortable to admit and not the entire truth explains why a lot of women (including myself) just don't really see the point in even bothering with this kind of stuff since we don't need men for survival anymore. Admittedly I'm pretty jaded and burnt out by relationships (although contrary to internet tradition I don't have temper tantrums at random men about it), but seriously what's the point if people can't tell the truth about basic things? Is loneliness that hard for average people that they're willing to live like this? Genuine questions and not trying to pick a fight. Plus it feels like these kinds of men are the same types that would throw a fit if a woman felt guilty about previous boyfriends and said she had fewer of them (something I never understood - you either accept me or you don't, no one is worth lying). The relationships just feel so shallow.

[RogueState]

I think the fact that for these kinds of men, the assumption that a relationship is based in only things that are comfortable to admit and not the entire truth explains why a lot of women (including myself) just don't really see the point in even bothering with this kind of stuff since we don't need men for survival anymore. Admittedly I'm pretty jaded and burnt out by relationships (although contrary to internet tradition I don't have temper tantrums at random men about it), but seriously what's the point if people can't tell the truth about basic things? Is loneliness that hard for average people that they're willing to live like this? Genuine questions and not trying to pick a fight. Plus it feels like these kinds of men are the same types that would throw a fit if a woman felt guilty about previous boyfriends and said she had fewer of them (something I never understood - you either accept me or you don't, no one is worth lying). The relationships just feel so shallow.

Most men are not primarily motivated of having "an emotional partner with whom you can share everything", that's only a plus (and of course positive), primary reason is s*x (because men have very high sex drive (libido) due to high testosterone level, it's part of the reproductive instincts obviously).

Then of course, secondary reasons is the social needs of building a stable couple (marriage) and building a stable family (raise children, do houseworks). Then comes the emotional support later.

But being totally transparent and honest isn't mandatory for fulfilling these motivations (primal s*x), and even can be harmful (for building a long term couple and family) - partly because some things better left unsaid, partly also because a man showing too much his emotions/insecurities/lack of confidence on certain topics, can be perceived as weak.

Women on average have relatively less libido, so less sexual urges (compared to men), and they look rather status (physical - attractive men, social, financial, personality) and emotional compatibility to fill the void of loneliness (as life alone is more difficult for a woman emotionally and financially to cope) + women have shorter biological reproductive abilities, so they need to get children before 40 max (so they put the bar high in their prime, before 35, and then if not found the right one, will settle down even with low-value men just to get children and fulfill maternal instinct).

Women need more being in relationship with men, than the other way around, i.e. many men would be OK just to have f*ck friend without any commitment and couple "burdens"

Lastly, most men cannot escape the hundreds of thousands years old instinctive fear of not being certain to be the father, which created the fundamental psychological need to value virgin, honest, loyal, faithful, docile women.

Women with high body count, hiding her past, will always be perceived as low value and never there will be an equality with men with high body count - which is the contrary, is perceived as high value because able to attract women, thus good genetical material.

It's a deep anthropological feature that will take time to change, especially for us from the post-Abrahamic post-Mediterranean world, where the symbolic and unconscious ideal figure for women for thousand years was either the young virgin (unmarried) or the Mother (married) - there is no room in-between - Mary the Virgin, being at the same time Virgin and Mother (of Jesus) reached the paroxysmal level of idealized woman... hence her central figure

[tropicalslavic]

Most men are not primarily motivated of having "an emotional partner with whom you can share everything", that's only a plus (and of course positive), primary reason is s*x (because men have very high sex drive (libido) due to high testosterone level, it's part of the reproductive instincts obviously).

Then of course, secondary reasons is the social needs of building a stable couple (marriage) and building a stable family (raise children, do houseworks). Then comes the emotional support later.

But being totally transparent and honest isn't mandatory for fulfilling these motivations (primal s*x), and even can be harmful (for building a long term couple and family) - partly because some things better left unsaid, partly also because a man showing too much his emotions/insecurities/lack of confidence on certain topics, can be perceived as weak.

Women on average have relatively less libido, so less sexual urges (compared to men), and they look rather status (physical - attractive men, social, financial, personality) and emotional compatibility to fill the void of loneliness (as life alone is more difficult for a woman emotionally and financially to cope) + women have shorter biological reproductive abilities, so they need to get children before 40 max (so they put the bar high in their prime, before 35, and then if not found the right one, will settle down even with low-value men just to get children and fulfill maternal instinct).

Women need more being in relationship with men, than the other way around, i.e. many men would be OK just to have f*ck friend without any commitment and couple "burdens"

Lastly, most men cannot escape the hundreds of thousands years old instinctive fear of not being certain to be the father, which created the fundamental psychological need to value virgin, honest, loyal, faithful, docile women.

Women with high body count, hiding her past, will always be perceived as low value and never there will be an equality with men with high body count - which is the contrary, is perceived as high value because able to attract women, thus good genetical material.

It's a deep anthropological feature that will take time to change, especially for us from the post-Abrahamic post-Mediterranean world, where the symbolic and unconscious ideal figure for women for thousand years was either the young virgin (unmarried) or the Mother (married) - there is no room in-between - Mary the Virgin, being at the same time Virgin and Mother (of Jesus) reached the paroxysmal level of idealized woman... hence her central figure

I disagree with quite a lot of this but I respect your right to believe it. Quite frankly if everything you said was true it'd be a good argument for female celibacy. But I think it's unfortunately true for enough men that it's simply not worth it for women like me (non-codependent ones) to pursue relationships with men beyond friendships. I mean seriously. If what a woman gets out of a marriage is an STD farm who is not honest to her and who she has to clean up after and cook for, there's truly no point. Especially in a world where you have guns to protect you, the right to have a job and a bank account and property, etc.

But again I'm very jaded about love and marriage.