Humans are not meant to be monogamous

[MissMischief]

I don't believe humans are meant to be monogamous.

Based on the fact that we used to be cave men and women and men would typically have multiple partners in order to pass their lineage on, I believe that while we have clearly evolved from that, biology has still framed us to struggle with monogamy.

In many ways, I think we have animalistic tendencies when it comes to interpersonal relationships and that people will always struggle with looking for someone better because of natural selection and all that jazz.

Marriage, for example, is a social construct and legal contract more than anything. And, whether married or not, failed relationships and cheating is just way too prevalent to be coincidental. I think our bodies struggle with remaining loyal to one person, even if we are emotionally complex enough to realize that this is wrong.

While, from an idealistic stance, I think it's awesome to think we could find one partner who is "the one," and successfully remain with them indefinitely, I have a hard time believing that is indeed the case.

Thoughts?

[Benyzero]

I don't believe sexually we are meant to be monogamous, it's just social and cultural aspect.

[Marmara]

Coping?

[Voskos]

You cheated on him ?

[Blondie]

You needs Sharia, Mashallah

[MissMischief]

You cheated on him ?

Poligamy doesn't necessarily equate to infidelity.

If you speak to your partner about wanting to open up your relationship, about wanting to see other people and your partner agrees, then that's fine IMO.

If, however, you go behind your partner's back to see someone else, poviding your relationship isn't miserable, then you've just betrayed your partner.

There's nothing wrong with polygamy, but infidelity is lies and betrayal.

[CordedWhelp]

This is false. A false hope and a false dream.

Stop lowering yourselves to animals.

[Aldaris]

I agree that humans shouldn't be hastily labeled as exclusively monogamous species, but I think that that's actually where our biology leans under most circumstances. The categories are in reality not that strict anyway, monogamy vs polygamy thing is more like a spectrum and human behavior clearly has the characteristics of both. Our traits associated with monogamous mating system are not less animalistic though, they're still nothing but a result of our unique evolution.

[luc2112]

Sorry but your topic seems to be personal motivation and this is biased?

Based on the fact that we used to be cave men and women and men would typically have multiple partners in order to pass their lineage on

no

biology has still framed us to struggle with monogamy.

no

Marriage, for example, is a social construct and legal contract more than anything. And, whether married or not, failed relationships and cheating is just way too prevalent to be coincidental. I think our bodies struggle with remaining loyal to one person, even if we are emotionally complex enough to realize that this is wrong.

If the relationship went wrong the choice of partner was wrong, you commented an error!
Why did you justify the mistake with polygamy?
Why you only on relationships that went wrong?

Because you're ignoring the primate hierarchy, Alpha male and many females? Is favorable to the male?

[Óttar]

I agree. We are primates. See Sex At Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Human Sexuality.

When I'm ready to have a child, I will probably make a non-governmental business arrangement.