Single Mother (Reality Check)

[Colonel Frank Grimes]

...is anyone forcing you to do that? When I was single occasionally single dads would take interest in me. I never felt oppressed by it, nor did I feel a need to explain to them or anyone why I just wasn't interested. I just said no and moved on, never really thinking about it after the fact.

Obviously no one is forcing me to do so. I'm asking what would be the incentive for me to do so?

Obviously single dads will take an interest in a single woman. Men are motivated by sex and you had no children to add to their already existing responsibility.

Some men marry single mothers because they're single fathers, so it works well, or the woman is perhaps a widow or otherwise a good person who something bad happened to.

I honestly can't think of many examples of a Brady Bunch scenario.

[Victor]

Why would I raise another man's child/children? What incentive is there?

If you don't want to, you should not, that's normal. But I don't see a problem when two grown up people have sympathy towards each other and decide to be together, when one of them already has a child. All people have different stories of their life and they decide by themselves what they need. But I have a feeling that in most of extreme cases it's collision of very similar minded sides of two genders. And it's still more a Western thing, here this bs appears, too, but some ten years ago nobody would even notice if someone married a person with a child.

Often, especially if it's 30+ and older people, pure sexual motivation is not that frequent.

[tropicalslavic]

The other thing I'll say about this is that it kind of reminds me of when people seriously try to claim that women in their 20's are "groomed" into unproductive relationships with weirdo scrubby emotionally abusive men... like seriously? Except here it's, "won't somebody please think of the grown men who, in their right mind, willingly chose to enter relationships with low-class lazy single moms?". After a certain point, unless you have some mental disability, your choices are only your own... regardless of sex. If some guy lets himself get played by a manipulative single mom who just isn't a good person, who cares? It's not a societal issue or something that needs activism, they just need to stop choosing to be retards. Everyone acts like these grown ass adults are somehow being tricked into unproductive relationships when they're not. Accountability is zero these days.

[SilverKnight]

Both gender sides obsessed with this and similar topics are extremely insecure. I find "gender patriotism", all these feminists, macho-ists to be mentally unhealthy. Imagine thinking about all this, discussing it, having emotions about it like something important.

Simp

Right. Most normal people fall somewhere in the middle. I'm not a huge fan of gross generalizations. I've seen single mothers from all walks of life, including ones who were really good mothers and good wives until something bad happened, and I've also met trashbags who can't keep their legs closed or choose a good man to save their lives. And honestly usually the men obsessed with this topic are just hysterical, like no one is forcing you to date single moms, just ignore them? I don't make thread after thread about hoodrat black guys flirting with me in public because I just like... ignore them or tell them no, like a normal person? Lol. Gender patriots are socially maladjusted weirdos.

I been there done that, I don't recommend for any man to raise some other dude's kids. I mean there might be exceptions, but they are rare.

true, I am fond of incels as I am fond of wokists.

both are victim subcultures, though wokes are much more mainstream and officially approved politically and socially in the West, and much more vocal and visible, for which they are much more annoying

Simp

Why would I raise another man's child/children? What incentive is there?

LET the simps do it, they will learn their lesson at the end of the road.

[tropicalslavic]

Calling men simps for not being overly emotionally invested in the mere existence of single mothers is the same as when women start calling each other pickmes for like, just being nice to the men in their lives.

Healthy people don't do the gender patriotism and gender wars lol.

[SilverKnight]

You're just coping my chick.

Says married parent on your profile. Let's all hope it stays that way till death sets you both apart (as marriage should be). Don't mess it up, and if you're ever single don't expect for guys to want to be there for your kids right out. It will be a long journey on that sense.

Any guy with common sense and that respects himself will prioritize virgins, women that don't have kids. My wife was a virgin when we got married, no kids.. nada... all of her kids are 100% mine. Period.

[Victor]

Simp



I been there done that, I don't recommend for any man to raise some other dude's kids. I mean there might be exceptions, but they are rare.



Simp




LET the simps do it, they will learn their lesson at the end of the road.

What should it mean? Whose simp I am (a single person in my 30s) whose simp is Nurzat (a family guy) ? What is being a "non simp" ? Creating some communities, threads and discussing such topics over and over again like some mantra? Especially weird when it has nothing to do with the life of the person, for example I'm not married to single mother and have no plans for this, why would I be so obsessed with this topic or with someone else marrying a single mother?

[tropicalslavic]

You're just coping my chick.

Says married parent on your profile. Let's all hope it stays that way till death sets you both apart (as marriage should be). Don't mess it up, and if you're ever single don't expect for guys to want to be there for your kids right out. It will be a long journey on that sense.

Any guy with common sense and that respects himself will prioritize virgins, women that don't have kids. My wife was a virgin when we got married, no kids.. nada... all of her kids are 100% mine. Period.

...really weird amount of projection there. I wouldn't remarry even if I was widowed anyway. Lol

Men who are obsessed with virgins are weirdos, but to each his own. I was obsessed with virgin men when I was an insecure teenager but I ended up growing out of it when my confidence and mental health improved. Really not a hill I'm willing to die on with an internet stranger.

[tropicalslavic]

What should it mean? Whose simp I am (a single person in my 30s) whose simp is Nurzat (a family guy) ?

He feels threatened when there are men secure in themselves enough to not be upset by the mere existence of women they personally wouldn't date.

Male equivalent of those women who post 24/7 obsessively online about how men are worthless if they're not 6 feet tall making 6 figures or whatever the hell, as if anyone asked them.

[Victor]

He feels threatened when there are men secure in themselves enough to not be upset by the mere existence of women they personally wouldn't date.

Male equivalent of those women who post 24/7 obsessively online about how men are worthless if they're not 6 feet tall making 6 figures or whatever the hell, as if anyone asked them.

I was a member of local Russian chat when I was living in Serbia, there was some Russian woke feminist woman, almost 40 years old who was busy condemning patriarchate and all this shit, for her patriarchate was everything what is not feminist. I smell this obsession from 1 kilometer and I see no difference between women and men of this mentality. They're not pleasant to be next to, they're annoying to listen to, they're not relaxed, obsessed ones.