Dating w/ Age Differences

**D_Sheetz** · 06-05-2012, 08:25 PM

I just wanted everyone's opinions on how big of an age difference is acceptable within their relationships..I can see 5 or maybe 7 years tops, but anything over that is extremely odd IMO..I mean when you date you're either looking for something that will last or a random hookup, now the age difference wouldn't really matter for a hookup but if someone is in a committed relationship with someone 10+ years older than they are then they're just setting themselves up for weird looks in public and honestly an early widow life..

So IMO..5-7 years tops and anything over that leads me to think that one of the two people in that relationship has some sort of baggage or psychological issues of some kind..

**Lumi** · 06-05-2012, 08:34 PM

I dated a guy 10 years older than me. It worked just fine.
Well, until the age got to us when I turned 19... We both agreed that we should date people our own ages.
I'm now dating a 26 year old.

I think age is just a number. As long as both parties consent, why should anyone give a cahoots?

**Kazimiera** · 06-05-2012, 08:36 PM

If you love the person then it doesn't matter whether you get widowed early or not.

My first husband was 16 years older than myself and I could not have wished for a better husband.

**D_Sheetz** · 06-05-2012, 08:36 PM

Originally Posted by Lumi

I dated a guy 10 years older than me. It worked just fine.
Well, until the age got to us when I turned 19... We both agreed that we should date people our own ages.
I'm now dating a 26 year old.

I think age is just a number. As long as both parties consent, why should anyone give a cahoots?

I'm not saying you should care about what others thing about your dating preferences..I guess my question is what benefit is there to dating someone so who is at such an age difference than you..I don't see any benefit to be honest.

**~~Sikeliot~~** · 06-05-2012, 08:38 PM

Anywhere from two years younger to six years older.

**PetiteParisienne** · 06-05-2012, 08:43 PM

10 years would probably have been the limit for me. Beyond that, I would have been afraid of generational differences causing conflict and/or lack of common ground.

I am 26 and my husband is 24. He will be turning 25 next month.

**Kazimiera** · 06-05-2012, 08:44 PM

What benefit do you get from dating someone younger? If you love someone and you "click" then age does not matter.

My previous husband and I were the perfect match. He often got mistaken as my father, but we found it funny. People who knew us always used to call me the "child bride". We had some awesome times together. More so than I have ever had with anyone younger. He had done so much, had so many stories to tell. He led a very interesting life and kept me entertained for hours.

Also, there is emotional security in dating so much older than yourself. My husband had seen the world and done who and what there is to do. When I got him he had lived a life without getting married. He had so much more experience in knowing what he wanted in a relationship. He'd been in enough to know what he wants and what he doesn't.

All people have emotional baggage. Some more, some less. I've met some 20 year olds with enough emotional baggage to sink a container ship.

**SilverKnight** · 06-05-2012, 08:48 PM

Everyone is free to date what ever date they want offcourse if he/she is a minor dating way over their age then it's wrong as they are just learning about the world. In the case of an adult it doesn't matter, but I would never personally date a women who's 15 years above my age. ^^

**Hurrem sultana** · 06-05-2012, 08:50 PM

5 years

**D_Sheetz** · 06-05-2012, 08:54 PM

Originally Posted by Loony

What benefit do you get from dating someone younger? If you love someone and you "click" then age does not matter.

My previous husband and I were the perfect match. He often got mistaken as my father, but we found it funny. People who knew us always used to call me the "child bride". We had some awesome times together. More so than I have ever had with anyone younger. He had done so much, had so many stories to tell. He led a very interesting life and kept me entertained for hours.

Also, there is emotional security in dating so much older than yourself. My husband had seen the world and done who and what there is to do. When I got him he had lived a life without getting married. He had so much more experience in knowing what he wanted in a relationship. He'd been in enough to know what he wants and what he doesn't.

All people have emotional baggage. Some more, some less. I've met some 20 year olds with enough emotional baggage to sink a container ship.

Yes, everyone has emotional baggage..but let me ask you something Loony..wouldn't you have rather experienced the world with your husband rather than experiencing those things separately?