When Should a Woman Have Children?

[Skandi]

The Lady does have some good advice, try babysitting some young kids it might help him feel more comfortable with it. And if not then it will give you some good things to think about.

I hate children myself! So I can't see that happening besides I don't know anyone under the age of 20. I don't mind waiting if it is just time but there are other issues with him too, he would NOT fit in on this board for example, but it is difficult to just leave for "no good reason"

[Mrs Ulf]

I hate children myself! So I can't see that happening besides I don't know anyone under the age of 20. I don't mind waiting if it is just time but there are other issues with him too, he would NOT fit in on this board for example, but it is difficult to just leave for "no good reason"

Well I'd have to say that its really up to your feelings. You should make yourself happy and not stick around just because you don't have a good reason. If you really don't see it working out you sort of owe it to him to at least talk about that.

A good reason is you just don't see it working out, you don't want to waste his time as well as yours. I don't really know your situation completely but you need to make sure that you see things in the future that are good. I have a few Aunt's that stick around because they don't have a "good reason" but their not happy. Just make sure your happy.

[Tabiti]

Well, girls, you only need males to "produce" children, not husbands at all. So, if you want children - go on and don't trust any selfish males, since they won't be good fathers. Yes, it's quite hard to be lonely mother, but better than desperate housewife. I know single mothers who suffered a lot in the past, but now are happy because their life went that way.

[Absinthe]

Well, girls, you only need males to "produce" children, not husbands at all. So, if you want children - go on and don't trust any selfish males, since they won't be good fathers. Yes, it's quite hard to be lonely mother, but better than desperate housewife. I know single mothers who suffered a lot in the past, but now are happy because their life went that way.

I totally agree in theory but I would only go for it if living in welfare states that are supportive to parenthood, especially single mothers....

You and me, coming from the Balkans, you know what will happen to us:

1)

On a social level, we'll be gossiped about as the "whores" and our children will be called "bastards" by their classmates in school.

Hell, I was even called a "bastard" because my parents where divorced, even though I was born in wedlock, well I guess it was because getting divorced was still seen as unacceptable back in the 80's.

2)

On a proffesional level, at least in Greece, not only there are no laws to protect motherhood but, especially in the public sector, you also get punished for becoming a mother.

I know a lot of companies that make you sign a contract that you will not become pregnant while working for them, or else they will fire you, and I also know a lot of companies (including the one I most recently worked for) that fired new mothers instantly after their motherhood leave had ended.

3)

On a family level, it basically means you'll be depended on your parents for the rest of your life, that is, if you're even lucky enough to have parents that are so kind to take care of your baby while you're at work, and support you financially, and/or host you at their house indefinitely.

So....not really an option for me, at least not in Grekistan, no thanks

[Vulpix]

I know a lot of companies that make you sign a contract that you will not become pregnant while working for them, or else they will fire you, and I also know a lot of companies (including the one I most recently worked for) that fired new mothers instantly after their motherhood leave had ended.

! That sucks .

[Absinthe]

It does, let alone *state benefits* for mothers is a concept altogether unknown in Grekistan, as is benefits for the ill, for the disabled, etc...

[Amarantine]

When they feel they wanted to meet small, cute Angels

[LouisFerdinand]

Married women having children between the ages of 22 to 25

[Ziveth]

I'm interested to hear what you all think is the appropriate situation for a woman to have children. Obviously it takes a little help from the man, but is marriage necessary? Does having children in or out of wedlock matter to you? What is the proper age for a woman to have kids of her own -- are teenagers who become pregnant too young to handle it? For those who already have children, did your experiences match your plans or ideals?

If you don't want kids, please feel free to explain why.

I think a couple should no have kids before marriage and i think marriage is necessary. Teenagers shouldn't get pregnant, they should pay more attention. Raise a kid is not a joke, need responsibility (and also money, which teenagers don't have, because they go to school and not work). A proper age for a woman to have kids i think is from 28 to 35 years.

[Sekarotuinen]

Whever she wants