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Although I am not really an extreme introvert, I definitely recognize myself in this too. I never had problems speaking to a crowd. Funny thing because I remember doing a project with a very extroverted friend/classmate. She was soo nervous that she couldn't speak. I didn't get it. Because she was always so extroverted and very very social. I ended up doing the entire presentation and got a good grade as well.
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I answered no to all the signs of being an introvert, for anyone that has scratched the surface of my character will agree that I am an extrovert.
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Introverts are notoriously small talk-phobic, as they find idle chatter to be a source of anxiety, or at least annoyance. For many quiet types, chitchat can feel disingenuous.“Let's clear one thing up: Introverts do not hate small talk because we dislike people," Laurie Helgoe writes in "Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength." "We hate small talk because we hate the barrier it creates between people.”
speak for yourself. I hate people. I hate society. Very rare is the human I see as fully human, most are like animals.
2. You go to parties -– but not to meet people.I love meeting people, it leads to making money. It's hard work but it pays off in opportunities. Yes it tires me out though... and is awkward.
If you're an introvert, you may sometimes enjoy going to parties, but chances are, you're not going because you're excited to meet new people. At a party, most introverts would rather spend time with people they already know and feel comfortable around. If you happen to meet a new person that you connect with, great -- but meeting people is rarely the goal.
yeah.
3. You often feel alone in a crowd.
Ever feel like an outsider in the middle of social gatherings and group activities, even with people you know?
"If you tend to find yourself feeling alone in a crowd, you might be an introvert," says Dembling. "We might let friends or activities pick us, rather than extending our own invitations."
4. Networking makes you feel like a phony.
Networking (read: small-talk with the end goal of advancing your career) can feel particularly disingenuous for introverts, who crave authenticity in their interactions.
"Networking is stressful if we do it in the ways that are stressful to us," Dembling says, advising introverts to network in small, intimate groups rather than at large mixers.
I do it better on facebook than in person.
5. You've been called "too intense."I just always assumed the girls saying that were whores who wanted to be fucked and forgotten, rather than think about things and get to know people. And same for the guys saying it.
Do you have a penchant for philosophical conversations and a love of thought-provoking books and movies? If so, you're a textbook introvert.
"Introverts like to jump into the deep end," says Dembling.
no I'm not ... brb puppies howling.
6. You're easily distracted.
you think?
While extroverts tend to get bored easily when they don't have enough to do, introverts have the opposite problem -- they get easily distracted and overwhelmed in environments with an excess of stimulation.
"Extroverts are commonly found to be more easily bored than introverts on monotonous tasks, probably because they require and thrive on high levels of stimulation," Clark University researchers wrote in a paper published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. "In contrast, introverts are more easily distracted than extroverts and, hence, prefer relatively unstimulating environments."
yeah... definitely.7. Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.
One of the most fundamental characteristics of introverts is that they need time alone to recharge their batteries. Whereas an extrovert might get bored or antsy spending a day at home alone with tea and a stack of magazines, this sort of down time feels necessary and satisfying to an introvert.
eh. I'll never get that far in life. so quit sugarcoating the bullshit.
8. Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards.
Introverts can be excellent leaders and public speakers -- and although they're stereotyped as being the shrinking violet, they don't necessarily shy away from the spotlight. Performers like Lady Gaga, Christina Aguilera and Emma Watson all identify as introverts, and an estimated 40 percent of CEOs have introverted personalities. Instead, an introvert might struggle more with meeting and greeting large groups of people on an individual basis.
doesn't everyone do that?
9. When you get on the subway, you sit at the end of the bench -– not in the middle.
Whenever possible, introverts tend to avoid being surrounded by people on all sides.
"We're likely to sit in places where we can get away when we're ready to -- easily," says Dembling. "When I go to the theater, I want the aisle seat or the back seat."
10. You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.
Do you start to get tired and unresponsive after you've been out and about for too long? It's likely because you’re trying to conserve energy. Everything introverts do in the outside world causes them to expend energy, after which they'll need to go back and replenish their stores in a quiet environment, says Dembling. Short of a quiet place to go, many introverts will resort to zoning out.
yeah. is this really so odd?
11. You're in a relationship with an extrovert.I like riding her fun bubble, but I don't think that she's an extrovert...
It's true that opposites attract, and introverts frequently gravitate towards outgoing extroverts who encourage them to have fun and not take themselves too seriously.
"Introverts are sometimes drawn to extroverts because they like being able to ride their 'fun bubble,'" Dembling says.
I'm an expert at a lot of things. but I'm also in the 99.99th percentile of human intelligence.12. You'd rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything.
The dominant brain pathways introverts use is one that allows you to focus and think about things for a while, so they’re geared toward intense study and developing expertise, according to Olsen Laney.
yes. homosexual prison rape, is more terrifying. dying alone is more terrifying. this article must have been written for american women, seriously. whiny cunts.
13. You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation.
Because really, is anything more terrifying?
there's not enough time on the planet to waste it on every asshole.
14. You screen all your calls -- even from friends.
You may not pick up your phone even from people you like, but you’ll call them back as soon as you’re mentally prepared and have gathered the energy for the conversation.
"To me, a ringing phone is like having somebody jump out of a closet and go 'BOO!,'" says Dembling. "I do like having a long, nice phone call with a friend -- as long as it's not jumping out of the sky at me."
I think that's why I'm a TA member...15. You notice details that others don't.
The upside of being overwhelmed by too much stimuli is that introverts often have a keen eye for detail, noticing things that may escape others around them. Research has found that introverts exhibit increased brain activity when processing visual information, as compared to extroverts.
it really depends. I'm able to take small talk and be free and open with my speech, when I'm well rested or well caffeinated. It's the gift of gab an all.16. You have a constantly running inner monologue.
“Extroverts don’t have the same internal talking as we do,” says Olsen Laney. “Most introverts need to think first and talk later."
17. You have low blood pressure.
A 2006 Japanese study found that introverts tend to have lower blood pressure than their extroverted counterparts.
lulz. I try not to be constantly in a hurry, I take my time and do things right. and I spend time alone, meditating, sipping tea, etc. Or playing with my puppies. Of course I have low stress. I can't function with high stress.
18. You’ve been called an “old soul” -– since your 20s.FUCKING THIS.HOW DID THEY KNOW THAT ABOUT ME?
Introverts observe and take in a lot of information, and they think before they speak, leading them to appear wise to others.
"Introverts tend to think hard and be analytical," says Dembling. "That can make them seem wise."
parties are boring ...
19. You don't feel "high" from your surroundings
Neurochemically speaking, things like huge parties just aren’t your thing. Extroverts and introverts differ significantly in how their brains process experiences through "reward" centers.
Researchers demonstrated this phenomenon by giving Ritalin -- the ADHD drug that stimulates dopamine production in the brain -- to introverted and extroverted college students. They found that extroverts were more likely to associate the feeling of euphoria achieved by the rush of dopamine with the environment they were in. Introverts, by contrast, did not connect the feeling of reward to their surroundings. The study "suggests that introverts have a fundamental difference in how strongly they process rewards from their environment, with the brains of introverts weighing internal cues more strongly than external motivational and reward cues," explained LiveScience's Tia Ghose.
I thought this was a cultural thing related to recent immigration from the british isles... hm.20. You look at the big picture.
When describing the way that introverts think, Jung explained that they're more interested in ideas and the big picture rather than facts and details. Of course, many introverts excel in detail-oriented tasks -- but they often have a mind for more abstract concepts as well.
"Introverts do really enjoy abstract discussion," says Dembling.
yeah. I used to have "friends" who would try to "fix" me too. and I'd get in trouble for reading ahead of the class in group reading... not my fault everybody else was stupid.
21. You’ve been told to “come out of your shell.”
Many introverted children come to believe that there's something "wrong" with them if they're naturally less outspoken and assertive than their peers. Introverted adults often say that as children, they were told to come out of their shells or participate more in class.
22. You’re a writer.
Introverts are often better at communicating in writing than in person, and many are drawn to the solitary, creative profession of writing. Most introverts -- like "Harry Potter" author J.K. Rowling -- say that they feel most creatively charged when they have time to be alone with their thoughts.
um. yeah. I'm a writer. So what?
23. You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity.pretty damn generic ...
Introverts can move around their introverted “set point” which determines how they need to balance solitude with social activity. But when they move too much -- possibly by over-exerting themselves with too much socializing and busyness -- they get stressed and need to come back to themselves, according Olsen Laney. This may manifest as going through periods of heightened social activity, and then balancing it out with a period of inwardness and solitude.
"There's a recovery point that seems to be correlated with how much interaction you've done," says Dembling. "We all have our own private cycles."
I'm looking for people like me, who are crazy, fun, and not afraid of life. and one day when I find them, we'll escape, we'll break out of the zoo.
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I'm the same way, my classmates in junior high and high school would call me stuck up, because they misunderstood my attitude.
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7 ways to become an extrovert.
Stop undervaluing extroversion. You might think being an extrovert is "too much hassle" but it does have its benefits (as does introversion). You don’t have to give up the introvert activities you enjoy. In fact, when you balance them with more social activities, you may find them even more satisfying. After several nights of being around people, you might really look forward to a night by yourself to read, meditate, write, etc.
Enhance your career - By networking, you have more job opportunities available to you, and you're more likely to get a position that gives you the experience and/or package you prefer. Whether we like it or not, there's some truth to the phrase "It's not what you know, it's who you know."
Find your soulmate - If you have had trouble meeting someone who's compatible with you, then expanding your circle of friends is one way to increase the probability of meeting that special someone.
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Envision the type of extrovert you’d like to emulate. If you find the extroverted people around you shallow and perhaps even annoying, why would you want to be more like them? You wouldn’t. Maybe your vision of an extrovert is an in-your-face salesperson who only wants to build a shallow relationship with you so they could sell you something. But you needn’t choose such a limited vision for yourself — you’re free to form your own vision of a positive way to be more extroverted.
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Find the right social group for you. Why would you want to spend more time with people you don’t like? If acting more extroverted means spending more time with people you’d rather avoid, you’ll have no motivation to do it. Again, you’re free to form a social group that you’d love to be a part of. Consciously consider the types of people you’d want to have as friends. There’s no rule that says this has to be your peers or co-workers. Don’t be afraid to stretch beyond the most obvious peer group and hang out with people from different ages, neighborhoods, cultures, countries, etc. You might find the variety to be a lot of fun.
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Develop your social skills. One reason many people shy away from social activities is that they don’t feel comfortable because they don’t know what to do, especially if the unexpected were to occur. Being able to start up a conversation with a stranger AND feel completely comfortable doing it is a learn able skill. The more you do it, the better you get at it. Embrace the fact that you’re out of your element, and don’t compare yourself to others. One approach you might find extremely effective is to ask the other person how s/he got started in his/her current line of work. 80-90% of the time the person will say something like, “Well, that’s an interesting story….” And you might genuinely like hearing these stories. A small amount of practice can go a long way to making the next time you meet someone a bit easier. Approach your social abilities the way a student would approach a class, or an athlete would approach a sport. Do your homework, give yourself assignments, and test yourself until you get it right:
Look approachable
Introduce yourself
Have a great conversation
Flirt
Ask someone out on a date
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Take your social life offline. Online socializing has its place in your life, but it can be a pale shadow compared to face-to-face communication. Voice and body language can communicate a lot more than text, and emotional bonds can be easier and faster to establish in person. You don’t have to do away with online socializing, but neither must you allow it to crowd out meeting people locally. Instead, see if you can use the Internet as a starting point for real life friendships. Many introverts have no trouble socializing online; in that environment they’re able to play from their strengths. But you can also use your strengths consciously as leverage to branch out into more face-to-face socializing. If you use forums, for example, you could focus on local ones and search for opportunities to meet up offline.
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Join a club. It’s old advice, but it still works. The advantage is that you’ll find people who share similar interests, which makes it easier to build new relationships. One good club can fill your social calendar. If you join a club and find that it’s not right for you, quit and join something else. You may go through a number of local social groups that just don't resonate with you (too boring, too slow, too disorganized, too many alcoholics). But one good group is all you need.
Join or start a book club. This is a great way to turn a solitary activity into a social one.
Join a band. If you play an instrument or sing, find a group you can harmonize with. Not only will you meet them, but if your band gets really good, people will introduce themselves to you.
Join Mensa. Having trouble finding people who can hold a conversation with you? This might be your ticket to friendship.
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Think of relationships in terms of what you can give, not in terms of what you can get. If you seek to build new relationships based on mutual giving and receiving, you’ll have no shortage of friends. Identify people with whom you’d like to build a relationship, and start by giving. For instance, geeky knowledge is actually a tremendous strength when it comes to socializing because there are an awful lot of non-geeks who’d like to understand geeky stuff better, and you can explain it to them in ways they’ll understand. Think about it: What can you bring to a relationship that will be of benefit to someone else? When you figure out what that is (and it’s probably many different things), you’ll have an easier time attracting new friends into your life.
Have you noticed that if you rearrange the letters in ‘illegal immigrants’, and add just a few more letters, it spells, ‘Go home you free-loading, benefit-grabbing, resource-sucking, baby-making, non-English-speaking ********* and take those other hairy-faced, sandal-wearing, bomb-making, camel-riding, goat-f*****g raghead c***s with you.?
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