Why Do Gay Couples Usually Have A More Masculine And More Feminine Looking Partner?

[Anglojew]

One thing I've never understood about gay couples is why, almost without fail, one partner is more masculine and one more feminine?

This leads to the question of why a woman, attracted to a more masculine woman, wouldn't be attracted to a man? Likewise, I've also never understood why you'd be attracted to an effeminate man but not a woman?

Celebrity examples;

http://cdn01.cdn.justjared.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/degeneres-glaad/ellen-degeneres-glaad-media-awards-with-portia-de-rossi-06.jpg

http://www.dailynewsen.com/images/haberler/johnny_weir_takes_dog_as_sobbing_husband_watches_m 5.jpg

[RussiaPrussia]

its their genes to adapt roles, feminine and masculine, its nature

[Anglojew]

its their genes to adapt roles, feminine and masculine, its nature

Couldn't we say the same thing about heterosexuality?

Can you answer the question in more detail? I find it fascinating.

[SkyBurn]

Some couples try to model their relationships on a heteronormative ideal. Slightly unhealthy IMO, but it depends on the couple and the circumstances.

[Vermicious Knid]

its their genes to adapt roles, feminine and masculine, its nature

This.

It is NOT because they are pressured to fit in with society's heterosexual norm, as a previous poster suggested. It is because, even though they are gay for whatever reason, it is instinctive and hard-wired in to their brains to go for a feminine looking partner.

[McCauley]

Homosexuality is not real, there is no such thing as a legitimate "homosexual". It's basically just a social preference.

[Raikaswinþs]

Those are simplu the ones that you can easily identify as homosexual couples precisely because you can pinpoint who is the masculine and whois the femenine. In my experience, out of 50 couples, a heterosexual can recognise a 5-10% max , since what we are looking for is limited by our own conceptions of sexuality. If you looked at other details, such as eye connection and other subtle things , you'd be suprised the ammount of gay people that are around you and you could never tell they were gay just because you did not see what you were looking for.

[Raikaswinþs]

Homosexuality is not real, there is no such thing as a legitimate "homosexual". It's basically just a social preference.

False statement and completely debunked by science. I agree with the second part, homosexuality is a social preference, as it is heterosexuality. But both tendencies and other more complex ones are natural to humans before we organized ourselves into societies bigger than tribal. Check it out, even if almost extint, there are still a few hunter-gatherer societies in remote corners of the globe, you will not be able to ignore or deny what you will see,

[Prisoner Of Ice]

They do seem very confused, but whatever.

[Sikeliot]

I've never been in a relationship where one of us was more masculine or more feminine than the other, but I always tend to be the parent-like, provider role in the relationship and the other person the cared for/taken care of one.

[Longbowman]

The same is true of most straight relationships.

[Kalimtari]

they mimic the hetero archetypes

[michelle]

There are many "types" in the homosexual community. I've seen masculine Leather Daddies with Leather Daddies, Leather Daddies with feminine Twinks, masculine Bears with Leather Daddies, Twinks with Twinks as well as mainstream dudes with mainstream dudes. Just depends on the individual's preference just as it is in heterosexual relationships.

[Kalimtari]

There are many "types" in the homosexual community. I've seen masculine Leather Daddies with Leather Daddies, Leather Daddies with feminine Twinks, masculine Bears with Leather Daddies, Twinks with Twinks as well as mainstream dudes with mainstream dudes. Just depends on the individual's preference just as it is in heterosexual relationships.

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:P

[zhaoyun]

I've noticed the same trend too. I think it's just a general human rule that opposites attract. You can see this is almost any pairing of human beings. I've seen this in hetero couples too, sometimes the guy is the one who is a real wimp and the woman tends to be overbearing.

[EnglishIslander]

A lot of the time, not all of the time, i've noticed homosexual men "pretend" to be masculine as it attracts more men to you. Gay men, from my personal experience and from what i've seen, prefer manly men and don't want feminine men. Not always the case. In reality, couples tend to be very similar in appearance and in the way they act. In all of my relationships we have both been feminine in some aspects, but masculine in some aspects. I think gay men find it easier to get in touch with their feminine side and arent afraid to show it. Some masculine gays do not want to appear feminine as to them it shows weakness. I can understand that. Straight men who are straight tend to view effeminate gays as week and an easy target, they don't dare mess with a Masculine gay. I think really it all depends on how comfortable you are in your own skin.

In my relationship, both me and my partner have a pretty balanced portion of masculinity and femininity. I quite like that tbh

[Svipdag]

I have seen a number of gay couples in which I couldn't tell who was the "top" and who the "bottom" or if they were (as is less common) both "AC/DC". For some reason I've not been able to fathom, they show up often in Architectural Digest. Often, somewhere in the article, one of them is mentioned as "his husband", and sometimes I've been surprised at which it was.

[armenianbodyhair]

I think there might be some correlation with who is dom and who isn't. Not like a rule though. That's probably more common than both people being switch.

[SobieskisavedEurope]

One thing I've never understood about gay couples is why, almost without fail, one partner is more masculine and one more feminine?

This leads to the question of why a woman, attracted to a more masculine woman, wouldn't be attracted to a man? Likewise, I've also never understood why you'd be attracted to an effeminate man but not a woman?

Celebrity examples;

http://cdn01.cdn.justjared.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/degeneres-glaad/ellen-degeneres-glaad-media-awards-with-portia-de-rossi-06.jpg


Which one is the feminine one Ellen Degenerate or Porta potty de rossi!?

[LightHouse89]

disgusting. what a waste of a blonde woman. ellen is ugly but that other woman.............what a waste.

[LightHouse89]

The same is true of most straight relationships.

that's true. I notice the more dominant female works full time while the dad is a stay at home, usually useless feminine type. :p