Seraph of the End
02-03-2015, 10:02 PM
I came across this question in one of my Sociology classes.
So what is it about? In 1972 the eminent sociologist Jessie Bernard suggested in her famous book ‘The Future of Marriage’ that men fare much better in marriage than women. She claimed that every marriage can be separated into his marriage and hers marriage and that “his marriage”, more often than not, is better than “hers” in all aspects (demographically, socially and psychologically).
Basically, this is what she found out in her research:
Married men:
1. in most cases they are satisfied with their marriage (and happier with it than their wives)
2. they live longer than unmarried men
3. they are healthier than unmarried men and have higher reported levels of mental wellbeing
4. their careers tend to go upwards after marriage, and they are more likely to be employed if they are married than if they are single
5. their social status and reputation improve after marriage
Married women:
1. more women report negative feelings about their marriage and consider divorce
2. their lives are shorter than the lives of unmarried women
3. they are prone to depression and anxiety, thus have much poorer mental and emotional health compared to their husbands and unmarried women
4. their careers tend to stagnate/end after marriage
5. they are less educated than unmarried women
6. their social status is lower than the status of unmarried women
Also, in some other researches it was discovered that among the divorced, men are more apt to suffer from emotional loneliness than women. The researchers found men felt it more important to “have a partner than do women.”
Some other (newer) researches had been done after this one and they had different results. Their main argument was that women today have more rights than the women from 70s and that they ‘suffer’ less in their marriages. They also said that this problem is more complex, and cannot be explained one-sidedly.
Some links that talk about this issue: http://lifecourse.anu.edu.au/publications/Discussion_papers/NLCDP012.pdf
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/vicki-larson/his-hers-marriage_b_3129269.html
http://jama.jamanetwork.com/article.aspx?articleid=193378
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What do you think about this? Is the situation different today? Do you agree with mentioned results or do you think they’re not reality-based? What is your personal opinion on the marriage?
So what is it about? In 1972 the eminent sociologist Jessie Bernard suggested in her famous book ‘The Future of Marriage’ that men fare much better in marriage than women. She claimed that every marriage can be separated into his marriage and hers marriage and that “his marriage”, more often than not, is better than “hers” in all aspects (demographically, socially and psychologically).
Basically, this is what she found out in her research:
Married men:
1. in most cases they are satisfied with their marriage (and happier with it than their wives)
2. they live longer than unmarried men
3. they are healthier than unmarried men and have higher reported levels of mental wellbeing
4. their careers tend to go upwards after marriage, and they are more likely to be employed if they are married than if they are single
5. their social status and reputation improve after marriage
Married women:
1. more women report negative feelings about their marriage and consider divorce
2. their lives are shorter than the lives of unmarried women
3. they are prone to depression and anxiety, thus have much poorer mental and emotional health compared to their husbands and unmarried women
4. their careers tend to stagnate/end after marriage
5. they are less educated than unmarried women
6. their social status is lower than the status of unmarried women
Also, in some other researches it was discovered that among the divorced, men are more apt to suffer from emotional loneliness than women. The researchers found men felt it more important to “have a partner than do women.”
Some other (newer) researches had been done after this one and they had different results. Their main argument was that women today have more rights than the women from 70s and that they ‘suffer’ less in their marriages. They also said that this problem is more complex, and cannot be explained one-sidedly.
Some links that talk about this issue: http://lifecourse.anu.edu.au/publications/Discussion_papers/NLCDP012.pdf
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/vicki-larson/his-hers-marriage_b_3129269.html
http://jama.jamanetwork.com/article.aspx?articleid=193378
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What do you think about this? Is the situation different today? Do you agree with mentioned results or do you think they’re not reality-based? What is your personal opinion on the marriage?