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Marusya
06-07-2015, 08:18 PM
There is a new movement to "encourage" husbands to pay their wives a salary... The husband as employer???

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When feminists demanded that men “value the work women do as wives and mothers,” said Mary Elizabeth Williams in Salon.com, “I’m not sure this is what we meant.” On Manhattan’s elite Upper East Side, glamorous stay-at-home moms—or “Glam SAHMs”—are now apparently being paid an annual “wife bonus” by their rich Wall Street husbands based on their performance as mothers and homemakers. This revelation comes to us from anthropologist Wednesday Martin, author of a new book titled Primates of Park Avenue—her insider study of Glam SAHM life. In this feminist dystopia, said Amanda Marcotte in Slate.com, the five- or six-figure wife bonus is paid out based on how well she manages the home budget, the kids’ quests to get into the best schools, and of course her own performance in the bedroom. So these Park Avenue princesses obsessively exercise and strive to look a decade younger than they are. In this utterly cynical version of marriage, “your husband is your employer.”

http://www.salon.com/2015/05/18/forget_push_prizes_here_comes_the_wife_bonus/

http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2015/05/18/some_rich_housewives_earn_wife_bonuses_it_s_the_lo gical_result_of_calling.html

I’m one of the women who get a wife bonus, said Polly Phillips in the New York Post, and I’m proud of it. When I surrendered my own lucrative job to start a family and support my husband’s oil-company career, we agreed that he’d give me a 20 percent cut of his annual company bonus. “To me, there can be nothing more feminist” than our arrangement. Managing the cooking and cleaning, and raising our 19-month-old daughter “is just as worthy of a wage as going out to a job outside the home.” She has a point, said Tracy Moore in Jezebel.com. Until now, women have done the grueling housework and childcare in return for unspecified support. So if the smart wife of a rich guy “runs her home like a CEO and gets paid big bucks to do it, has she not pulled off the ultimate lean-in?”

http://nypost.com/2015/05/28/i-love-my-wife-bonus-deal-with-it/
http://jezebel.com/rich-ladies-who-get-wife-bonuses-are-your-new-favorite-1705298783



“It’s not getting paid for work that’s necessarily condescending or sexist,” said Alyssa Rosenberg in WashingtonPost.com. It’s that husbands are “doling that money out like a year-end treat, rather than delivering it regularly like the wage that it is.” Women shouldn’t have to depend on the good will of their husbands to be compensated for taking on family responsibilities that belong to both partners. “So down with the wife bonus”—and up with the wife salary.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/act-four/wp/2015/05/29/women-shouldnt-get-wife-bonuses-they-should-get-salaries/

Petalpusher
06-07-2015, 08:42 PM
"runs her home like a CEO" I like the idea. You can also just believe in shared accounts.

Smitty
06-07-2015, 08:48 PM
It's not as if husbands are keeping their wages for themselves (perhaps in isolated cases, but that's not the norm). The money goes towards the household as a whole.

Kazimiera
06-07-2015, 09:02 PM
In the case of one breadwinner with the other partner at home (regardless if it is a stay-at-home mom or dad) it is only decent to give your partner some spending money. If I was the breadwinner and my husband was home I would definitely give him money to do with as he pleased. Not as a salary since we are in a marriage and not a business arrangement.

If somebody supports one partner paying the other a salary, then the paying party should also grant the other leave and over-time just like other employees would get.