Eugene Finkelstein
06-19-2018, 08:37 PM
The question is as follows.
A few years ago I make holiday for myself on the issue of my third jubilee (30 years). Approximately at the same time I mover, for a various reasons, from Ukraine to Cambodia.
I don't have kids as for now. Moreover, as I stated in my post in the "sibling" topic, I am the only child in the family and both of my parents are also the single children in their families. So we're in extreme decline, demographically =)
But actually, it's not the thing I am worry for.
I still have no children. But, unlike other males, from around the time I turn 30, I became extremely obsessed by wanting to get, well, at least one and no more than two children. I am surely not rich, but of good financial standing. I have time (I am working in production design for Russian, Ukrainian, Belarussian, and Kazakhi companies through Internet - at home, no need to "go somewhere" for work) and I can manage freely It for myself.
So, I am capable of raising a child, from time and finance perspectives, but I don't have a child to raise...
Also, I really want a Jewish women to be the mother of my children. But in Cambodia, well... here are some expats, from European and Northern American countries, but, you know, they are largely men, not women, and they are not many in numbers - Cambodia isn't Singapore or Hong Kong ))))) It's not a very popular destination for expats... And certainly not from Jewish environment... Being a "post-Soviet" Jew, I am also not a very good proposition for a Jewish wife from the US or Israel (two developed and rich countries which hosts nearly 80% of worldwide Jewish population)....
And from this perspective, I really don't know what to do... Adoption? But maybe thus children would be from, well, not very good environment... Surrogacy and oocyte donation? I am of good financial standing, but not rich. Local wife? Well... Khmer women are extremely beautiful... Khmers, from my perspective, are the most beautiful nation in ASEAN, but... Not my choice. And also, if I sometime come back to my homecountry, I think, that there would be many problems for a child of Asian descent.
So I am really in trouble situation. I am really want to become a parent, since thirty years I am, well, really obsessed by the idea to be a father.
I really don't know what to do. Time goes really fast. Six years more and I'd be forty, ten years more - fifty, next - sixty... Quick time... I am scared of not parenting in children at all in my life...
A few years ago I make holiday for myself on the issue of my third jubilee (30 years). Approximately at the same time I mover, for a various reasons, from Ukraine to Cambodia.
I don't have kids as for now. Moreover, as I stated in my post in the "sibling" topic, I am the only child in the family and both of my parents are also the single children in their families. So we're in extreme decline, demographically =)
But actually, it's not the thing I am worry for.
I still have no children. But, unlike other males, from around the time I turn 30, I became extremely obsessed by wanting to get, well, at least one and no more than two children. I am surely not rich, but of good financial standing. I have time (I am working in production design for Russian, Ukrainian, Belarussian, and Kazakhi companies through Internet - at home, no need to "go somewhere" for work) and I can manage freely It for myself.
So, I am capable of raising a child, from time and finance perspectives, but I don't have a child to raise...
Also, I really want a Jewish women to be the mother of my children. But in Cambodia, well... here are some expats, from European and Northern American countries, but, you know, they are largely men, not women, and they are not many in numbers - Cambodia isn't Singapore or Hong Kong ))))) It's not a very popular destination for expats... And certainly not from Jewish environment... Being a "post-Soviet" Jew, I am also not a very good proposition for a Jewish wife from the US or Israel (two developed and rich countries which hosts nearly 80% of worldwide Jewish population)....
And from this perspective, I really don't know what to do... Adoption? But maybe thus children would be from, well, not very good environment... Surrogacy and oocyte donation? I am of good financial standing, but not rich. Local wife? Well... Khmer women are extremely beautiful... Khmers, from my perspective, are the most beautiful nation in ASEAN, but... Not my choice. And also, if I sometime come back to my homecountry, I think, that there would be many problems for a child of Asian descent.
So I am really in trouble situation. I am really want to become a parent, since thirty years I am, well, really obsessed by the idea to be a father.
I really don't know what to do. Time goes really fast. Six years more and I'd be forty, ten years more - fifty, next - sixty... Quick time... I am scared of not parenting in children at all in my life...