Feeling completely lost and confused

[Trouble]

These days it’s incredibly difficult to enjoy anything because in the back of my mind I know there is something I should probably be doing. It might be seeking further education, it might be researching career opportunities, or deciding to start a new fitness plan. I can easily do the last but stress from the first two keeps me from accomplishing it. I eat to ease the stress from the rest of my life.

I don’t know where to go from here I’m done with college but have zero plans from here on out. I think I’ve just made too many mistakes in the past and if I had known better I would’ve taken a different course of action. I guess I’m afraid to think about the future because I have an idea of what it holds for me, and it’s not good. I have a feeling I may end up living in a cheap apartment with drug addicts because I’m so poor and pathetic that I have nothing else, no career no job to support me.

Any advice

[lonewolfcypriot]

These days it’s incredibly difficult to enjoy anything because in the back of my mind I know there is something I should probably be doing. It might be seeking further education, it might be researching career opportunities, or deciding to start a new fitness plan. I can easily do the last but stress from the first two keeps me from accomplishing it. I eat to ease the stress from the rest of my life.

I don’t know where to go from here I’m done with college but have zero plans from here on out. I think I’ve just made too many mistakes in the past and if I had known better I would’ve taken a different course of action. I guess I’m afraid to think about the future because I have an idea of what it holds for me, and it’s not good. I have a feeling I may end up living in a cheap apartment with drug addicts because I’m so poor and pathetic that I have nothing else, no career no job to support me.

Any advice

just go and do something you enjoy.

[lonewolfcypriot]

Personally I would not do any further education at your age. you should just get a job at this point and make money.

[porpozontokonto]

spend less time on TA

[Columella]

You are very lucky.
You start from zero, so a failure will mean nothing.
My advice is DO something, anything: get any job, move, travel, join a association, or choose a subject or skill and study it well.
Avoid internet, phone, video games, Netflix, drugs, addictions in general.

[lameduck]

get off from online forums and internet, they cause useless stress if one is not thick skin

I had a similar phase when i had such depressive thoughts and it was than when nothing was happening I got addicted to internet.

mine was when i did my undergraduate , i wanted to pursue further education abroad but there was huge peer pressure to find a job and make a career in industry , add to this wrong selection of only ambitious unis for graduate school resulted in lots of rejections , that can cause lot more stress.

What I did was find a job in powerplant away from city , i worked there as a shift engineer and there was no internet available there, during these times I modified my plan and set more realistic goals and small steps. This is panned out well and now i am in much better position.

weaning off these online forums is my next target , but continous trolling and counter trolling and defending ones ethnicity keep me attached to them but its useless waste of time , these are endless circles , i bet even after 20 years people will be discussing same things.

[Kyp]

just go and do something you enjoy.

+1
most important thing in life. You could die by accident any day.

[Synapsid]

These days it’s incredibly difficult to enjoy anything because in the back of my mind I know there is something I should probably be doing. It might be seeking further education, it might be researching career opportunities, or deciding to start a new fitness plan. I can easily do the last but stress from the first two keeps me from accomplishing it. I eat to ease the stress from the rest of my life.

I don’t know where to go from here I’m done with college but have zero plans from here on out. I think I’ve just made too many mistakes in the past and if I had known better I would’ve taken a different course of action. I guess I’m afraid to think about the future because I have an idea of what it holds for me, and it’s not good. I have a feeling I may end up living in a cheap apartment with drug addicts because I’m so poor and pathetic that I have nothing else, no career no job to support me.

Any advice

What did you study?

[Bandesha]

get off from online forums and internet, they cause useless stress if one is not thick skin

I had a similar phase when i had such depressive thoughts and it was than when nothing was happening I got addicted to internet.

mine was when i did my undergraduate , i wanted to pursue further education abroad but there was huge peer pressure to find a job and make a career in industry , add to this wrong selection of only ambitious unis for graduate school resulted in lots of rejections , that can cause lot more stress.

What I did was find a job in powerplant away from city , i worked there as a shift engineer and there was no internet available there, during these times I modified my plan and set more realistic goals and small steps. This is panned out well and now i am in much better position.

weaning off these online forums is my next target , but continous trolling and counter trolling and defending ones ethnicity keep me attached to them but its useless waste of time , these are endless circles , i bet even after 20 years people will be discussing same things.

finally we agreed on something, Hope to not see you anytime soon

[lameduck]

What did you study?

my basic field of study is electrical engineering but my field of interest is robotics and control in general, so in my masters i want to narrow down on it.

[pulstar]

Do a deep estimation on yourself (personality, skills and future goals). Act strictly when you feel you're 100% confindent you left nothing out from your estimation. Organize your time better. If you're good at strategy video games (I assume?) you got no excuse not to make a strategy in your life. If some path is uncertain, seek advice so you can check whether or not is it right for you. Depending on your personality either get a job or start your own freelance/start up. Don't worry if you make a mistake there will be time to fix it. Also, give yourself 3-4 weeks to accept goal-oriented routine. Its a standard adaptation period.

[Synapsid]

my basic field of study is electrical engineering but my field of interest is robotics and control in general, so in my masters i want to narrow down on it.

Are you doing your masters in Pakistan or the West?

[lameduck]

Are you doing your masters in Pakistan or the West?

west

[Synapsid]

west

Culture shock?

[lameduck]

Culture shock?

lol not much , this is age of globalization with unprecedent access to information , I think now everyone pretty much knows what to expect where.

[Trouble]

spend less time on TA

i have nothing else to go to

[Trouble]

Do a deep estimation on yourself (personality, skills and future goals). Act strictly when you feel you're 100% confindent you left nothing out from your estimation. Organize your time better. If you're good at strategy video games (I assume?) you got no excuse not to make a strategy in your life. If some path is uncertain, seek advice so you can check whether or not is it right for you. Depending on your personality either get a job or start your own freelance/start up. Don't worry if you make a mistake there will be time to fix it. Also, give yourself 3-4 weeks to accept goal-oriented routine. Its a standard adaptation period.

thanks, helpful advice. Yes im good at video games lol