Phil75231
01-02-2012, 12:26 AM
The original article is QUITE long, but well worth the read. Despite the fact that it's aimed at women looking for a committed relationship with men, there's quite a few tidbits that men can learn regarding their expectations too (about 1/3 of the message posters were men, out of hundreds of post. So all people are bound to learn quite a bit reading this one). Read the original if you want the full context of the remarks.
As such, I hope this article clears up a lot of questions men and women have about each other (especially if under 30 years old).
From: Eleven Key Insights From the Men of Hooking Up Smart (http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2011/01/03/relationshipstrategies/eleven-key-insights-from-the-men-of-hooking-up-smart/)
by Susan Walsh
Since the premise of Hooking Up Smart is that being analytical and strategic will make you more successful in dating and relationships, I’m sure you won’t be surprised to learn that I’m a big fan of resolutions. Not New Year’s Resolutions, necessarily, but in general I think it’s helpful to set objectives and then craft a strategy to achieve them. It’s also important to check in every so often and assess how things are working. The beginning of a new year is as good a time as any to take stock of what you might like to do differently moving forward. Whether it’s stopping some unproductive behavior, or trying something new, change is good. It promotes growth.
During the past year I’ve learned a tremendous amount from you. Today I’d like to highlight some insights into male psychology that many of the guy readers here have thoughtfully shared in the Comments. While I feel like I’ve got a good handle on how women think, much of what I’ve learned here about the male point of view has opened my eyes to the realization that trying to find a fulfilling relationship is doomed to failure without understanding what men want and how they think. As women, we have a way of projecting our hopes and dreams onto the men we’re seeing, often with disastrous results. Understanding the male point of view is crucial to forging a winning strategy.
Here, then, for your information as you formulate your own 2011 resolutions, are the 11 most important lessons I’ve learned from the guys this past year:
I snipped the detailed explanations under each point. It's definitely important to read these.
1. 20% of the men get 80% of the sex.
2. Believe a man when he says he doesn’t want a girlfriend.
3. Sex is not the way to a man’s heart.
4. Men care about your sexual history.
5. Men become more relationship-oriented as they age.
6. Men are more cautious about marriage than ever before.
7. Men are wary of women who act entitled.
8. Men are not turned on by your career achievements.
9. Men judge you by the way you treat others.
10. Men love to be approached.
11. Men do not want to be your platonic friend.
As such, I hope this article clears up a lot of questions men and women have about each other (especially if under 30 years old).
From: Eleven Key Insights From the Men of Hooking Up Smart (http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2011/01/03/relationshipstrategies/eleven-key-insights-from-the-men-of-hooking-up-smart/)
by Susan Walsh
Since the premise of Hooking Up Smart is that being analytical and strategic will make you more successful in dating and relationships, I’m sure you won’t be surprised to learn that I’m a big fan of resolutions. Not New Year’s Resolutions, necessarily, but in general I think it’s helpful to set objectives and then craft a strategy to achieve them. It’s also important to check in every so often and assess how things are working. The beginning of a new year is as good a time as any to take stock of what you might like to do differently moving forward. Whether it’s stopping some unproductive behavior, or trying something new, change is good. It promotes growth.
During the past year I’ve learned a tremendous amount from you. Today I’d like to highlight some insights into male psychology that many of the guy readers here have thoughtfully shared in the Comments. While I feel like I’ve got a good handle on how women think, much of what I’ve learned here about the male point of view has opened my eyes to the realization that trying to find a fulfilling relationship is doomed to failure without understanding what men want and how they think. As women, we have a way of projecting our hopes and dreams onto the men we’re seeing, often with disastrous results. Understanding the male point of view is crucial to forging a winning strategy.
Here, then, for your information as you formulate your own 2011 resolutions, are the 11 most important lessons I’ve learned from the guys this past year:
I snipped the detailed explanations under each point. It's definitely important to read these.
1. 20% of the men get 80% of the sex.
2. Believe a man when he says he doesn’t want a girlfriend.
3. Sex is not the way to a man’s heart.
4. Men care about your sexual history.
5. Men become more relationship-oriented as they age.
6. Men are more cautious about marriage than ever before.
7. Men are wary of women who act entitled.
8. Men are not turned on by your career achievements.
9. Men judge you by the way you treat others.
10. Men love to be approached.
11. Men do not want to be your platonic friend.