Would you leave your partner if they got Medical Problems

[CelticViking]

Originally Posted by Mary
How can we objectively measure her value:
Could she make a living (model, porn, trophy wife) off her body?
If the answer is no, then she is obviously a lower value woman.



Originally Posted by Mary
* No tits
*No hair



If your partner got Medical Problems.

Such as Cancer
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If they needed a wheel chair?

If they got alzheimers?

etc

Would you leave them?


Ps- I'm not talking about sexual diseases.
I'm talking about other everyday problems that people have the courage to face in their daily lives.

For Other problems and Other answers please explain.

[Supreme American]

No.

[Matilda]

No. I'm human.

[Osprey]

I consider wife to be an essential part of the husband.
That means, would i cut of my right hand if one of my fingers got paralyzed?
The Answer is an emphatic NO.

[Vasconcelos]

The mere though of it discusts me.

[Osprey]

If your partner got Medical Problems.

Such as Cancer
http://www.healingtalks.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/terri-shaver-breast-cancer-photographs-story-2.jpg

If they needed a wheel chair?

If they got alzheimers?

etc

Would you leave them?

You are a sensitive girl, i see.

[CelticViking]

You are a sensitive girl, i see.

No, I'm just using common sense.
Breast cancer is very common cancer among New Zealand women.
They still feel they are beautiful and they still have relationships.

[Europa]

No.

[Osprey]

No, I'm just using common sense.
Breast cancer is very common cancer among New Zealand women.
They still feel they are beautiful and they still have relationships.

No i meant, Mary just off handedly remarked this shit and you were so affected by it, that you started a new thread to confirm that nobody Actually believed that stuff.

[Riki]

NO.Never.
And I would expect her to do the same.
And after 14 Year's (Just freshly celebrated)of Marriage I can say she would stick by me.

[Osprey]

NO.Never.
And I would expect her to do the same.
And after 14 Year's (Just freshly celebrated)of Marriage I can say she would stick by me.

Congrats Dude!
Its heartening to see couples with long lasting marriages!

[Sikeliot]

Aspergers you are born with. You mean Alzheimers.

[Riki]

No, I'm just using common sense.
Breast cancer is very common cancer among New Zealand women.
They still feel they are beautiful and they still have relationships.

Everyone is entitled to happiness even on the worst hour's of our Live's.
And contrary to what most People believe,they don't need People to feel piety for them.
They need true Love and compassion above all.
If they feel this It's 20% of the cure.

[Anthropologique]

If you truly love the person you are with you will not leave because he / she develops a serious illness.

[Riki]

Congrats Dude!
Its heartening to see couples with long lasting marriages!

Thank's Man.
Unfortunately most of the freshly Married couples of this Day's watch to much soap operas,they think only Love is necessary to keep a Marriage.
Other then Love,respect,sacrifice and comprehension are indeed important.

[CelticViking]

Aspergers you are born with. You mean Alzheimers.

I mean if you had a boyfriend and he went to the doctor.
The Doctor told him he had Asperger syndrome, adhd, cancer, diabetes, or something else wrong.
Than your boyfriend told you.
Would you leave him or love him?

[The Lawspeaker]

To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish 'till death do us part.

If I would be married or in a relationship then I should just think about the marriage vow as it says it all and it's a vow that I, personally, take very seriously.

[Leadchucker]

NO.Never.
And I would expect her to do the same.
And after 14 Year's (Just freshly celebrated)of Marriage I can say she would stick by me.

Same here but have 36 yeras of marriage, been together as a couple for 45 years. Congratulations on your anniversary!!! :thumbs up

[Benacer]

It really depends on the problem and the time we had together. If my woman becomes brain dead or comatose for too long, I will just have to move on sooner or later.

[Zephyr]

I could not. But if it was the other way around I would probably want her to leave me.

[Zephyr]

Who wrote diabetes in the tag box??

[Riki]

Same here but have 36 yeras of marriage, been together as a couple for 45 years. Congratulations on your anniversary!!! :thumbs up

Thank's.
I bet its a good feeling when both of you look back on your Live.

[Osprey]

I could not. But if it was the other way around I would probably want her to leave me.

If she is any part like you, then she would also not leave you.

[CelticViking]

Who wrote diabetes in the tag box??

I did, I forgot to put it into the poll, so it goes under other problems.
About 270000 people in New Zealand have diabetes.

[Riki]

I did, I forgot to put it into the poll, so it goes under other problems.
About 270000 people in New Zealand have diabetes.

Around 1,2 Million Portuguese around the World suffer from Diabetes.:)

Yeah It's a pretty typical disease among the Portuguese.
Other then that we are a pretty Healthy Nation.
Oh.I forgot Hypertension.

[SilverKnight]

Never, as long as love is present.

[Zephyr]

I did, I forgot to put it into the poll, so it goes under other problems.
About 270000 people in New Zealand have diabetes.

But Diabetes is a condition. You just have to inject insulin every morning and do a healthy life. If someone leaves the other half for Diabetes, what next? hearing loss? insomnia? Complications may appear but a granduncle of mine died at 90 for example.

[CelticViking]

But Diabetes is a condition. You just have to inject insulin every morning and do a healthy life. If someone leaves the other half for Diabetes, what next? hearing loss? insomnia? Complications may appear but a granduncle of mine died at 90 for example.

Yes, I know but some people would still leave them.

[Moonbird]

All this talk from Mary aside I would say - based on my work in the health care sector - that most people stick by their partners even if they e.g. lose a breast or a leg.

A very big burden is put on those whose partners get Alzheimers but even they manage mostly to stand by.

[Benacer]

All this talk from Mary aside I would say - based on my work in the health care sector - that most people stick by their partners even if they e.g. lose a breast or a leg.

A very big burden is put on those whose partners get Alzheimers but even they manage mostly to stand by.

I must say Alzheimer is probably the most cruel of all. Imagine your partner there, conscious, but barely knowing who you are and not recalling the great moments you had together.

[la bombe]

Anyone who is so emotionally shallow and cruel enough to leave their partner over an illness like cancer shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place :icon_neutral:

[Loki]

I would never leave the one I love - through sickness and in health, good times and bad times, richness and poverty ... until death do us part.

[Barreldriver]

Anyone who is so emotionally shallow and cruel enough to leave their partner over an illness like cancer shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place :icon_neutral:

Sums up about all I've got to say on the subject. :thumb001:

[rhiannon]

Never.

I honor the vows I made to my husband which promised that I would stand by his side and love him in both sickness and health.

[Hurrem sultana]

I voted Asperberger,but you are born with it..i wouldn't be able to start anything in the first place with a person that suffers from that

[Loddfafner]

No. I am not a Republican presidential candidate.

[Kazimiera]

I stayed with my husband until the bitter end. He died in my arms and I wouldn't have wanted it any other way.

[SilverKnight]

No. I am not a Republican presidential candidate.



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[Lumi]

If my boyfriend developed a serious disease, I would stick by him, no matter what. Even if there was a chance he wouldn't survive, I would stay with him until the end. I know he would do the same for me, as heartbreaking as it would be.

[Kazimiera]

When my husband was sick, I knew he was going to die. He was in denial and said that there was nothing wrong with him. He told me and everyone else that the tumours in his body are from stress. It was frustrating for me because I could see the days ticking away and he refused to acknowledge that anything was wrong at all. I think living with his denial of the situation made it even harder for me.

I once worked with a 32 year old man who had a lovely wife and two beautiful children. He was a cyclist and some drunk idiot drove him over. He was admitted to hospital and after that rehabilitation for severe frontal lobe damage. His personality changed completely and he was literally like a 3 year old child. Physically he was fine because nothing had been broken in the accident. He would have temper tantrums several times in the day. He would throw himself on the floor and scream, he hit people (including his small children when they came to visit). When a three year old punches his mom in the thigh because he cannot have sweeties it is not nearly as dangerous as man of 6ft 4 smashing windows and assaulting people. He could no longer comprehend a situation or think rationally. If he wanted sex he wanted it NOW. His parents tried to make the wife come to the hospital so that he could have sex with her because he was making advances towards the nurses and even his own mother. He will never be able to work again or look after his family. It was extremely hard on his wife and the children because they no longer had a daddy. He still looked the same but he was a different person. In the end she left him. She took the kids and went on with her life. He did not even remember that he was married and what it meant when she said she wanted a divorce.

As this man was 32, his chances of living till a good old age because his body was not damaged. To be honest, if I was in this situation I would probably leave in the end. It would break my heart but I would probably do it if I was still so young and had a whole life ahead of me.

I think every situation is unique and it depends on the people involved. Diabetes is a common thing and if managed correctly is not life threatening. I think it is also easier to come to terms with someone with an amputated limb because they are still themselves. But some illnesses erode the person and personality. If I was 70 and my 70 year old husband got Alzheimers, I'd live with it. But if my 35 year old husband suddenly got it now, I would be supportive but when it got to the point where his personality and memory were totally gone, I probably would consider leaving. I can't really answer 100% because it depends on the situation, and all situations are unique.

Physical illness - stay till the end.

[Mortimer]

i have medical problems myself so no i wouldnt leave her, but its hard with someone who has medical problems

[Hess]

To all the people who said no: did you ever experience such a situation in real life?

If not, then your answer means very little.

[la bombe]

To all the people who said no: did you ever experience such a situation in real life?

If not, then your answer means very little.

Do we need actual experience with this to know that we're not heartless scumbags?

[Hess]

Do we need actual experience with this to know that we're not heartless scumbags?

In a way, yes.

it's easy to talk about noble and virtuous deeds in situations you don't think will ever happen to you, but you'd be surprised at how cowardly and petty people can be when they are actually put in those situations.

[Arne]

I wouldn´t broke if she´d have lost arms legs..
Such Situations can occur in life.
She´d be still my girl anyway.
For the other Diseases i can not promise it.

[Sabinae]

No.

[Corvus]

No it`s a question of charactere.

[Lumi]

To all the people who said no: did you ever experience such a situation in real life?

If not, then your answer means very little.

I've lost friends that were very close to my heart in a way that a romantic partner could never be.
I stuck by them through everything, even as they lay dying in my arms.

I am close to losing yet another friend, so to answer your question, yes, I have been there and yes, no matter what, I will stick by them.

You don't need to experience such a thing to know how difficult it would be to stand by someone you loved as they slowly died, or to know that you'll stick by them regardless of how heart wrenching it may be.

[Kazimiera]

In a way, yes.

it's easy to talk about noble and virtuous deeds in situations you don't think will ever happen to you, but you'd be surprised at how cowardly and petty people can be when they are actually put in those situations.

I speak out of experience.

[Foxy]

No. The promise is until the death, in health and in illness, if I am not wrong.

[Kazimiera]

Correct. My husband was sick and he died and I stayed till the end.

[Artek]

My answer is : I'm not sure about how I can behave in such case.
I haven't experienced such thing obviously, I'm a young men with almost a whole life left.
Still, I wouldn't probably leave my partner

[Arne]

Correct. My husband was sick and he died and I stayed till the end.

I can really detect your mood. :(
You might had a hard time and you seem to be a sensitive Person.
Maybe i´m wrong...

[Kazimiera]

I can really detect your mood. :(
You might had a hard time and you seem to be a sensitive Person.
Maybe i´m wrong...

It was the worst time in my life. But I am a very strong person. I used to be terrified of what would happen if my husband died. It was like an obsession. I lay awake nights about it. And then it happened. I was working and the most terrible thing was thinking that I might come home and he is dead in the bed, or worse, that I would wake up in the morning next to a corpse.

But I am not afraid of death anymore. I am married again, but I now know that if my husband died I would be able to deal with it and with being alone.

It sounds harsh, but I can honestly say that if I had a choice between death or divorce I would choose death. The reason is that with death there are only good memories. You remember the person with fondness. When you think of them you think with love in your heart. Divorce is ugly, people fight and call each other names. When you think of an ex you think with anger in your heart and you recall the bad times. So I would rather part with someone on good terms and remember them with love.

Other people might not agree with my point of view. I can only remember loving him. There were no bad times. I look at his pictures with fondness.

I was always afraid that if I became involved in a relationship again that I would compare the new man to him, and that the new man would be jealous. I am lucky to have found a partner who is completely different to my late husband. He encourages me to have pictures of him in the house. He even remembers our wedding anniversary and the date of his death and gives me flowers on these days. He encourages me to speak of him and not to forget him. He sometimes initiates conversations with me about him so that I can remember good times. He said that even though we are together now and he is dead, he is still a part of both our lives even if they did not know each other. I am very lucky to have a husband like this.

[Stefan]

Certainly not, with possibly the exception of Aspergers, although not because they were diagnosed, but because they might have some issues I won't be able to cooperate with.

I was recently diagnosed with Asperger's. It wasn't a surprise at all. I post occasionally on a forum for autism, and from what I can tell it is the same for almost everybody on the spectrum. To them, and their close ones, it tends not to be a surprise. There are some very specific problems that come with autism, and usually they are too specific to that individual to predict. So that might terminate a relationship, and I wouldn't really blame anybody if they couldn't deal with such irregularities, especially my own. These are not problems one can easily accommodate for or change, either. Sometimes they do change, but not under directed control, and if it is possible, it happens after years and years of hard work.

However, if one were to leave a partner because they were diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome(or autism) after getting to know them and enjoying their company then that is illogical and silly.

[Kazimiera]

However, if one were to leave a partner because they were diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome(or Autism) after getting to know them and enjoying their company then that is illogical and silly.

As I was reading this I thought just that. You don't wake up with Asperger's one day. You are like that from the start. And if someone fell in love with you and loved you the way you are, then suddenly putting a name to it shouldn't make a difference because that person has been like that all along.

[Piparskeggr]

My wife was 1st diagnosed with major depression just a few months after we wed in June 1982.

She has physical injuries and illnesses.

She has also been fighting post traumatic stress brought on by things that happened to her during her time as an officer in the United States Air Force for over 17 years.

I speak from experience; I will never abandon her.

[Vasconcelos]

Ok I don't judge the ones who are in casual and undecided relationships with no strings attached, but when we swore an oath we are responsible to honor it.

I don't need to say a few words in front of a priest in order to honour my commitment. The bound goes much further than that.

[Europa]

Never. Marriage is for better AND worse. :)

Ok I don't judge the ones who are in casual and undecided relationships with no strings attached, but when we swore an oath we are responsible to honor it.

May I ask who are you actually?A mod with 28 posts and joining date April 2012,doesn't really make sense.:coffee:

[Europa]

Yes, I agree but I didn't mean anything religious by it. The commitment and oath is between you and your partner.


I don't moderate here, I'm helping Loki administrate the site.

Here you can read my introduction:
http://www.theapricity.com/forum/showthread.php?t=46176

Yw. :)

Ok,thanks:thumb001: