Me, myself and I

[Beorn]

I was just browsing over the wikipedia entries of a few heroes of British comedy, and happened to come across a revealing and interesting insight into one of my all time favourites, Benny Hill.

In his entry (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Benny_Hill#Private_life), it says: "Hill only had a few "friends", although colleagues insist he was never lonely but content with his own company."

Now, I have always been a bit of a social loner, and can be very content in being left alone to my own devices for days and weeks on end.
I prefer most of the time to work alone and to be left alone generally in places where concentration is of the up-most importance, and have always shone through clearer as a worker on my own than in a group.

On the flip side, I have then often been the centre of attention and very extrovert in my social positioning.

I had always placed this sense of "social lonerism" to my having been born deaf and regaining my hearing at 18 months of age, wherein I had a lot of catching up to do in socialisation skills and social cohesion, but it seems perhaps it doesn't really rely upon a stunted growth at birth but it seems even without that, one can be severely introverted and content.

What are you like as a person? Are you introverted? extroverted? Can you place your finger on perhaps why you are as you are as I can, or do you simply revel in your ignorance to the subject?

[Ulf]

The longer I'm around people the more anxious and angry I get. I have no interest in going out to bars or parties. Even when hanging out with close friends I can only stand it for a small time. I really only prefer the company of my wife. I have no real interest in conversation or small talk with people I don't know.

My father is the same way. We're not generally talkative or outgoing people. My father and I can sit in a room together and not say a word to one another. There are no feelings of awkwardness or need to say something. Forced conversation seems to annoy us more than silence.

[29] Often he speaks | who never is still
With words that win no faith;
The babbling tongue, | if a bridle it find not,
Oft for itself sings ill.

I'm generally apathetic to others and have trouble empathizing with them. I might have some disorder, but I don't really care if I do.

[Lady L]

I would have to say I am somewhere in between. The woman in me brings out some situations that I enjoy a chit chat or some gossip :p I've always enjoyed the company of a good friend, but they are hard to come by because I find most new people I meet a sorry excuse for an existence. :cool:

The best girlfriends I had were in school, never found any like them again, and probably never will. We keep in touch but I moved away so we can only do so much. That leaves me with my husband, kids and parents. Considering they are the ones who really love me and always will, I think that's all I need really. :)

[Fortis in Arduis]

Yes. I was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome a year and a half ago. I am a textbook 'slipped through the net' mild case. I am able to maintain a cordial pretence in the normal world but it can be very tiring.

[Lulletje Rozewater]

Me and myself are never on speaking terms because "I" is my shadow :confused::confused::confused:

[Amarantine]

more introvert, don't like to draw too much attention, I could be even lonely time to time, but...don't know it was always like that since I was a kid...but I could be quite extrovert with the people which something in them attract me (good vibration, at least good for me:P).

[lei.talk]

one of many reasons (an unpleasant one)
came to mind
while reading a recent discussion.

You're right, let's all act like a bunch of niggers...one of my paternal grand-mothers

(he was considered
very attractive>challenging>frustrating by women -
a situation he characterised: "They always start out with
'I need you! I love you! I can't live without you!'
and end it with
'You don't need me! You never did need me!' " while shaking his head puzzledly)

would correct me with "Young man, that is niggerish."

slouching was "niggerish"

as was leaning against any thing
or elbows on the dining-table
or scratching, burping, farting, sweating.

a raised voice was "niggerish" -
no decent white person did so.

surely, imbibing the alcohol and the tobacco-addiction
were on the seemingly endless list of "niggerish" behavior.

any lack of control over self or situation
was "niggerish":
things did not "happen" to a white person -
a superior person did things.

negroes sat about sharing complaints
of their immiserating circumstances, while,
by contrast - "white folk made the world a better place".