why i never had a girlfriend, analysis

[Mortimer]

i have been interesting, charming, slender, and not that bad looking (average). i went out much and socialised but never had a relationship or honest friend (just a few associates to get drunk with and who called me nigger and gave me hashish to then make fun of me when im high and scare me). i think it is because of my ethnic Background. i had choice between occidentals and orientals and since the orientals are even less open and more closed to non-orientals then the occidentals to non-occidentals i choose the occidentals to socialise with but it was mistake. i should have stayed alone. it would have been better for me. i think if i grew up with Romani Teenagers that i would have had not as horrible time, better more sincere friends and lots of relationships with Girls. many admirers etc. because im really a interesting, charming character and i dont look bad, since a few years im mentally ill and obese but have not always been like that.

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[arcticwolf]

Dude I thought you were trolling most of the time. ;) You've changed my mind. Sorry for my smart Alec comments. Really.

On the topic, you can't let the past dictate who you are. Leave it behind, there is nothing you can do about it. Past is past.

There is not much anyone of us can do what happens to us but we can always choose how we react to it.

This is how you solve problems. First you have to take stock of where you are right now, don't sugar coat it, don't dramatize it, just realistic assessment of the situation. Next set a goal, what you want to be, or achieve, be realistic here as well, don't exaggerate, don't short change yourself. Thirdly develop a plan how you are gonna get there, for example diet, exercise, meditation whatever steps you think will help you achieve your goals. If you are not sure about the steps, get help. People will want to help you if they will see that you mean business, that you are not wasting their time. There is nothing more wasteful than doing something very diligently that does not need to get done in the first place. When you have the first three steps worked out all you have to do is to apply effort, determination and perseverance, and if you do you can't fail. Do or do not there is no try.

You will never get what you desire or need if you don't do what is outlined in the text above. There are no miracles and no one will do it for you.

There are no shortcuts to anywhere worth going!

Best of luck to you! :thumb001:

[Mortimer]

Dude I thought you were trolling most of the time. ;) You've changed my mind. Sorry for my smart Alec comments. Really.

On the topic, you can't let the past dictate who you are. Leave it behind, there is nothing you can do about it. Past is past.

There is not much anyone of us can do what happens to us but we can always choose how we react to it.

This is how you solve problems. First you have to take stock of where you are right now, don't sugar coat it, don't dramatize it, just realistic assessment of the situation. Next set a goal, what you want to be, or achieve, be realistic here as well, don't exaggerate, don't short change yourself. Thirdly develop a plan how you are gonna get there, for example diet, exercise, meditation whatever steps you think will help you achieve your goals. If you are not sure about the steps, get help. People will want to help you if they will see that you mean business, that you are not wasting their time. There is nothing more wasteful than doing something very diligently that does not need to get done in the first place. When you have the first three steps worked out all you have to do is to apply effort, determination and perseverance, and if you do you can't fail. Do or do not there is no try.

You will never get what you desire or need if you don't do what is outlined in the text above. There are no miracles and no one will do it for you.

There are no shortcuts to anywhere worth going!

Best of luck to you! :thumb001:

but my Point is i will never get wife material or a sincere friendship when i stay with occidentals. i Need to look for other races. there is not much choice though. i Need to be alone.

[arcticwolf]

Don't just give me thanks for the post amigo, really read it as many times as you need to understand it and then apply it. You won't get better advice. I really hope you take it seriously, this is your way out of misery and you owe it to yourself.

Really dude, hope you'll do it! :thumb001:

[arcticwolf]

but my Point is i will never get wife material or a sincere friendship when i stay with occidentals. i Need to look for other races. there is not much choice though. i Need to be alone.

Not exactly, you need to get your life in order and your head straight first and foremost. Forget wives and girlfriends, get your own life in order first.

[Neanderthal]

You'll find someone IM, just keep on looking.

[Curtis24]

If possible, try to lose weight. It makes a huge difference, and frankly is probably what's holding you back.

Women are attracted to looks, same as men, so keep your body fat down.

[Curtis24]

Not exactly, you need to get your life in order and your head straight first and foremost. Forget wives and girlfriends, get your own life in order first.

"Get your life in order" is pretty vague. I don't believe it matters for finding a girlfriend, either. I've known men who were totally screwed up and still had girlfriends.

The main thing that's hurting IM is being overweight. Even being slightly overweight can hurt you with girls. I'm sorry to be the one to say this, since I've struggled with being overweight also, but its the truth.

[Baldur]

You havent missed out on anything really, better go buy sex with the professionals ;)

[Mary]

Because you're a creep,

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[Mraz]

Because you still didn't go trough Oedipial complex?

[iNird]

These threads need to stop.

[Mortimer]

These threads need to stop.

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[Arthas]

Sorry bro but you are bad looking, and that's probably the main reason you never had a girlfriend.

I'm even uglier. :(

[alb0zfinest]

You'll find someone IM, just keep on looking.

And if you don't find anyone hellhammer will always be here? :D
just kidding. But what Arctic said was pretty much what i was going to say.
Especially this

"Next set a goal, what you want to be, or achieve, be realistic here as well, don't exaggerate, don't short change yourself. Thirdly develop a plan how you are gonna get there, for example diet, exercise, meditation whatever steps you think will help you achieve your goals."

[Leliana]

i think it is because of my ethnic Background. i had choice between occidentals and orientals and since the orientals are even less open and more closed to non-orientals then the occidentals to non-occidentals i choose the occidentals to socialise with but it was mistake. i should have stayed alone. it would have been better for me. i think if i grew up with Romani Teenagers that i would have had not as horrible time, better more sincere friends and lots of relationships with Girls.

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[King Claus]

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[Mortimer]

??

[Mark]

In all sincerity, you just need to be patient and it will happen. I suspicion that the girl will end up being white, mostly due to your location - but I know you are open to all races providing the woman is of good quality and character. Either way, lose some weight for health, exercise while doing so, start to feel more hopeful and positive about yourself; the rest will fall into place. :)

[Petra]

Because he's obese.

[Mortimer]

Because he's obese.

it certainly is a Problem. i dont denie. but i have not always been obese. http://s9.postimage.org/jpdf7hhen/IMG_1362.jpg

[Incal]

IM:

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[safinator]

There is a god in man,
And in nature.
He who sits in the dark,
Is the bringer of light.

This beauty,
The sign of an open eye.

Call him, to black flame
Call him, bringer of light
Call him, to black flame
Call him, call him, call him...

[King Claus]

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[Baldur]

Becasue women are shallow and only wants handsome men.

[Willem]

You'll probably never find the willpower to lose the weight and will be stuck being fat all your life. I would suggest to get an amphetamine prescription from your doctor, so losing weight becomes nearly effortless.

[arcticwolf]

"Get your life in order" is pretty vague. I don't believe it matters for finding a girlfriend, either. I've known men who were totally screwed up and still had girlfriends.

The main thing that's hurting IM is being overweight. Even being slightly overweight can hurt you with girls. I'm sorry to be the one to say this, since I've struggled with being overweight also, but its the truth.

So you decided to take one quote out of my essay? :laugh:

Thin or fat you ain't no good for a serious relationship if your mind is messed up. IM needs to get his mind in order first of all. He wallows in self-misery, and self-pity. He needs to be happy with himself before he can make anyone else happy. That applies to everybody me, you and Joe Six-Pack.

Having a g/f in his state of mind will bring him even more misery.

[Fortis in Arduis]

Gosh, I wonder why. :scratch:

Could it be something to do with your turning schizophrenic and becoming morbidly obese?

Did I just say "MORBIDLY OBESE"? :confused:

[Baldur]

Gosh, I wonder why. :scratch:

Could it be something to do with your turning schizophrenic and becoming morbidly obese?

Did I just say "MORBIDLY OBESE"? :confused:

Im not obese, nor schizo but still cant get a gf so ?

[Willem]

Im not obese, nor schizo but still cant get a gf so ?

Probably because you are weird then, people who post on these type of forums have a high tendency of ''weirdness''.

[arcticwolf]

Probably because you are weird then, people who post on these type of forums have a high tendency of ''weirdness''.

Holy shit dude! This post is hilarious!

I think you've summed us all up pretty accurately though! :D

[Dacul]

I never had a girlfriend either,okay I dated some women,but from my point of view they were not my girlfriends.

The thought that I need to commit to only one woman it really scares me,never tried that till now.
Maybe you are not commiting either IM,this is why you did not a gf till now.
Most women found logical that more men should commit to them and they should choose.

[arcticwolf]

I never had a girlfriend either,okay I dated some women,but from my point of view they were not my girlfriends.

The thought that I need to commit to only one woman it really scares me,never tried that till now.
Maybe you are not commiting either IM,this is why you did not a gf till now.
Most women found logical that more men should commit to them and they should choose.

Romanul is that your way of saying "I'm a swinger"? LOL

[Dacul]

Romanul is that your way of saying "I'm a swinger"? LOL
I am not a swinger.
I do not like to commit to women as being their lover (do not like to fall in love) and commiting to only one woman is even worse.
I mean falling in love with 2-3 women in same time is more acceptable,but still not good,but being in love with only woman is just weird.

[Baldur]

Probably because you are weird then, people who post on these type of forums have a high tendency of ''weirdness''.

yeah i have got a weird face.

[arcticwolf]

I am not a swinger.
I do not like to commit to women as being their lover (do not like to fall in love) and commiting to only one woman is even worse.
I mean falling in love with 2-3 women in same time is more acceptable,but still not good,but being in love with only woman is just weird.

You are a wise man my friend. That's why I like Romanians, you guys are awesome!

I agree being in love is weird. It's hard to commit to just one when there is so much to like! LOL

There is a saying which works well for guys like us, it goes like this: "don't buy a cow if all you want is milk". I think you can figure it out! :laugh:

[Willem]

yeah i have got a weird face.

I was more thinking of interests and personality, not your physical appearance.

[Baldur]

ok, sorry.

[Fortis in Arduis]

http://www.andpop.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/120910-obie-overweight-dog.jpeg

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[Food]

Because of your look

[drogin]

You remind me of Tigran Asatryan.
http://www.haykakanmusic.com/images/tigran-asatryan.jpg
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_8q8q5iwHJ-Q/SzPCy01hNKI/AAAAAAAAAiE/FKcX0nbH74A/s400/Tiko.jpg

You don't look very overweight to me.
But I have no idea how women think, I'm struggling with them too

[Incel King]

I think that some people don't have girlfriend because they don't try or try too soft.

[Fortis in Arduis]

I think that some people don't have girlfriend because they don't try or try too soft.

To lose weight? :)

[Incel King]

To lose weight?

No. They don't try to get a girlfriend or try too soft.

[Mr.crowley]

You remind me of Tigran Asatryan.
http://www.haykakanmusic.com/images/tigran-asatryan.jpg
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_8q8q5iwHJ-Q/SzPCy01hNKI/AAAAAAAAAiE/FKcX0nbH74A/s400/Tiko.jpg

You don't look very overweight to me.
But I have no idea how women think, I'm struggling with them too


He's the fatter and darker version of Tigran Asatryan

[Caismeachd]

That morbidly obese Mexican guy was married believe it or not (or what I remember from memory). IM still has a chance. There was a cute Indian girl on anthroscape that fancied IM.

[Mortimer]

That morbidly obese Mexican guy was married believe it or not (or what I remember from memory). IM still has a chance. There was a cute Indian girl on anthroscape that fancied IM.

yes and she is married by now:rolleyes:

[MarkyMark]

IM,
Why is it that you can lie on your back, stomach, and side all at once?
Why is it you have 10,000 posts on an internet forum?
Why is it that you have the social obtusity of Mr. Bean?
Why is it that you failed to hook up with that Indian chick, even though she didn't take in to account your caste?
Why is it that I've seen that exact picture of you in your youth at least 50 times?
Why is it that you expect everyone to help you in your problems, except a psychiatrist?
Why is it that you don't have anything else to do, other than go on the internet?

[Mortimer]

IM,

Why is it that you failed to hook up with that Indian chick, even though she didn't take in to account your caste?


1.I dont believe in the race theory that we are untouchables. I stay doubtful and suspicious about everything they say about us. Even if i were to descendt of untouchables it is seperated by thousands of years and i dont live in times where caste Plays any role for me.

2.To be fair she never fancied me like Lovers, just like a brother, she had bf Back then and is now married to him. She liked me but like a sister likes her brother not like a Lover. I cannot say she loved me because im not asshole and if her boyfriend would read it he would get upset and angry over it, he is now her husband. He is good looking and succesful. A Nord-Indid Type who finished doctors in construction and is in architecture Business. He is rugged, handsome, well built and earns lots of Money. I would not wanted nor could ever compete with him.

3.And maybe I should try a black chick for once? A hot mullato? Maybe my chances would increase?

[Baldur]

IM go to Thailand, there u will find a girl ;)

[Mortimer]

IM go to Thailand, there u will find a girl ;)

too much work for me. but if i managed to find one here i would

[Baldur]

too much work? Do u expect it to be easy to get a gf then?

[Mortimer]

too much work? Do u expect it to be easy to get a gf then?

not easy but i dont expect to spend 5000 euros to go on the other side of the world

[Baldur]

a mail order bride then?

[Mortimer]

a mail order bride then?

how does that exactly work? enlighten me:rolleyes:

[Baldur]

Put your photo and write a profile on one of those sites where there are either russian or asian women then find someone to write to and then if she likes u she can come to u lol

[Mortimer]

Put your photo and write a profile on one of those sites where there are either russian or asian women then find someone to write to and then if she likes u she can come to u lol

ok but how much i will Need to pay for it?

[Baldur]

i have no idea since i have never done it...

[Fortis in Arduis]

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