Is Your "Score" Private, Or Is It Public Domain?

[Frigga]

Just a thought I had stemming from a conversation with my boyfriend. My brother in law told my boyfriend about his girlfriend's high number of past lovers, as it really bothered &/or threatened him. I got mad at the BiL telling that pertinent piece of private information, as it was confidential, but since he doesn't know that I know, I can't exactly give him a piece of my mind now can I? :rolleyes:

How would you feel about telling a lover about your respective number of sexual conquests, and then having them tell others because it bothers them?

[Loki]

So ... when is a "score" considered embarrassing ... when it's too low, or too high? ;) What is the "goldilocks zone" for this kind of activity? :D

[Loki]

How would you feel about telling a lover about your respective number of sexual conquests, and then having them tell others because it bothers them?


I would say it depends on what kind of relationship you have. In some relationships, not much is said of a private nature. Others are very open and more trusting. Depends on how well you get along, really, and how much you trust each other.

[Jägerstaffel]

How many women I've been with is no one's business but my own.

And I personally don't like the idea of it being a 'score', as it's not a game.

[Kempenzoon]

My score is still sadly a bit on the low side, so I don't usually share it. :P I wouldn't really be embarrassed about it being shared though, just about the exact number. If you hear my score you'd think I was 16 -_-

[Skandi]

It depends on the relationship, I don't tend to tell although I almost always know his!

[Ulf]

You have to keep this a secret but this is the list (http://www.theapricity.com/forum/member.php?u=467) of women I have had sexual relations with.

[Vargtand]

It is to low for me to be bragging about it :P it is due to 3 things I figure, 1 I am a bit of a loner and don't really engage in activities or interests where there are a lot of women, 2 I am no charmy and good looking enough and 3rdly I am really bad at picking up women in bars :P and I don't have money to go to bars either :P so there is my problem

As for it being a secret or not, if they really want to know sure I'll tell but it is not really good manners to go around and speak about it publicly...

[Radojica]

It is to low for me to be bragging about it :P it is due to 3 things I figure, 1 I am a bit of a loner and don't really engage in activities or interests where there are a lot of women, 2 I am no charmy and good looking enough and 3rdly I am really bad at picking up women in bars :P and I don't have money to go to bars either :P so there is my problem

As for it being a secret or not, if they really want to know sure I'll tell but it is not really good manners to go around and speak about it publicly...

So basically, you are telling us that you have no secret to share? :( Move on, NEXT one, please :D

[Æmeric]

If you want to keep it private don't tell anyone. The fewer people who know, the less likely it will become part of the public domain.

It's like making a sex tape or 'posing' for private photos. Sure, it shouldn't end up on the web/public domain but once it does there is no getting it back.

[Vargtand]

So basically, you are telling us that you have no secret to share? :( Move on, NEXT one, please :D

I was in a relationship for close to 3 years before I broke it off and I am fiercely loyal, so guess, heh.. I've been single for 4-5 months now, now damn that is just procrastination from my part. :P

[lei.talk]

Video Dedication Thread: (http://www.theapricity.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2206)
this song is dedicated...

http://youtu.be/EYBKOM8DeGg
To all the girls I've loved before - who travelled in and out my door,
I'm glad they came along:
I dedicate this song to all the girls I've loved before.

To all the girls I've once caressed and may I say I've held the best,
for helping me to grow:
I owe a lot I know to all the girls I've loved before.

The winds of change are always blowing and every time I try to stay,
the winds of change continue blowing and they just carry me away.

To all the girls who shared my life - who, now, are someone else's wives,
I'm glad they came along:
I dedicate this song to all the girls I've loved before.

To all the girls who cared for me - who filled my nights with ecstasy,
they live within my heart:
I'll always be a part of all the girls I've loved before.

The winds of change are always blowing and every time I try to stay,
the winds of change continue blowing and they just carry me away.

To all the girls we've loved before - who travelled in and out our doors,
we're glad they came along:
we dedicate this song to all the girls we've loved before.

To all the girls we've loved before - who travelled in and out our doors,
we're glad they came along:
we dedicate this song to all the girls we've loved before.
why am i a member of mensa (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mensa_International)?
the same reason i was a student
at ucsd (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/University_of_California,_San_Diego) for over thirty-five years - the girls.

[Mrs Ulf]

Terribly huge secret, Its been one. Guess who.

I'd have to say if its a very serious relationship, it would probably be beneficial to get that sort of information out in the open. At the earliest possible time. Secrets and lies only create separation.

[Rainraven]

My boyfriends always ask me.. I tend to give a rough number and not an exact figure. It's much less of a big deal now that I'm 20 as opposed to when I was 16 :rolleyes:

As for if he went and told some one else the information? I'd be hurt. I think a lot of what goes on in relationships is highly personal. I want a partner that I can talk to almost in the same way that I talk things over in my own head. I need to know that what I say stays between us and he isn't going to go discuss it with his friends.

On an interesting aside..


New Zealand woman have come out on top when it comes to the number of men they lead into the bedroom.

It has been found Kiwi woman have an average of more than 20 sexual partners in their lives, almost three times the world average.

The finding comes in research from condom maker Durex.

Spokeswoman Kristie Penwarden says one thing New Zealand women do seem keen on is using condoms.

The survey also found Kiwi men average 16.8 sexual partners, slightly ahead of the global average of 13.

Austrian men top the list with an average of 29.3 partners.

Source (http://tvnz.co.nz/content/1401968)

Do we have any Austrian men around? ;)

[Jägerstaffel]

No poll takes me into account.

I am Jäger and the ladies love it.

[Jägerstaffel]

ignore

[Lulletje Rozewater]

33 1/2
I do not know how long the latest will last.

http://i32.tinypic.com/rba2o9.jpg

[Loki]

Do we have any Austrian men around? ;)

You can look up Sigurd on Skadi. ;)

[Phlegethon]

And I personally don't like the idea of it being a 'score', as it's not a game.

If it were a game you'd actually have the chance to win. ;)

[Phlegethon]

Source (http://tvnz.co.nz/content/1401968)


Fortunately this country is at the end of the world and thus pretty easy for me to avoid.

Did the study mention that all these secual partners are consumed in just one night behind the tents during Oktoberfest in Munich? At least that is the impression I got. Must be all the sun that melts away the rudiments of a kiwi brain.

[Phlegethon]

33 1/2
I do not know how long the latest will last.

http://i32.tinypic.com/rba2o9.jpg

You scored with Amy Winehouse?

[Loki]

My score is still sadly a bit on the low side, so I don't usually share it. :P I wouldn't really be embarrassed about it being shared though, just about the exact number. If you hear my score you'd think I was 16 -_-

Don't worry Kempenzoon, soon we won't need women anymore (http://www.nu.nl/internet/1269697/seks-met-robots-heeft-de-toekomst.html) for a good time! :thumb001:



Het grote voordeel is dat een robot alles doet wat iemand wil en niet tegenstribbelt ...


:clap:

[Lulletje Rozewater]

Don't worry Kempenzoon, soon we won't need women anymore (http://www.nu.nl/internet/1269697/seks-met-robots-heeft-de-toekomst.html) for a good time! :thumb001:



:clap:


Terrible thought.
Make me oh God the prey of a woman,before a Wom-o-bot makes me a prey

[SwordoftheVistula]

Just a thought I had stemming from a conversation with my boyfriend. My brother in law told my boyfriend about his girlfriend's high number of past lovers, as it really bothered &/or threatened him. I got mad at the BiL telling that pertinent piece of private information, as it was confidential, but since he doesn't know that I know, I can't exactly give him a piece of my mind now can I? :rolleyes:

How would you feel about telling a lover about your respective number of sexual conquests, and then having them tell others because it bothers them?

Shouldn't be broadcast to the world, but in this case it seems he discussed it with his brother because it was something that was bothering him about his relationship, and it's normal/fine to discuss relationship issues with siblings.

[Inese]

How would you feel about telling a lover about your respective number of sexual conquests, and then having them tell others because it bothers them?
I dont tell if they ask ---- it is personal!! And i regret some of my "scores" in the past , it would be better of some "scores" never happened!

[Phlegethon]

Non, je ne regrette rien. ;)

[Frigga]

I disagree with you here SOTV. :)

Some things are alright to discuss with siblings, but I wouldn't want to know how many people my brother or sister have been with, nor their partners. Some things are just very personal. It also depends I believe on the person who is bothered by it, and whether they have a right to be bothered. In this case, I feel that he has no right to be bothered about this one thing based on his previous actions, but I'm not going to go into what those are. So I guess I'm mainly bothered by hypocrisy.



Shouldn't be broadcast to the world, but in this case it seems he discussed it with his brother because it was something that was bothering him about his relationship, and it's normal/fine to discuss relationship issues with siblings.

[Freomæg]

It's something that bothers me about partners. I don't think I'd want to marry a girl who'd had more than a dozen partners but that's just me. It's not a fear of inadequacy, it's just a belief that intimacy should be something not freely and easily shared. I don't have much of a problem with people who do whore around (most of my friends do), I just wouldn't want to build a future for myself with a girl like that.

As for how many partners I've had - it's very low, and without sounding cocky, it's through choice not lack of opportunity.

[Tabiti]

I prefer not to know much about my partner's past relationships (start imaging him with other females, better than me and that makes me sick;)), but I have nothing against to tell my poor experience...But even if I had more scores, I would tell if asked. There is no place of hiding such things in one real relationship.
For my life I've been with only one man (shame on me!). Not that I haven't had any other proposals, I just didn't want them.

P.S. I've never told anyone (except partner) about my quite low score, even my parents. The opposite - I've lied they were more...

[Æmeric]

It was either here or at the Althing/Skadi where there was a thread where you could post your score. It seems a lot of people like to talk about their 'score'.

[Loki]

It was either here or at the Althing/Skadi where there was a thread where you could post your score. It seems a lot of people like to talk about their 'score'.

Most people would probably lie anyway.

[Tabiti]

Most people would probably lie anyway.
Hmm, I've always wondered what's the purpose of lying in the cyber world, in front of people you'll never met. Overcoming your complexes and trying to find an inner peace? Or what?
Isn't it normal just not to answer questions about your personal life instead of imaging?

[Æmeric]

Yeah, I think most men exaggerate & women tend to undercount. And then you need to decide what actually constitutes sex.


94wGndbOIPk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=94wGndbOIPk&feature=related

[Tabiti]

Yeah, I think most men exaggerate & women tend to undercount. And then you need to decide what actually constitutes sex.


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We just pay too much attention to something natural like eating, drinking and breathing. That's the whole problem.

[Phlegethon]

http://www.demotivateus.com/posters/high-scores-theyre-really-important-to-some-people-demotivational-poster.jpg

[Lulletje Rozewater]

Yeah, I think most men exaggerate & women tend to undercount. And then you need to decide what actually constitutes sex.


94wGndbOIPk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=94wGndbOIPk&feature=related

I am dof on sex,but I do know when to leave my rubber in my wallet.:embarrassed:embarrassed