Trust

[SuuT]

What is the nature of Trust?

Is it earned?

Given?

Both or neither?

Some other thing?


I trust everyone, initially, on principle. However, the flip-side of that coin of principle is that if that trust is betrayed even once, I never fully trust again: In this way, I am able to quickly filter-out the people who would not meet my expectations in a relationship that I believe is worthy to be called that. Naturally, there are few people in my life who I would label as anything other than an aquaintance - yet many of those would call me their friend.


Share your thoughts on the matter of Trust.

[Svarog]

What is the nature of Trust?

In my opinion trust is an instinct and is not based on experiences as many people think it is. Oh, how many times people got fucked cause they had some nice experiences with someone and did whatever based on trust?

Is it earned?

Given?

Neither, trust cannot be earned or give imo, I have no idea how to explain my thoughts, it's simply beyond that.

I have weird way about this, I go by instinct, some people I trust and cannot explain why, some, I can't trust no matter what (even if they never really did anything to give me reason not to trust them) and sometimes I trust the most people I should not trust at all - I rarely fully trust people who keep saying me 'trust me'. As stupid as it sounds this worked great for me so far, never had any major betrayals, never got scammed, never had any problems because something based on trust collapsed.

Some would call it a paranoid behavior but even if I have a minor doubt about some person I stop trusting him/her and never trust again, not to mention, that, fuck me once, I'll never ever be able to trust you no matter what. Old saying, fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.

[Loddfafner]

I am quick in giving the benefit of a doubt, but building real trust is for me a very slow and gradual process.

[Tabiti]

For me everyone is untrustworthy until proven otherwise.

[SuuT]

For me everyone is untrustworthy until proven otherwise.

Strangely, even though I believe trust to be a given thing and I give it immediately, this is actually my gut instinct as well. But, for myself, I find it an all-too-Human trait and cynical to the point of being hostile and unhealthy. I think I'm finally at an age (place of wisdom?) where I can clearly identify when my gut instinct is no so much saving me from immediate harm, as it is causing me harm over the long-run.

I choose to trust; in so doing, I make those with whom I surround myself trustworthy: I believe me make our world.

[Svanhild]

I make a distinction between trust and faith. Trust can be earned by people of whom I feel they are trustworthy. My initial gut feeling decides within seconds if someone has "it" or not: Either someone is trustworthy or someone is not. It's an intermixture of my gut feeling, face characteristics like gesticulation and mimic, verbal language, my skills of empathy and, of course, bias. These people can earn my trust over time. Others don't have that chance.

By doing this, I exclude people. I don't give them the opportunity to receive my trust.



Look at the photo. Everything on it tells me that they aren't trustworthy. Their looks, their face expression, their eyes, their body language. My subconscious mind gives me a loud and clear warning.

Long story made short, some people can earn my trust over time. But faith...I have only faith in myself.

[Heimmacht]

It is given and then taken away.

[Psychonaut]

I am quick in giving the benefit of a doubt, but building real trust is for me a very slow and gradual process.

This describes me as well. Although I'm skeptical in most regards, I do tend to trust that people are presenting themselves in a truthful manner. Like SuuT, once this trust is broken, it is nigh impossible to regain.

[Birka]

I think the older you are, the less trusting you become. By my age I have been shit upon by my ex wife, friends, and my government. After that, trust is a valued and vanishing commodity.

[The Black Prince]

I am quick in giving the benefit of a doubt, but building real trust is for me a very slow and gradual process.

This describes me as well. Although I'm skeptical in most regards, I do tend to trust that people are presenting themselves in a truthful manner. Like SuuT, once this trust is broken, it is nigh impossible to regain.

Same here, I accept most people and by doing that I also give them the benefit of the doubt. If they ruin it, I am able to forgive them, but the initial feeling of trust is away.

A real deep trust is build up in years of helping eachother out, and 'earned' so to say.