Unchaste Marriages?

**Roy** · 03-20-2015, 10:27 AM

Originally Posted by Unome

Roy if you want to marry a woman who's been with several other guys then go right ahead.

I won't stop you. It's quite common in western countries anyway.

I am against promiscuity no matter what's your sex do I wouldn't want to be with a woman who was with many. I'm just against your ideas about marriage.

**Armand_Duval** · 03-20-2015, 03:00 PM

Originally Posted by Unome

Roy if you want to marry a woman who's been with several other guys then go right ahead.

I won't stop you. It's quite common in western countries anyway.

To each their own. To me a promiscuous woman isn't desirable, this is my experience:

http://www.theapricity.com/forum/sho...ke-more/page10

http://www.theapricity.com/forum/sho...ke-more/page11

**sean** · 01-16-2021, 01:48 PM

Virginity doesn't say much about a women's character by itself. Women with zero previous partners also cheat and divorce then marry up, they have this nagging voice inside their head questioning if sex is always like that or if it could be much better with other guys.

You can say "wait till marriage" but ruling out marrying anyone that's had sex means ruling out 75-80% of viable female partners. Most normal women, regardless of looks, including those who by today's standards would be considered to have significant morals (vehement Christians/Church going girls) and traditional family values have lost their virginity.

I will say that if you manage to find a virgin woman older than 21 in this day and age, chances are she is ugly or a landwhale, mentally defective, a closet lesbian, or you are in for a record-breakingly frigid marriage.

Obviously, uglier women will want to take whatever they can get but in the 21-30 year old bracket it's more likely to find an ugly ass virgin than a decent or good looking one. The realistic most probable way is to find one while still in high school.

**Longbowman** · 01-16-2021, 02:47 PM

Iirc Unome had a girlfriend whose virginity he took, he loved her, then dumped her to play the field; now he's pushing 40 and won't (or wouldn't, a couple of years ago) settle for less than a virgin. I wonder if he'll ever update us on his love quest.

**PaleoEuropean** · 01-16-2021, 02:56 PM

I think its a good way to die alone. Virginity doesn't mean purity. A hymen isn't going to make a woman good. If all you care about is virginity then you are probably going to have a shitty relationship.

**Jana** · 01-16-2021, 03:09 PM

I don't agree with this. This rule made sense in the past when couples married as young teens (kids from modern day persepective).
If I met a guy who's say in his late 20s and a virgin, I would think something is wrong with him. It's natural for mature young adults to want and need sex.

Most people today marry late. And celibate until than is unnatural and weird. If you marry really young, than that's nice. But most people don't and need years to find somebody they want or can marry.
Don't see reason why should someone not have sex during that time, it would only cause frustration and even mental issues.

This rule is nice in ideal world where you find your future wife/husband as very young and know you want to marry them. Unfortunately most people don't experience such luxury.

Also, sex is vital part of marriage. Imagine you marry as virgin, and than find out your partner is a bad fit for you sexually, or God forbid has some problems like impotency, degenerated taste etc.
You can't know how will other side and you click sexually, and if that doesn't work than such marriage will be very fragile and cause lot of frustration.