Age at marriage

[nisse]

Discuss current trends, implications and what you see as optimal and why .

This was prompted by complaints (from both sides) about the dating habits of the sexes in the "Damaged goods" thread, and my subsequent brief (and still unfinished) discussion with Osweo, which went something like this:

N *rant mode* reprint: In relationships, men whine about women all the time, but for some reason all the ones I've met have been children. I've had to do all the work in every relationship I've been in while all they do is offer to pay for dinner and make me go to their family gatherings or chat with their mothers, which interest me about as much as watching paint dry...and if you don't take the initiative and practically ask them out or tell them you're going to call the police they'll follow you around and creep you out at every turn - nice option they are ....

O: You're still a little girl yourself, and are complaining about little boys. Give them a few years, it can't be that bad yet in Kanada.

N: FYI - over half of my friends (my age) back in Ukraine are married.

O: Many of mine are, in Russia and England. We do it a bit later in England, in certain social classes, and probably in Canada. It's probably a bad trend, but we still get round to it sooner or later. My point was that you may be unfairly condemning lads who'll turn out okay in a few years' time.

N: I know that, but the fact that men of the same class in Ukraine are married at 22 and in Canada they are 7 year-old, maturity wise, just doesn't add up to me. May be I am being unfair, I guess I'll never know.

O: And conversely, I was shocked to see how quickly my friends married na Rusi. Off the top of my head, I'd say 25 or so would be a better age than 22... At least for the men. Perhaps the women should do earlier.

N: IMO 25 is pretty much perfect age for both genders. But before you get married you should be dating for at least 2 years, so 23 you need to be mature.

[blan]

its funny because since i was in my early 20s blacks always ask me Dave when are you going to get married? are you married? why not!!??? dont you want a wife and children?? for most of the populace there standard for marriage os a find a preety girl that can cook and clean and goes to church on sunday and has a nice warm freindly personality.
i wish it was that simple for me but it is not.
here i am just turned 28 and i am still not married in short i wish i was married but i dont think i need to anytime soon. i hear alot of men in progressive rich countries get married around 34-35 and women 26-29 is normal for them,
so i figure i have 7 years or so

[Grumpy Cat]

I am 28 and not married. Still single, actually.

My sister got married at 24.

My best friend is getting married this year, 27. Mid to late 20s is about average.

[blan]

I am 28 and not married. Still single, actually.

My sister got married at 24.

My best friend is getting married this year, 27. Mid to late 20s is about average.

hey guess what.....im single to

[Rainraven]

I'll get married as soon as I find the right person. I had hoped I would have found them by now but no such luck

[nisse]

i wish it was that simple for me but it is not.

Why is it not that simple for you? Care to speculate?

here i am just turned 28 and i am still not married in short i wish i was married but i dont think i need to anytime soon.

Well, technically you don't "need" to get married at all...why do you feel you need to get married?

i hear alot of men in progressive rich countries get married around 34-35 and women 26-29 is normal for them, so i figure i have 7 years or so

But should it be normal?
Lots of my female married Canadian friends got married at ~28. Since you're not going to have a baby right away, they likely won't give birth until ~30-32, which is pretty late and right in the middle of their careers (so they may decide to delay it even further).

[blan]

I'll get married as soon as I find the right person. I had hoped I would have found them by now but no such luck

hey that reminds me!!...... im looking for the right person as well

[Grumpy Cat]

I live in Eastern Canada, Alberta took all of our men. Hard to get married here.

There are even villages in this part of the country with no men

[blan]

Why is it not that simple for you? Care to speculate?


Well, technically you don't "need" to get married at all...why do you feel you need to get married?


But should it be normal?
Lots of my female married Canadian friends got married at ~28. Since you're not going to have a baby right away, they likely won't give birth until ~30-32, which is pretty late and right in the middle of their careers (so they may decide to delay it even further).

its not so simple for me due to issues of mind and spirit, i need more than good looks and and someone to cook dinner,
i need someone who understands my goals in life and will help support those so i can support there goals. they would need to have something in them that makes them special, i need someone who i have a connection with based on intellect and spiritual matters,
some one who has a good heart and understand me so i could be myself and not worry about putting on a show.
also where i live it is hard finding a woman of my racial background who i could marry
no i dont need to get married right now or ever i suppose but its a natural desire most humans have.
they want a family there own tribe some one to love and take care of and do the same for them, loneliness i suppose motivates these wants,

[blan]

I live in Eastern Canada, Alberta took all of our men. Hard to get married here.

There are even villages in this part of the country with no men

for real!!! oh yesss!!!! i am taking a trip to cannada!!!