How soon is ''too soon''?

**Queen B** · 09-28-2016, 10:26 AM

So, I'm following a blogger , Freckled fox.
She is a mommy of 5 kiddos (under 6 all adorable af ) and she is only 25 y.o (and a mormon).
She lost her husband from cancer 3 months ago, after a 18month battle.

So, yesterday she announced that she re-married.

Reading the comments, I see many people critisize, others supporting, so my question is :

How soon is too soon? Considering that she has 5 kids, she is 25y.o , jobless and with no studies.

**adsız** · 09-28-2016, 10:37 AM

She was cheating on her ex-husband with this new man anyway..

**Iltirbas** · 09-28-2016, 10:49 AM

It's not only too soon, but also too many; having those many children at the age of twenty-five is very irresponsible. Couples should wait until they find a certain economical stability (which usually arrives when you are in your late twenties or early thirties) to form a family.

**Sui Generis** · 09-28-2016, 10:50 AM

I firstly thought, 5 children in 25 years old and jobless and mormon culture.. I think 3 mounths is normal in her sitatuon. Probably she is a poor mom and in need and should countiunue her and her children life. After I looked her site I saw she is different one I dreamed

And this man is not any person.

"We met over 10 years ago while we were both in high school. We started writing letters to eachother, and kept it up for several years. We became incredibly close and helped one another through some tough years. When I became engaged to Martin, Richard and I parted ways as friends. We didn't reconnect until very recently, and things started moving fast between us.... We felt like our lives were pieces of the same puzzle, and saw so many signs from different places that we were moving in the right direction. After much prayer and peaceful confirmation, we made the choice to be married."

In this sitatuon I changed my idea. Of course I cant know her feelings but after 5 children and love to your husband... 3 mounths are so less forget past and connected to life with another person.

**~~Linebacker~~** · 09-28-2016, 10:54 AM

Anything before 20 is too soon.After 20 its maybe early but its definitely not as ridiculous as being a parent while you still smell of high school.

**Hoxhaism** · 09-28-2016, 10:58 AM

to marry and have children, 27+
there is so much more you can do and learn than to become a mother straight out of high school/college, it's just a waste of your life in my eyes.
Also having children requires full independent financial stability which i doubt a 20 year old would have

**~~Wadaad~~** · 09-28-2016, 11:00 AM

Every situation is unique...

**~~Casandrinos~~** · 09-28-2016, 11:05 AM

She had to own a degree or learn some handwork before marrying and having kids. Now she and her kids are dependent to others. The ideal would be to have her parents support so she can study something.

The fact that she married within 3 months doesn't mean much , western women are primitive with no understanding of Love. They do what they "feel"right, they think with their pussy.

**Queen B** · 09-28-2016, 11:10 AM

Originally Posted by Iltirbas

It's not only too soon, but also too many; having those many children at the age of twenty-five is very irresponsible. Couples should wait until they find a certain economical stability (which usually arrives when you are in your late twenties or early thirties) to form a family.

I don't find it irresponsible. Her late husband was older (by older I mean 34 or something), with a good job. Judging from her blogposts they lived a comfortable life - so , if they have the means, why not have many kids? You are not going into a marriage and building a life thinking ''oh , what if my husband dies of cancer before he is even 35y.o''.

Originally Posted by Sui Generis

I firstly thought, 5 children in 25 years old and jobless and mormon culture.. I think 3 mounths is normal in her sitatuon. Probably she is a poor mom and in need and should countiunue her and her children life. After I looked her site I saw she is different one I dreamed

And this man is not any person.

"We met over 10 years ago while we were both in high school. We started writing letters to eachother, and kept it up for several years. We became incredibly close and helped one another through some tough years. When I became engaged to Martin, Richard and I parted ways as friends. We didn't reconnect until very recently, and things started moving fast between us.... We felt like our lives were pieces of the same puzzle, and saw so many signs from different places that we were moving in the right direction. After much prayer and peaceful confirmation, we made the choice to be married."

In this sitatuon I changed my idea. Of course I cant know her feelings but after 5 children and love to your husband... 3 mounths are so less forget past and connected to life with another person.

I read many comments, that's why I was looking for opinions here.

Some people say its too soon to be married to another person. Some others say that due to the prognosis of her late husbands cancer, she was already grieving/mourning for him, before he even died.
Some others say that maybe even her husband gave his blessing, knowing he was going to die soon (and judging by Mormon's beliefs about families )''Martin and I talked many times about my future after he was gone, about our five little ones, and I can't help but feel like he has played a large part in how things have worked out. I know he is as grateful as I am for this wonderful man who has come to love and take care of his family".

Personally, I don't know. I do think it is too soon, but on the other hand, I haven't been raised in a society where your goal is to get married and have family asap (Mormonism) and I haven't been a widow with 5 kiddos in my 25y.o.