Men used to hate and revile me, but now they seem to like me

[InmostLight]

I still don't believe the common notion that women are showered with love and male attention their whole lives, or that men are always messaging us, or anything like that. I spent my youth being absolutely hated by the boys and men around me. I needed to go through an INTENSE transformative process to get to where I am today. The first male attention I ever received was at the very end of high school, where I got into a harmful relationship with a grown man. Now, I've had a good boyfriend for three years, and just this past month, random men in my life are complimenting me, asking me to dates (and being rejected since I'm taken), etc. It's really hard for me to believe that most women just enjoy this from the start, when I've had to endure ruthless self-recreation to get a crumb of what people claim women experience.

If most women really are being obsessed over by men all the time, without ever needing to put in labor (like I did), no wonder they're such entitled bitches. I had to fight tooth and nail against myself to earn the love I finally have as of the past few years.

Is it really true that most women are just used to being liked, asked out, etc? Even though I have the relationship of my dreams, it still makes me feel like a lesser being to know that other women are seen as universally more desirable than myself. It makes me paranoid and self-destructive. What have the other ladies on this forum experienced?

[calxpal]

Yeah I feel the same way honestly no matter how hard I worked to be the best person possible I was always just seen as a pushover and undesirable by most men, to be honest I feel lesser too to compare myself to other women who put in only a small fraction of the work and immediately find love, I feel petty pointing it out though but yeah I guess recognizing that I don't meet societies expectations maybe can help me figure out what to change.

Anyways if you feel like sharing I'd really like to know more about how you improved your odds because I'm still trying to find success with dating myself.

I'm not completely sure if all women are used to being liked/asked out, I'm not lol, but as a comparison I know my sister is more conventionally attractive than me and not too uncommonly she has men ask for her number or chat up a storm with her in public without her putting in any effort, while I've never had such an experience. I know she doesn't really like it though.

[Incal]

I'm totally convinced that in most countries, there's always a gender that is shittier than the other. In my country it's the women who are shittier, in the US it's the men. My 2 cents.

[Colonel Frank Grimes]

I've always thought women had it more difficult than men. Either way you look at it - whether it's little or too much attention - it's a problem for women.

Some men bitch and whine about women (the so called incels) because they don't understand for men it's always been a numbers game.

[Universe]

women are showered with love and male attention their whole lives, or that men are always messaging us, or anything like that

That is a myth. That happens when the woman is good looking, otherwise nope. Another myth: "Women can't be incel".

[Aldaris]

I'm not usually an asshole, but sometimes I kinda have to be. Pretty sure you will get a lot support in here. But you don't deserve it. Stop playing a victim. You are fishing for attention right now. You remind me of certain Italian members like Foxy, MissMischief and a couple of some other ones. I revile that behavior. You shouldn't even be here, kid, let alone creating threads such as these.

[Anglo-Celtic]

I've always thought women had it more difficult than men. Either way you look at it - whether it's little or too much attention - it's a problem for women.

Some men bitch and whine about women (the so called incels) because they don't understand for men it's always been a numbers game.

Note to the forum kids. *Do not* look for dates in women's shoe stores, especially if you're one of those weirdos with a foot fetish!

[InmostLight]

I'm not usually an asshole, but sometimes I kinda have to be. Pretty sure you will get a lot support in here. But you don't deserve it. Stop playing a victim. You are fishing for attention right now. You remind me of certain Italian members like Foxy, MissMischief and a couple of some other ones. I revile that behavior. You shouldn't even be here, kid, let alone creating threads such as these.

I don't understand. I never meant to do that, I just wanted to know if this was a common experience for women here and discuss with them... it seems like a lot of people want me gone from this forum, and I'll respect it if that's the case. I'm sorry for doing things that bothered people, I apparently misunderstood the boundaries for discussion topics on this forum

[Colonel Frank Grimes]

I don't understand. I never meant to do that... it seems like a lot of people want me gone from this forum, and I'll respect it if that's the case. I'm sorry for doing things that bothered people, I apparently misunderstood the boundaries for discussion topics on this forum

You're fine. People have strong opinions here (as they do everywhere). When you put yourself out there, you have to expect some people will push back. You can't expect everyone to like you or your opinions. Personally, you come across as a likable person.

[rajputprincess]

Lol why are you insulting women. If men were rude? Shouldn't you insult men instead?
Being single is better than being in relationship anyway

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