Examples of bad parenting

[Grumpy Cat]

I'm not a parent myself, but I have my opinions. Although I would like to hear input from actual parents so that I will know what to not do when I have kids.

Here are my thoughts

Putting your kid on Ritalin
Hovering over the kid too much (aka helicopter parenting)
Not watching the kid enough and letting it run around like a feral cat
If the kid is fat... Feed the kid healthy food and let it play outside. There is no excuse for a kid to be fat since they have faster metabolisms than adults
If you're Acadian and you speak English to your kid
Not passing on traditions
Not teaching the kid manners, domestic skills, social skills, etc
Punishing the kid for being a kid (this is slightly related to putting the kid on Ritalin)

Thoughts?

[Sahson]

Hot sauce
molestation
abuse

[Grey]

I can really only reiterate a lot of what you said.

Putting your kid on Ritalin

I agree, and furthermore I believe that medications for mental issues often treat the symptoms rather than the actual problem, and merely serve as a crutch.

These days there's an app and a drug for everything.

Hovering over the kid too much (aka helicopter parenting)
Not watching the kid enough and letting it run around like a feral cat

Exactly. Parents tend to fall into two categories: control freaks and uninvolved idiots. One needs to keep in mind that their job as a parent is to assist in their child's development, which means being more than a spectator; conversely, as a good parent one ought to foster independence in their children and respect them as an individual.

[Magister Eckhart]

I'm not a parent myself, but I have my opinions. Although I would like to hear input from actual parents so that I will know what to not do when I have kids.

Here are my thoughts

Putting your kid on Ritalin
Hovering over the kid too much (aka helicopter parenting)
Not watching the kid enough and letting it run around like a feral cat
If the kid is fat... Feed the kid healthy food and let it play outside. There is no excuse for a kid to be fat since they have faster metabolisms than adults
If you're Acadian and you speak English to your kid
Not passing on traditions
Not teaching the kid manners, domestic skills, social skills, etc
Punishing the kid for being a kid (this is slightly related to putting the kid on Ritalin)

Thoughts?

I would add (for women) "pursuing a career besides motherhood". A woman's place is in the home until her children have grown to a point where independence is reasonable. You wouldn't try to be both a successful doctor and a successful lawyer, how can you expect to be a successful [insert career here] and a successful mother: one will always need to be subordinate to the other, and women pursuing careers rarely, if ever, subordinate the job of being a mother to their own selfish desires.

[Fortis in Arduis]

Josef Fritzl.

[Brynhild]

I'm not a parent myself, but I have my opinions. Although I would like to hear input from actual parents so that I will know what to not do when I have kids.

Want a manual with that? You can't generalise in that fashion. You will carry values to teach your children, but there are extenuating circumstances that you're not always able to know about, let alone control. Each child is different and they deserve to be treated like the unique beings that they are.

Here are my thoughts

Putting your kid on Ritalin

I pointed out already somewhere else that I don't agree with putting children on ritalin as a means of taking the responsibility of disciplining the children away from the parents. That said, however, there are exceptions. ADHD is a disorder of the neuro transmitters and some kids do benefit from this sort of correction.

Hovering over the kid too much (aka helicopter parenting)
Not watching the kid enough and letting it run around like a feral cat

Care to tell me how to tread that fine line between the two? This comes back to treating the kids as unique individuals, and developing your parenting skills with that. There is a fine line between being over-protective and lax.

If the kid is fat... Feed the kid healthy food and let it play outside. There is no excuse for a kid to be fat since they have faster metabolisms than adults

Children are either he or she - never it! I do agree in terms of a healthy diet and exercise as it stands them in good stead for the rest of their lives. However, kids won't learn from their parents about any of that if they choose to eat junk food themselves. That example has to be set from the outset.

If you're Acadian and you speak English to your kid

You don't specify if the mother or father is Acadian. Children will always speak the mother's tongue first, because essentially it is the mothers who teach them. If there is every chance for a child to be bilingual, then they should learn the language of both their parents by all means.

Not passing on traditions

I agree that there should be an awareness of heritage and culture, but not everyone has the same definitive idea of what comes under tradition.

Not teaching the kid manners, domestic skills, social skills, etc

Manners and domestic skills are a family oriented learning but social skills not necessarily so. Kids need enough free rein to know for themselves what that entails - including making mistakes, as parents can't watch them all the time in this regard.

Punishing the kid for being a kid (this is slightly related to putting the kid on Ritalin)

Thoughts?

If, by that, you mean abusing the children because they are just being who they are, then yes, I agree. However, children are fast learners and they are perfectly capable of testing boundaries. Actions have consequences and children need to know what they are. Punishment in this form is necessary, as it teaches them rules and responsibilities. Whatever is suitable punishment varies to some extent.

[Grumpy Cat]

Want a manual with that? You can't generalise in that fashion. You will carry values to teach your children, but there are extenuating circumstances that you're not always able to know about, let alone control. Each child is different and they deserve to be treated like the unique beings that they are.

Yeah, I realize that. Just whenever

Care to tell me how to tread that fine line between the two? This comes back to treating the kids as unique individuals, and developing your parenting skills with that. There is a fine line between being over-protective and lax.

When I talk about helicopter parenting I'm talking about parents who do their homework for their kids. Yes, they do exist.

Then the opposite extreme are parents who just don't even bother with their kids, they could be running around at 3 am and they don't care.

Children are either he or she - never it! I do agree in terms of a healthy diet and exercise as it stands them in good stead for the rest of their lives. However, kids won't learn from their parents about any of that if they choose to eat junk food themselves. That example has to be set from the outset.

My mistake, should have said he or she. I was trying to articulate that it could be either sex.

If, by that, you mean abusing the children because they are just being who they are, then yes, I agree. However, children are fast learners and they are perfectly capable of testing boundaries. Actions have consequences and children need to know what they are. Punishment in this form is necessary, as it teaches them rules and responsibilities. Whatever is suitable punishment varies to some extent.

I'm talking about parents who yell at their kids for doing stuff normal kids do. I've seen it out on the streets, and it pisses me off... I usually just sign and walk away.

[Treffie]

I used to know a woman who would let her 2 year old daughter play in the bath while she (the mother) was watching CSI Miami. When I pointed out the fact that children can drown in 2 inches of water, she looked at me in disbelief.

[Grumpy Cat]

children can drown in 2 inches of water

Not just children, adults too.

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[Sahson]

Children are either he or she - never it! I do agree in terms of a healthy diet and exercise as it stands them in good stead for the rest of their lives. However, kids won't learn from their parents about any of that if they choose to eat junk food themselves. That example has to be set from the outset.

In Acadiandriftwoods defense, some languages don't have 3 genders, some have no genders, others like French have 2 genders... Mandarin has one word to mean boy, girl, and it, and that is Tā. However girl, and boy is differentiated in the Hanzi.

I also say "it" when refering to both genders, and even a baby, I tend to get corrected.