WESTERNERS: What kind of marriage you prefer

[Demon Revival]

Option A: Arranged marriage
Your old man brings you with his friend Hamza to see a few of the daughters in young, but still marriageable age (16-20) with a relatively sheltered life. She will have no choice in the matter but you will put everything necessary so a family can flourish. You do this out of a sense of duty, and to increase bonds within clans and other families. Two families effectively become united and a strong unit is formed. Both the male and the female have a strong, separate sense of duty and will put it before their own enjoyment. Breaking this union (no matter who starts it) therefore becomes really shameful and implies strong consequences for both.

Option B: Free marriage
You eventually fall in luv with some girl you met through parties and drinking. She is 27-33 years old and has been riding the carousel for quite a long time (meaning: has consistently done serial monogamy). You will not have her through arrangement but through game, luv, lust and other seemingly vacuous stuff. This relationship is not based around the creation of a family unit but just the attraction of 2 people. As such, you do this out of a sense of entitlement, and there are no bonds to increase since the girl has no father and only has a single mom who has little to no contact with her family. Neither the male or female have a strong duty as such, and there is no separation since "both decide". Enjoyment and personal "happiness" is prioritized. Breaking this union poses no shame and has no real consequences for only one of the parties.

[frankhammer]

I'll take the happy tart thanks.

[Babak]

Arranged.

[Wadaad]

obviously arranged...

[zhaoyun]

I'd rather be free to make my own choice regardless.

[al-Bosni]

She will have no choice in the matter.

This is not just arranged marriage, this is forced marriage. And forcing adult women (16-20) is against my beliefs.

[JMack]

Arranged marriages were the rule in every single common, human and natural societies since the beggining of times until the great satan of western modernity appeared and started to transmute all social relations into a kind of atomized way of life, where the individual (a non-existent entity according to the metaphysics of all traditional religions) becomes the only fundament of the social organization. I'm not going to enter in detail about the satanic forces involved in such horrendous enterprise, but it's obvious that any sane person should chose the natural way of things, saying better, the cosmic way, the arranged marriages. It's true because it reflects a vision of society where the collective and metaphysical is beyond mere lust and individual aspirations. A society dominated by the latter is condemned to extinction.

[Colonel Frank Grimes]

It depends on how many cows are offered along with the bride. To accept a bride along with anything less than 3 cows is poor haggling on the part one's father.

[Smitty]

This is a false characterization of free choice in marriage.

[Demon Revival]

This is not just arranged marriage, this is forced marriage. And forcing adult women (16-20) is against my beliefs.

I'm using the term lightly. Of course she will have some semblance of choice in the matter. It just won't be on trivial matters like lust, "muh feelingz" or swag. A lot of marriages (well or at least couples since people marry less and less these days and still drop sons everywhere) or should I say the serial monogamy that leads to them, seems to rely mostly in these 3 factors.

Also few people are offering rationalizations. I wanted people to analyze the situations based on the examples I gave as opposed to just answer "yes", "no".

It is totally expected for you to explain which one is the best choice and why?.