WESTERNERS: What kind of marriage you prefer

[Smitty]

Anything regarding "love", feelings, individualism or things unnecessary/irrelevant for the goal of setting up a good base for a family to grow and be truly united.

I'd argue you'll have a more united family if you choose someone whose company you enjoy, whom you care about, who cares about you, and who shares your life ideals. Too pink? You seem to think the is nothing good, nothing redeemable in a marriage both parties entered of their own volition.

[Demon Revival]

I'd argue you'll have a more united family if you choose someone whose company you enjoy, whom you care about, who cares about you, and who shares your life ideals. Too pink? You seem to think the is nothing good, nothing redeemable in a marriage both parties entered of their own volition.

Holy sheit smitty, did not I tell you 2 posts ago to not get it full of pink words and euphemisms? Goddammit Smitty.

What do you live in? A chick flick, a disney movie? A mexican telenovela?

[Colonel Frank Grimes]

I support complete abolition of all marriage as a government institition

Agreed. A government's place is not in the home. It's out there on the battle lines fighting Satanists, each Satanist being more satanic than the last.

[Smitty]

Holy sheit smitty, did not I tell you 2 posts ago to not get it full of pink words and euphemisms? Goddammit Smitty.

What do you live in? A chick flick, a disney movie? A mexican telenovela?

Nope. Real life. I've observed a bad marriage, so I know all too well that it's a balance of finding the right person and putting in the hard work. My parents put too much emphasis on the former. You put too much on the latter.

[Demon Revival]

Nope. Real life. I've observed a bad marriage, so I know all too well that it's a balance of finding the right person and putting in the hard work. My parents put too much emphasis on the former. You put too much on the latter.

What you wrote sounds more like the plot of a chick-flick like Twilight as opposed to a deep insight on the reasons why marriage fails.

Offer us some deep rationalization. I know for certain that the "free marriage supporters" can articulate something better than cliché ridden "fall in luv with that awesome chick which is your other half of the orange".

[Mortimer]

Free marriage. Thats how I grew up, if my parents planned a arranged marriage for me I would have been married since I turned 20 already.

[Smitty]

What you wrote sounds more like the plot of a chick-flick like Twilight as opposed to a deep insight on the reasons why marriage fails.

Offer us some deep rationalization. I know for certain that the "free marriage supporters" can articulate something better than cliché ridden "fall in luv with that awesome chick which is your other half of the orange".

I already have. You advocate for a united home. What better way to achieve that than with a united marriage? And why not give yourself a leg up in achieving that by picking someone you get along with and who wants the same things out of life that you do. Parents and elders often have their children's best interests at heart, but they're not gods. Generally, the best mate will be found via a combination of a person's choosing and his parents' active advice.

[zhaoyun]

What you wrote sounds more like the plot of a chick-flick like Twilight as opposed to a deep insight on the reasons why marriage fails.

Offer us some deep rationalization. I know for certain that the "free marriage supporters" can articulate something better than cliché ridden "fall in luv with that awesome chick which is your other half of the orange".

It's not about that. It's about being able to have the freedom to make a personal choice, good or bad. Both arranged marriages and free marriages can have positive or negative consequences, though I am apt to believe that people who have the freedom to make their own life decisions in general live more fulfilling and happy lives overall. However, if your end game is that a society where marriages by and large succeed equals a better society, then yeah, I guess a society where arranged marriages are the rule would more accurately reflect your idea of success. But whether these marriages are happy or fulfilling, or whether the individuals who live in these marriages even know what they are missing, is another thing.

Yes, people who make their own choices can often fuck up. I'd rather have the freedom to make my own mistakes, than someone making mistakes for me. I've seen plenty of loveless marriages where the household remained stable and wealthy, a lot of older Chinese marriages are this way, even if most are not arranged, fuck that, it's pretty fucking sad and depressing. I wouldn't want any part of that kind of fucked up life.

[King Niko]

I prefer which ever shows love to my music

[Óttar]

Baluarte saying arranged marriage was the norm, the "cosmic law" since the beginning of time, probably the first form of pairing was 'polygamous' promiscuity a la classical pre-Confucian Japan.