Worst heartbreak youve ever gotten over someone?

[Kazimiera]

The only way I can relate is my grandpa dyeing of lung cancer. I never knew sickly Kazi was once a grieving widow.

It was the most difficult experience I've ever gone through. After his death the friendships dried up and people were uncomfortable in my presence. One would imagine that in such a situation people would rally around and offer support but it wasn't like that. It was the opposite.

A nasty side-effect the "widow" situation was the endless stream of men who'd had an interest in me whilst I was married, suddenly standing at my door wanting a piece of the pussy now that the husband was gone. Initially (stupidly) I thought they were being supportive but the offers for dinner and the hands squeezing my butt told a different story. I didn't trust anyone anymore. It got to the point where I was suspicious of all males. Strangley enough, I met my current husband during this time. He was the only guy who didn't try to seduce me or grope me.

Sorry Kazimiera, you probably still feel sadness.

The chapter is closed but it doesn't stop me thinking of him or loving him. I still have sadness but it has evolved in the years after his death. I missed him terribly and one day it was gone. I remember telling my mom, very perplexed, that I didn't miss him anymore. I felt guilty about this. My mom said to me it wasn't a bad sign, but a GOOD one because it meant that I was healing.

Sometimes I wonder what would have happened or where I would be if he hadn't died. Would we still be together? Would we have our own house? Where would we be? But I don't spend much time dwelling on these things because it is in the past and a purely hypothetical situation.

[Óttar]

4 years with my gf.. Ended last week. It sucks really bad.,

How do you cope?

A friend of mine many years ago broke up with his fine-ass girlfriend of three years. This normally cool, aggressive man was reduced to lying on his side in the fetal position with an absolute look of dejection and despair on his face. He got over her reasonably fast though.

[Ghazi]

nothing yet

[Loki]

Sometimes I wonder what would have happened or where I would be if he hadn't died. Would we still be together? Would we have our own house? Where would we be? But I don't spend much time dwelling on these things because it is in the past and a purely hypothetical situation.

In an alternate universe (or maybe in several of them), you're probably still together

[Grishnack]

How do you cope?

A friend of mine many years ago broke up with his fine-ass girlfriend of three years. This normally cool, aggressive man was reduced to lying on his side in the fetal position with an absolute look of dejection and despair on his face. He got over her reasonably fast though.

Surprisingly well. I saw it coming so I was prepared to deal with it. Now I am taking back my old life, step by step. It's hard, don't get me wrong. So hard.. Especially when you close your eyes to sleep and all those thoughts and memories overwhelm you and you gasp for air. They say time solves all problems and I surely hope this is the case..

[Kamal900]

When my ex-Saudi girl friend left the country to her native homeland. I was dating her when I was 15 till 18 years old, and we can't be together since she was going back to Saudi Arabia.

[Kazimiera]

They say time solves all problems and I surely hope this is the case..

It does. The more time distance there is, the more emotional distance there will be. You'll get to the point where you can view it objectively. But you are not there yet. Feel what you need to. A break-up or divorce is also a time of grieving. Don't rush yourself because that can only make it worse, when you try to bottle things up and push them aside. Emotions need to be experienced so no matter how unpleasant things are right now, you have to go through it. You can't turn back time and you cannot speed it up either. Let time take you where you need to go.

[Black Panther]

Haven't had a bad break-up yet. I am not very emotional and I usually don't "fall in love" the way a lot of people do. I see a relationship as a partnership based on shared interests and mutual sexual desire.

[Grishnack]

It does. The more time distance there is, the more emotional distance there will be. You'll get to the point where you can view it objectively. But you are not there yet. Feel what you need to. A break-up or divorce is also a time of grieving. Don't rush yourself because that can only make it worse, when you try to bottle things up and push them aside. Emotions need to be experienced so no matter how unpleasant things are right now, you have to go through it. You can't turn back time and you cannot speed it up either. Let time take you where you need to go.

That's what I am trying to do and I know it's hard. But I'll try to see all this pain as a spiritual..purge, if you may. I'll try to not do anything stupid that I will regret later in life, such as destroying other girls' hearts or something like that. The one thing I hope is that this difficult period I am in won't desensitize me..

[Kazimiera]

That's what I am trying to do and I know it's hard. But I'll try to see all this pain as a spiritual..purge, if you may. I'll try to not do anything stupid that I will regret later in life, such as destroying other girls' hearts or something like that. The one thing I hope is that this difficult period I am in won't desensitize me..

It will on desensitise you if you allow it to. Becoming wiser doesn't necessarily becoming harder.