Should Transsexuals Be Required To Disclose Their Status Prior To Dating?

[Anglojew]

Should transsexuals be required to disclose their transgendered status prior to dating potential partners?

I would bet 90% of straight men wouldn't be happy to learn their "girlfriend" was actually a post-op transsexual?

[Ujku]

100% percent... Imagine trying to take your hand down to her and she has a massive erection hahahah

[Anglojew]

100% percent... Imagine trying to take your hand down to her and she has a massive erection hahahah

I saw an interview with a tranny recently who said men who wouldn't date her/him/them were bigots

[Sikeliot]

Yes.

While their identities should be respected, if they were not born a biological male or female, their partner is likely entering into the relationship believing the person they are with to be cisgender if they pass as it. Not revealing they are trans early on is depriving that person of their right to fully informed consent. Now I do not believe they are being maliciously deceptive by not disclosing, but I do think that the person they are with may have made a different choice and I believe people deserve to know what they are entering into.

Some people say "well, you were clearly attracted so what difference does it make?" but it does. Knowing that you have physically touched, in that way, someone who every fiber of their physical body, their very physical essence is identical to your own (if you're straight) CAN be very emotionally traumatizing especially because we live in a homophobic world. I respect people's gender identities, but when many people say they are straight, they mean straight when referring to biological sex and gender presentation, not JUST identity. It is called "SEXUAL orientation" not "gender orientation" and until we recognize this, the discussion will never move forward.

[Sikeliot]

Yes, but only when there will be sex involved for reasons of consent. If just going on a date, then there is no reason to tell it. What business is it of anyone else, if there is no sexual relationship involved? None. Trans people do not need to put their lives on display for random strangers for whom there is no intimacy.

With sexual relationships though, yes. It should be disclosed. While their identities should be respected, if they were not born a biological male or female, their partner is likely entering into the relationship believing the person they are with to be cisgender if they pass as it. Not revealing they are trans early on is depriving that person of their right to fully informed consent. Now I do not believe they are being maliciously deceptive by not disclosing, but I do think that the person they are with may have made a different choice and I believe people deserve to know what they are entering into.

Some people say "well, you were clearly attracted so what difference does it make?" but it does. Knowing that you have physically touched, in that way, someone who every fiber of their physical body, their very physical essence is identical to your own (if you're straight) CAN be very emotionally traumatizing especially because we live in a homophobic world. I respect people's gender identities, but when many people say they are straight, they mean straight when referring to biological sex and gender presentation, not JUST identity. It is called "SEXUAL orientation" not "gender orientation" and until we recognize this, the discussion will never move forward.

However, I also think disclosing early on is better for the trans person as well. We live in a transphobic world, and the longer one goes without disclosing, given that relationships get more intense and intimate, the more likely the other partner will be enraged and vicious when they find out. If I was a trans person I'd reveal it early on, likely over the phone where there was no risk of being physically attacked, and that way if the partner had an issue, I would not be in harm's way. I do not understand the argument one is somehow "safer" by revealing it after having sex, that is the WORST time to tell.

With that said, I have no issue dating a trans man (or wouldn't, if not for already being involved with someone ) and I don't care when I find out.

[Queen B]

Yes of course they should

[Ghazi]

yes, for their own safety

[Anglojew]

Yes.

While their identities should be respected, if they were not born a biological male or female, their partner is likely entering into the relationship believing the person they are with to be cisgender if they pass as it. Not revealing they are trans early on is depriving that person of their right to fully informed consent. Now I do not believe they are being maliciously deceptive by not disclosing, but I do think that the person they are with may have made a different choice and I believe people deserve to know what they are entering into.

Some people say "well, you were clearly attracted so what difference does it make?" but it does. Knowing that you have physically touched, in that way, someone who every fiber of their physical body, their very physical essence is identical to your own (if you're straight) CAN be very emotionally traumatizing especially because we live in a homophobic world. I respect people's gender identities, but when many people say they are straight, they mean straight when referring to biological sex and gender presentation, not JUST identity. It is called "SEXUAL orientation" not "gender orientation" and until we recognize this, the discussion will never move forward.

Is a post-op woman (who used to be a man) who is attracted to men gay?

[Sikeliot]

Is a post-op woman (who used to be a man) who is attracted to men gay?

They are living as a woman, so no, they are not. They would be considered a heterosexual trans woman.

[Sikeliot]

Anyhow I cannot vote because my choice is not on there: "No, unless the relationship is about to turn sexual."