Originally Posted by
Sikeliot
Yes.
While their identities should be respected, if they were not born a biological male or female, their partner is likely entering into the relationship believing the person they are with to be cisgender if they pass as it. Not revealing they are trans early on is depriving that person of their right to fully informed consent. Now I do not believe they are being maliciously deceptive by not disclosing, but I do think that the person they are with may have made a different choice and I believe people deserve to know what they are entering into.
Some people say "well, you were clearly attracted so what difference does it make?" but it does. Knowing that you have physically touched, in that way, someone who every fiber of their physical body, their very physical essence is identical to your own (if you're straight) CAN be very emotionally traumatizing especially because we live in a homophobic world. I respect people's gender identities, but when many people say they are straight, they mean straight when referring to biological sex and gender presentation, not JUST identity. It is called "SEXUAL orientation" not "gender orientation" and until we recognize this, the discussion will never move forward.
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