Who will only date/marry people similar to them?

[JohnSmith]

I've a question have you ever sat down and had a serious conversation with someone of mixed ancestry? Asked them how was their childhood? How do people treat them? No, not simply talking south/north European either. I'm talking European and African, MENA, or Asian mixed ancestry. Cause you've just used your marriage - two Europeans - as if all such 'mixed' marriages would be the same.

I'm just curious as one of my colleagues is half MENA. She was treated quite poorly during her childhood by people who didn't want to be bothered with the half European "mongrel". And she doesn't exactly belong among either her father's MENA family or her mother's European family either. Her grandmother, and I've seen this at work, treats her like sh*t. Her story wouldn't necessarily be unusual for people of mixed ethnic ancestry [mulattos, hapas, etc.]

We are not really mixed as I am also Northern European myself. I have family members on my side that are lighter featured than some of her "Northern European American" family. My Central Italian family is very pale and we have red hair family on that side, so stuff like this happens it is not really that surprising. Europeans carry recessive genes and you can find a lot of lighter featured Southern Europeans and vice versa. My children have light hair and one has light eyes. So they just look like ordinary white Americans.

As for people of mixed race I am sure it is not easy for all. However, I have seen some cases where a mixed race person is able to fit in both groups within the black and white crowd. So, some can thrive and can benefit from that type of social networking. I think many also can be very successful in seeking employment as they can socially interact easier with both groups. I worked with a biracial guy he is still my friend and he was able to fit in both groups just fine. It is sometimes I think weird for him but being biracial does have benefits not everyone is some-kind of outcast.

Most people I think will be accepting of someone as long as they want to be accepted. I think the bigger issue within the black community is the issues between dark skin and light skin girls. My wife is a teacher and has seen a lot of bullying of dark skin girls by light skin girls and they are all black.

[Dick]

OP is a closet homo.

[sean]

I find girls of all types attractive but the end goal of every relationship to me, conscious or not, is putting a bunch of babies in her. I don't want children that don't look like me. I don't think that's unreasonable.

[Oghuz]

unintentionally me and my Mrs. look similar. I am northern Iranid and she is Atlanto med (lighter than me but marginally)

it does not matter.

[Seya]

I don’t care about phenotypes and colors but the culture is very important to me. This is the only similarity i care about

[Lazio]

Well, I'm mixed race and I'll marry a japanese girl

If she's japanese, why not?

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[itilvolga]

Phenotype doesn’t matter that much. Still, i wouldn’t like to marry a man who looks entirely different. Tbh there is no any Turkish person (except Afro-Turks) who can look “entirely” different as compared to me so i don’t have such problem with it.

[farke1]

Personally I'm not attracted to people of non-European descent, so that would limit my dating options - but personality matters way more than phenotype and I don't particularly care about my future children being a certain percent of ethnicity X. As long as they'd grow up to be good people, I'd be happy.

[Andromega123]

actually i unconsciously care about it, it feels somehow more comfortable to have a partner which looks like me. My current date is also have slanted brown eyes, brown hair and mesomorph body shape (probably she is also pontid + turanid like me too) and we just chose each other in the sea of plenty fishes.

[ezyeez]

My preference is tall, black hair and neutral skin tone but my boyfriend is average height, medium brown and pink skin tone (pretty crazy for me because I really dislike anything less than dark brown usually). Before him I didn't think I'd date anyone outside my preference.