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People with Very High Sex Drives
It often seems to me that people with high sex drives who place a lot of importance on sexual relationships are despized by people who are asexual or have very low sex drives. Is it just me or is this true?
I have always been very sexually agressive (to the point of annoyance); ever since the moment I matured and I can't help it. Part of what I think it may be caused by is my somewhat type A personality and an overactive thyroid. I always felt ostracized by the other kids who didn't care much for the opposite sex (not gay just low sex drive) and I felt like I was a freak (ie. I would get a sensation if I hugged a random guy). I had very little idea of what sex was and was not informed at all, so this naturally made it worse. I would go to school like every day and be constantly burdoned by sensations and adrenaline rushes if I thought about a guy for a split second or was touched or bumped into one. I probably thought about sex in a sort of involuntary way 60 or 75 times a day when I was in puberty; after a few years I calmed down but I still have a very high sex drive. I told other people about it and they acted like something was wrong with me; its true people don't normally act like that even hormone crazed teenagers.
A lot of men who don't really care much about relationships don't understand my sexually agressive behavior and think I want to go all the way with them or something. This is not the case, I am just very expressive/passionate and need someone equally or more agressive than me.
What do you think on the subject of high and low sex drives and what causes it? How should you handle finding a partner that is compatible with you in this way? I find that you can be compatible in other ways and not be compatible on terms of sex drive. I seem to be on the extreme end of things in terms of sex drive and I find that all the men with high sex drives like mine are usually bad news.
One downside to having a very high sex drive is the huge amount of hormones in your body. When I was maturing I needed at least 12 hours of sleep just to even function and now I need at least 9 or 10. My parents were always wondering what was wrong with me, but the hormones were definitely what was causing my sleepiness. There are definitely good things about having a high sex drive (ie. you never get depressed or give up on things) but I wish mine wasn't so extremely high.
I understand that its painful to have a low sex drive and be in a society that emphasizes sex a lot, but it is just as painful to have a very high sex drive and be around people who think its shameful and wrong.
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Originally Posted by Lolki
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