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In the thread about the age in which you moved out it started this interesting topic. Which are the differences about family in Northern, Eastern and Southern Europe?
Italy is familistic, I'd say that ,becouse of our long political division, family has acquired a role that substitutes the State. This role is extreme. I dunno in Greece and Spain but here if you say to your parents that you want to move out, it is implicit that you are going to marry. Only exceptions: if you study or work in an other city. Otherwise to live alone is considered "a useless cost".
I dunno if it is positive or not. I let you judge.
EXTREME means that there are areas in Southern Italy where there still is the faida (or fedhe, Blutrache, blood feud), a Norman cultural heritage. If you do something wrong to a member of an other family you have all his/her family against all your family. A Southern Italian friend of mine told me that in her village a guy has been killed becouse he belonged to a family that was in "blood feud" with an other family. Of course in this case we are in the illegacy and this happens very rarely, but the mentality which is behind this is strong, especially in the South.
On the other hand in big cities the situation is different, family is far less rigid but it is always "central" in a person's life.
A positive aspect is that it is very beautiful to have a united family. They solve problems for you and help you in everything, psychologically, materially, and you spend with them very beautiful moments. You feel never lonely.
Family are united becouse when you start it it's like to start a business. Usually the two things come together. There are many couples/families who start a family business (a restaurant, a little firm). Little and medium firms are, indeed, the economic heart of Italy.
And to joke: in rural areas it still happens that an elder may ask you the name and "whose are you son/daughter" instead than the surname.
How's the situation in your country?
Italy's situation can be compared, in my opinion, with traditional China or Japan.
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