Relationships with the woman being significantly older than the male

[Solwyn]

Personally I couldn't see myself having a serious relationship with a man who isn't in my age group. I have just found that men who are younger than me are on a whole different plane of reality. I definitely have no desire for a man who is a lot older than me, either, because I already have a father. LOL. I'm not on the market anyway, so it doesn't matter.

However, if I was.....I'd be hitting the Palomino Club with all the other Cougars to find me a nice 20-something chew toy with one of those 24/7 machine gun peckers and the youthful stamina to go with it.



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As far as aesthetics go, I'm pushing 40 and I don't think I look too worse for the wear. What cracks me up is that I know people who think the older male/younger woman aesthetic is fine, but not the older woman/younger male - women generally take better care of themselves, LOL, men just let themselves go.

[Tolleson]

- women generally take better care of themselves, LOL, men just let themselves go.

Hey, I resemble that remark. You almost hurt my feeling!

[Hilding]

I don't mind as long as the woman doesn't have children in the same age as the man, that's just bizarre.

[Jägerstaffel]

It doesn't bother me one way or the other the way other people spend their lives as long as it doesn't infringe on my life and my family/community's life and our rights..

Doesn't mean I won't ridicule them, but they are free to do as they please.

[Gwynyvyr]

I don't mind as long as the woman doesn't have children in the same age as the man, that's just bizarre.

I had a daughter 2 years older, a son one year younger than my third husband.
They got along just fine.
Of course, when he and I split, my son wanted to go whip his butt...

[Vargtand]

I had a daughter 2 years older, a son one year younger than my third husband.
They got along just fine.
Of course, when he and I split, my son wanted to go whip his butt...

Ouch damn.. personally I would not be okay with it on either end of those roles.
on the other hand I take it then you had no desire for him to be a father figure

[SwordoftheVistula]

What cracks me up is that I know people who think the older male/younger woman aesthetic is fine, but not the older woman/younger male - women generally take better care of themselves, LOL, men just let themselves go.

Not sure if that is true that more men let themselves go-I tend to see more non-fat guys with fat girls than vice versa, and the middle aged female coworkers I have had are more likely to be fat than the male ones. Even if it is true, I think that's because most women don't put as much attention on looks, at least not to the extent men do. A stocky, balding/graying man with a few scars is not going to have much be turned down for looks nearly as often as a stocky, graying woman with a few scars is.

In general I think it's natural for the man to be older than the woman in relationships, especially if they plan on having children at some point. Older men tend have things most women are looking for, financial potential (more advanced along the educational/career path) and a more 'settled' personality; whereas women tend to have things most men are looking for: youthful looks and personality. If they are interested in children, the man's financial potential and emotional stability becomes more important, and younger women can have more children and/or delay having children longer into the relationship.

[Bobby Martnen]

1 year older is fine, 2-3 is pushing it, anything more is disgusting and should be annulled