At the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Bonn in Germany, the following experiment was conducted: the researchers asked 57 men (both single and in a relationship) to use two types of nasal spray. The first type of spray contained the hormone oxytocin, the second was a placebo. Then these young people were asked to physically approach an attractive woman and stay at a convenient distance from her. As a result of the experiment, it turned out that men who were in a relationship and had been exposed to oxytocin were farther from attractive women than men who were in a relationship and were exposed to placebo. The behavior of single guys did not change under the action of a hormone. “Oxytocin increases confidence in people, and we expected that its influence would allow an unfamiliar woman to come closer than usual,” said research director Dirk Schillet. “But the results were exactly the opposite. It turned out that the hormone oxytocin increased the attachment of men to their partner and not to an unfamiliar attractive woman."

The release of oxytocin, which is also called the “embrace hormone,” occurs naturally. Here are some fairly simple but effective ways to increase oxytocin.

GENTLE TOUCHING
This simple tool is familiar to almost everyone who is in love. Gentle touching and subtle stroking are the source of a strong wave of excitement. It is not surprising that neurons quickly deliver information about such contact down to the hypothalamus, the center of excitement, reward, and pleasure in the brain. I’ve heard that French women are especially good at such gentle things. Here is a site where you can meet and date a French woman; don’t miss out!

GENTLE STROKING OF ON THE SPINE
Researchers at the Medical Center in Los Angeles wanted to compare the effect of a 45-minute massage of deep tissues with a light massage of the same duration. It turned out that the experiment participants experienced a greater influx of oxytocin from a light massage. Since each person has their own individual perception of pressure, it is recommended to start with very light touches and then increase pressure as needed.

MASSAGE OF THE NECK AND THE LOWER PART OF THE HEAD
Tactile contact not only increases the amount of oxytocin but also relieves stress. It is believed that the upper sections of the back, neck, and occipital part of the head are the places where stress accumulates. Light contact and massage of these zones can be another tool for the release of oxytocin.

HUGGING
Remember that love requires confirmation of loyalty through touch. Sue Johnson from Canada believes that “the majority of disagreements occur on the basis of a feeling of breaking up with a loved one. Stress causes fear that our partner will not be next to us at the right moment.” And therefore, when meeting with your loved one, the most effective way to show your love and support is to hug your partner.

TAKE THE INITIATIVE
Often, we expect our partner to take care of us and to look after us at all times. Try to initiate a pleasant contact with your partner for a change; they may be expecting that just as much and maybe even more than you do.

SEX IN THE MORNING
Debby Herbenick, the author of the book Because It Feels Good, offers radical measures. She is convinced that “sex in the morning produces oxytocin which affects the well-being and stability of the couple not only during the day but also for the whole week.” Sex is only enhanced with appropriate music, so be sure to check out some good radio stations like www.lovefm.com.

CORRESPONDENCE VIA TEXT MESSAGING
Of course, having good sex can be the shortest way to the heart of your partner and for that sweet oxytocin release. However, it should be kept in mind that the release of this hormone occurs even in the absence of physical contact. This is especially important during separation. For example, when you go on a business trip or stay for a long time in different cities. Write a text message to your loved one about how you miss them being around. Or tell about the sexual fantasies that have visited you at night.

Of course, there is no guarantee that oxytocin will help maintain loyalty in your relationship. But knowing how this hormone works, you can prolong and, perhaps, save the relationship that is dying. Simply replace obligations, duty, and adherence to social rules with hugs, gentle touches, and the desire to be in intimate contact with your loved one.