Were you beaten as kids?

[alnortedelsur]

If you mean by your parents, YES, many times, and thanks to that I'm not a spoiled and selfish person.

And I'm not traumatized because of it.

My mom and dad have been excellent parents.

[Borealis]

she never used it anyway, she chased me with it to scare me. she did beat me with a shoe once. I ran to my bed and went under the covers when she was doing it. but I deserved it because I slapped her bum.

if you put it that way then its not a big deal

[Dna8]

As regards effects, everything depends upon the wider context.

Also, no two children accommodate physical "discipline" the same way (in terms of their psyche)

[Westbrook]

I was hit with belts, paddles, extension cords, tree branches, rulers, you name it. Not to mention smacked in the face plenty of times. Also got mouthfuls of Tabasco sauce or soap if I was caught swearing.


It's not a big deal to me now but I still probably wouldn't do that stuff to my own kids if I had any.

[Kamal900]

If you mean by your parents, YES, many times, and thanks to that I'm not a spoiled and selfish person.

And I'm not traumatized because of it.

My mom and dad have been excellent parents.

Same here, my brudda.

[Kazimiera]

When I was very little and I was naughty, my grandma would spank me on the bottom with a wooden spoon.

My mom was always a very emotional person and prone to outbursts because of things happening in her life, and if you happen to cross her path (even innocently) when she is like this then it doesn't matter who is in the way.

I'll never forget a specific day when she was like this. I was looking for my dress in my cupboard and it wasn't there. Then I went to her cupboard and in a laundry mix-up it landed there. She was already in one of 'those' moods. I should have seen it coming because I was in my early 20's already but I didn't. In retrospect I should have gotten out there as fast as possible but things escalated really fast and I ended up beaten by a coat hanger and called a 'whore'. I tried to get her off me but she threw me onto the bed and pinned my arms down with her legs and began to strangle me. When I eventually blacked out she thought she'd killed me and went straight into a fit of crying hysterics, regretting how she had killed her daughter.

On another day when she was in one of her moods, she picked a fight with my 75 year-old grandmother. Grandmother was slapped, beaten to the ground and had a kitchen chair broken over her back. Fortunately there were no serious injuries, only bruises, but it could have turned out much worse.

My mom was difficult to live with sometimes because she could change in an instant. She was very unpredictable. If things in her life were going smoothly she was the most awesome mother. But if things were bad she lashed out at whoever was the closest person. She has very bad coping mechanisms and externalises her emotions - so whoever happens to be standing there is fully responsible for how her life went wrong in 1974.

All that aside, I love my mother dearly. I just don't want to live with her because she is a rollercoaster.

[Black Panther]

I was, thankfully.

[Peterski]

I just don't want to live with her because she is a rollercoaster.

Have you considered that maybe your father thought the same when he decided to leave your mom?

Based on the version of this story that you told me before, it was all his fault.

But now it turns out that there is more to this story (your mom's personality disorder / mood swings).

It still does not justify him abandoning his kid, of course.

[nittionia]

No its primitive imo


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[El_Abominacion]

Yes. I think i'd be quite shitty if I wasn't disciplined