Do Manipulated Persons Become Manipulative too?

[Joso]

I don't know why but i have the sensation that persons that suffered for many time in abusive relationships tend to become manipulative too( even if subconsciently) as if they inherit the skills of the persons that manipulated them.

[Borealis]

Yeah they become cynical.

[Joso]

Yeah they become cynical.

Yes, it is probably a way they find to avoid the chances of the abuses happening again, it is harder to be manipulated by a person if you manipulate this person fist. What is strange is that it seens to often happen subconsciently.

[Joso]

Yeah they become cynical.

I was higly manipulated by some people close to me when i was a child, i hadn't early noticed this but now when i look at the past, i can clearly see that i manipulated the persons which i think i loved. My thoughts and actions were exactly the same of these specific persons that manipulated me. But i hadn't did any of this intentionally, it was like my brain was programmed to work in the same way as the brains of these that controled me. I thougth i was just acting naturally but now i see that i never had an own personality and this also explain why i was so anti-social for a long time.
However, a few time ago my conscience began to increase alot as if i woke up of a deep sleep. I don't know what caused this awakening, maybe my reflections after depression have lead to this because it obligated me to find answers inside me, instead of outside. I never cared about me, i was not taught to love myself.
Or it could be just because i am an adult now, so my brain is more developed.