Would a ~5'3" girl be ok with dating a ~6'5" man?

**Matty74** · 04-26-2019, 04:36 AM

Originally Posted by TheOldNorth

knew her for two & a half years before asking her out, she did have other boyfriends in that time, but they all seemed pretty lame, which is why she broke up with them or vise versa. No I didn't just swoop in after one of these break ups, I waited a solid month. She thought it was a kind gesture but declined, still can't get my mind off her no matter how hard I try (a year later). I still see her every now and again, and I don't want to be biased and judgmental, but the guys she's with now is kind of lame too... Wish that was me every freaken time...

Have you asked yourself why she declined? Have you done an inventory of what she's into? It appears that all the guys she's been with are different (lame) from you, so it could be a looks thing, personality thing or whatever. If you really like this woman, it doesn't hurt to be gently persuasive and to at least let her know you're available. It doesn't hurt to text her or if you see her out in public, chat her up etc. I have no idea where you live but it likely wouldn't hurt to say, "hey? lets grab a drink, I need to get out of here" or something like that. In some cases, it can be beneficial to plant the seeds in her head that you may be a viable person to spend time with. Also, you may just need to reassess your situation and move on too.

You can't fuck them all. I learned that at an early age ha

**TheOldNorth** · 04-26-2019, 04:41 AM

Originally Posted by Matty74

Have you asked yourself why she declined? Have you done an inventory of what she's into? It appears that all the guys she's been with are different (lame) from you, so it could be a looks thing, personality thing or whatever. If you really like this woman, it doesn't hurt to be gently persuasive and to at least let her know you're available. It doesn't hurt to text her or if you see her out in public, chat her up etc. I have no idea where you live but it likely wouldn't hurt to say, "hey? lets grab a drink, I need to get out of here" or something like that. In some cases, it doesn't hurt to plant the seeds in her head that you may be a viable person to spend time with. Also, you may just need to reassess your situation and move on too.

You can't fuck them all. I learned that at an early age ha

wish I had more opportunities for such things, but yeah I chat with her, but she seems to ignore more than when she was single, so I've tried to stay out of her way unless conversation seems natural, and right (and even then it could be awkward, sense we're both introverted people)

**Dick** · 04-26-2019, 04:41 AM

Originally Posted by Longbowman

it wasn't a joke, it was random speculation, that's the point. we have no knowledge of this women. there are a billion reasons she could have rejected you. your height probably isn't the most likely.

Jokes aside. longbowman is probably right. What does height have to do with it?

**TheOldNorth** · 04-26-2019, 04:42 AM

Originally Posted by Dick

Jokes aside. longbowman is probably right. What does height have to do with it?

thought the big difference in height could be awkward or unappealing

**Celestia** · 04-26-2019, 04:43 AM

Originally Posted by TheOldNorth

To be honest, kind of wanted this thread to more about whats a woman's limit in height dimorphism in a partner, but I guess it's turned into "cheer up, she didn't have chemistry with you!" or something like that...

ah ok I saw this so I will comment, like I stated earlier I'm 5'4" and I have dated a guy who was 5'7" before and the tallest one who was 6'4".. There really isn't a too tall for me, but I don't see myself dating anyone shorter than me. My preference is 5'10" - 6'3" but it's not a deal breaker.

**Alenka** · 04-26-2019, 04:45 AM

When girls say they like a tall man, they usually mean a handsome, fit man who is also tall. Maybe that's something you should consider pondering on. How do you "measure up" in those other departments? If you "run a little short," you better have a high-paying job. Or learn how to cook. Or at least buy her a bucket of flowers. In other words, height is not everything. If you're subpar in other areas you may have to make up for it in some way.

**Dick** · 04-26-2019, 04:45 AM

Originally Posted by TheOldNorth

thought the big difference in height could be awkward or unappealing

It's possible. Maybe she's afraid you'll hurt her.

**Celestia** · 04-26-2019, 04:45 AM

Originally Posted by TheOldNorth

thought the big difference in height could be awkward or unappealing

No, there's a 99.9% chance that your height had nothing to do with it.

**TheOldNorth** · 04-26-2019, 04:46 AM

Originally Posted by Celestialsayer

ah ok I saw this so I will comment, like I stated earlier I'm 5'4" and I have dated a guy who was 5'7" before and the tallest one who was 6'4".. There really isn't a too tall for me, but I don't see myself dating anyone shorter than me. My preference is 5'10" - 6'3" but it's not a deal breaker.

ok I see, so about a foot taller is normal, although for you the difference was 11 inches, and for me (hypothetically) it would be like 14-15 inches, but perhaps that's not to much of a stretch...

**Matty74** · 04-26-2019, 04:46 AM

Originally Posted by Celestialsayer

ah ok I saw this so I will comment, like I stated earlier I'm 5'4" and I have dated a guy who was 5'7" before and the tallest one who was 6'4".. There really isn't a too tall for me, but I don't see myself dating anyone shorter than me. My preference is 5'10" - 6'3" but it's not a deal breaker.

That seems to be a very common range but I don't think his height should hurt him too badly. One of my best friends is 6-7 and his wife is 5-0. Maybe she likes the idea of a taller guy for security reasons. Who knows? I'm not a woman but the difference hasn't impacted their relationship and they've been married for 10 years now.