Should a guy who is ugly, fat or brown be talking to girls

**Mortimer** · 08-23-2019, 02:47 AM

Originally Posted by Mingle

I don't know the full context behind this, but generally speaking if you are too direct and personal without knowing a woman well, then they'll find you creepy. If you're very attractive, then you'd probably have a better shot at getting away with something like this, but this is generally considered creepy.

Im direct and personal but not disrespectful. I ask if she has a boyfriend and if she wants to go on a coffee or drink. Thats direct but not disrespectful.

**Mingle** · 08-23-2019, 02:49 AM

Originally Posted by Mortimer

Im direct and personal but not disrespectful. I ask if she has a boyfriend and if she wants to go on a coffee or drink. Thats direct but not disrespectful.

Where was this? How long did you know the woman when you asked this? Was this the first thing you said to them or were you two chatting for a while before you asked that?

**Mortimer** · 08-23-2019, 02:51 AM

Originally Posted by Mingle

Where was this? How long did you know the woman when you asked this? Was this the first thing you said to them or were you two chatting for a while before you asked that?

That was a few times, Sometimes in real life sometimes on Facebook. I write a message like "Hi Do you want to get to know me". I saw them before and talked a bit but not much.

**luc2112** · 08-23-2019, 02:55 AM

In your case no, it seems civilized and polite. Now for a man who lives on the streets (scruffy), they are afraid...

**Mingle** · 08-23-2019, 03:00 AM

Originally Posted by Mortimer

That was a few times, Sometimes in real life sometimes on Facebook. I write a message like "Hi Do you want to get to know me". I saw them before and talked a bit but not much.

Okay, I clicked on the quote in the OP and went straight to the first post that read the following:

I was two weeks in Serbia. I went everyday to a small shop to buy cigarettes, milk, coffee etc. I saw a beautiful cashier. I went everyday there small talked with her. On the fith day I asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said she is married. I wanted to ask her on a date but when she is married I wont.

Based on this, I don't think you were creepy. You chatted for a bit and then asked her out. Doesn't seem creepy to me.

**Celestia** · 08-23-2019, 03:04 AM

Weight is the biggest problem here.
What you find attractive is subjective.
And skin color is nothing to most women.

**Daco Celtic** · 08-23-2019, 03:08 AM

Are you open to chubby Latinas from Texas, Florida, and California? I think you could pull it off it you applied yourself.

**Mortimer** · 08-23-2019, 03:09 AM

Originally Posted by Daco Celtic

Are you open to chubby Latinas from Texas, Florida, and California? I think you could pull it off it you applied yourself.

Yes. Im open also to chubby black women. But Im not in that area.

**Daco Celtic** · 08-23-2019, 03:15 AM

Originally Posted by Mortimer

Yes. Im open also to chubby black women. But Im not in that area.

Maybe you need to move to a more diverse area if that is possible, the women might be more open to you. If you were in the US you would have more options and there isn't the sigma attached to Roma that exist in Europe. Keep your options open.

**Mortimer** · 08-23-2019, 03:19 AM

Originally Posted by Daco Celtic

Maybe you need to move to a more diverse area if that is possible, the women might be more open to you. If you were in the US you would have more options and there isn't the sigma attached to Roma that exist in Europe. Keep your options open.

It is difficult to move to a new area and start a new life from scratch. Also I think I wouldnt be allowed to legally move to the USA they have strict immigration laws. I dont support myself financially and I have disabilities that already disqualifies me.