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What your Grandparents did was right and guess what ... probably a high percentages of marriages are like that over time.
Problem is people invest in the BS Hollywood idea of the Prince Charming or whatever Hollywood movie that the Marriage partners are going to be soulmates and
passionatly in love for ever same as when they first met.
When you have children Marriages are and become largely about the practicality of raising children
that becomes the priority.
Having as good as you can non volatile lasting relationship with the spouse hopefully getting along and being happy enough and friends/companions is pretty good result over time but it does not have to be always perfect and anyone expecting for perfection is living in lala land.
Im from probably older generation Gen X er and so maybe Im bias but i think its the problem with young people today many are selfish and not able to commit to a marriage.
In my oppinion the kids probably suffer more from divorced parents unless there is really bad domestic violence or constant arguments unhappyness
but smart parents make an effort to keep it together because they believe in what marriage is supposed to be
in terms of family-child raising.
Good on your Grandfather who cares if he had a 2nd love the main thing he kept the family together and stuck it all out and was carefull on the side, a real man. Those geerations were right not like modern generation take a divorce soon as it gets a bit difficult or one finds a better option after a couple years when they get bit bored.
Another advice maybe getting married later after a few relationships is good way to go for many people than early marriages.
I married in my 30's i think was better option for me. I lived a lot and Im really happy being a family man in this chapter my life.
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