Prostitution deals psychological damage upon men

[JamesBond007]

Worked out bloody marvellous for him, no ?

Well as the ancient philosophers would say moderation in all things is key to a balanced life I did not catch AIDs but he did because he was like a bipolar maniac with hookers.

[Óttar]

Well as the ancient philosophers would say moderation in all things is key to a balanced life I did not catch AIDs but he did because he was like a bipolar maniac with hookers.

I have a non-normative sexuality so it's almost impossible for me to catch HIV in the first place.

[JamesBond007]

Pigling, you are overthinking this losing your virginity as man is not the samething as a woman. Jerking off is a cheap McDonald's hamburger and banging a prostitute is a a better more expensive T-Bone steak.

[Óttar]

Pigling, you are overthinking this losing your virginity as man is not the samething as a woman. Jerking off is a cheap McDonald's hamburger and banging a prostitute is a a better more expensive T-Bone steak.

Not to mention in the 19th century, in many places in the US, patronizing pros was considered entirely normal.

I encourage everyone to read this. It was the definitive book on the subject for a long time: William_Sanger_History_of_Prostitution.

[Jacques de Imbelloni]

Not to mention in the 19th century, in many places in the US, patronizing pros was considered entirely normal.

I encourage everyone to read this. It was the definitive book on the subject for a long time: William_Sanger_History_of_Prostitution.

[kratz]

Well, I don't know about that, but visiting a sex-worker per se is not necessarily unhealthy.

Grace says prostitutes don't want to be there. I think many workers also don't want to be at their jobs either, but work is never treated the same way as sex-work. The sex-workers that I've hired have all had a pleasant time at my place. They are just normal people.

Agree in that sex workers. I noticed in the anglosphere all this prostitution talk is linked to street workers and drug dealers. Meanwhile, in Spanish speaking countries. This is generally seen as more or less normal. I remember my aunt talking about me going to see prostitutes, it was hilarious. Nobody cared that much. However, I noticed different cultures have different ways of seeing things. For instance, in my community doing drugs was heavily frowned up while in a liberal American household is seen as "Ok." I think their dislike of prostitution comes from allowing men access to sexual abundance which otherwise they would be deprived of. And instead, they were forced to settle down with an average girl to get sex.

[Jacques de Imbelloni]

Agree in that sex workers. I noticed in the anglosphere all this prostitution talk is linked to street workers and drug dealers. Meanwhile, in Spanish speaking countries. This is generally seen as more or less normal. I remember my aunt talking about me going to see prostitutes, it was hilarious. Nobody cared that much. However, I noticed different cultures have different ways of seeing things. For instance, in my community doing drugs was heavily frowned up while in a liberal American household is seen as "Ok." I think their dislike of prostitution comes from allowing men access to sexual abundance which otherwise they would be deprived of. And instead, they were forced to settle down with an average girl to get sex.

In latin america there is a lot of sex trafic and sex slavery also, its not that simple.

[JamesBond007]

[Atlantid]

That's a strange way for a man to look at women who are just doing the same as he is. I'm not going to give my opinion on the morality or not of one night stands but it is very different than paying prostitutes for sex. Two adults having consensual sex vs paying a woman who is selling her body as a commodity and who will not be enjoying the encounter is a very different scenario. I just don't understand the double standards.

Many women involved in prostitution have a lot of issues and I don't think anyone would enjoy being a prostitute. I can't really see the connection to people having one night stands when it is a willing choice between both parties. As a woman I'm just perplexed why men think it is okey dokey for them to have sex whenever they want but for women it means they are sluts or as you said "prostitutes". What about the men?

My comments above do not mean I advocate or agree with one night stands but I get angry about the hypocrisy of men. In some societies they control women and in others they condemn them for doing what men have been doing since Adam. Societies had different opinions on women and sex at different times. I think the fact that women have children was a factor in the past and also men wanted to make sure that children were their own. It would be interesting for people to think why there is such double standards on this topic. Religion was a factor in the recent past and still in some societies today on what was acceptable and what was not. Western society now is going into a post-religion stage and of course there is contraception so people's values around sex have changed.

It would require some maturity to be able to look at subjects like this in a nuanced way and make comments that are thought provoking. People are products of their upbringing and prejudices. Still we can think for ourselves despite what our backgrounds are. Personally I think society now is over sexualised. There is a lot of gratuitous sex on all programs. I wonder what it does to young minds?

Anyway a bit OT but for the OP I don't think you need to go to a prostitute. I think it debases both parties and is a bit sordid because it makes sex a commodity. Ideally sex with a loved one is much more healthy and satisfying so I agree and think that is best. Different people will of course have different opinions on the topic and that is the great thing about living in societies where we can express our opinions freely.

I think Atlantid is trolling but my opinion is an honest one so possibly people can give genuine answers although this forum is not usually the place for that.

No, I meant every word.

A double standard would imply that men and women are the same which is not true, so there is no double standard, only the lie that there are no differences between the sexes. There is one truth that is important to state and that's that men grow from adversity while women get irreparably damaged by the same pressures. Women that have one night stands are already damaged beyond repair, and I suppose some men would get damaged by it as well, the frailer type of man.

But, if you're a strong man, with a strong mentality and understanding, you only get stronger and wiser because the stress isn't overwhelming, it's just information about the world. Women are much more sensitive and can't learn in this manner.

[Pigling]

Huge psychological damage done to a man because of one night stand experience.

It's just my subjective feeling.

For normal neurotypical males that have reasonable decent odds to easily find a partner is not problem, but for those like us it's completely different.

I know that many people have problems like me and they feel lost like I felt for years before I didn't get to know I'm high functioning autist and what is core cause of majority issues in live, such as bullying during childhood/teenage period, social isolation, later on all those verbal conflicts where people who didn't understand my condition called me spoiled, lazy, oversensitive, coward, even insulted my family by saying it's their mistake that made me like this.

That's the reason I talk about my condition to maybe help someone.