The Loneliness Epidemic

[JosephK]

I sometimes think that I have a deterrant to me so people don't actively seek my company.

I feel the same way, my friend... (I don't mean about you, I mean about myself, as well...!)

Especially the last 6 or 7 years... As if it weren't bad enough that all my friends have died or moved very far away, suddenly no one likes to even make eye contact, no one is willing to get to know me...

In a way, people have changed, and millennials certainly don't seem to have the interest or attention-span to make real friends...

[JosephK]

I love being lonely. Having time for myself and improvement.

I used to like being alone as well, and I always thought of myself as an introvert... until it was no longer my choice. Now I'm just miserably alone and alienated--and it's their choice, not mine...

[Grace O'Malley]

I'm an introvert and like my own pursuits but I do like spending time with family and close friends. I need a lot of time on my own to recharge. I don't know why I don't get lonely most probably everyone is wired differently. I do work and have family so I guess it's not the same as being completely alone. I don't know if there are any people like that here.

[Roy]

I feel the same way, my friend... (I don't mean about you, I mean about myself, as well...!)

Especially the last 6 or 7 years... As if it weren't bad enough that all my friends have died or moved very far away, suddenly no one likes to even make eye contact, no one is willing to get to know me...

In a way, people have changed, and millennials certainly don't seem to have the interest or attention-span to make real friends...

Well ... I have no friends. And yeah ... people change to the point of not finding the actual connection and bond anymore. But maybe not our personalities as much as our desires, current obligations and motivations.

[Moje ime]

People often expect too much from others and are not willing to give the same in return. I often felt drained from that kind of people. In that case it is better to be alone.

[pulstar]

It can be partially due to kind of job you do. If you work in a place where you keep minimal communication with your peers or customers, or you work some freelance job, naturally you'll feel lonely unless you got close group of friends and family you see often. The introvert vs extrovert fantasy is just that. Nobody is pure introvert nor pure extrovert.

[Oghuz]

get married have a family.

[Moje ime]

get married have a family.

You're missing bigger picture.
They can not connect with others.
Even if they get marry they feel alone because of trust issues but nobody can help them with their own demons.
We all suffer from this, some more than others.
I can't remember when was the last time I met person without "walls" around, probably never. I'm so tired of that although I'm aware I may look the same and can't recognise honest attitude anymore. That is our human destiny.

If we speak about being alone as a choice then yes I need to be (left) alone often.

[Trouble]

get married have a family.

How do you do that when no one wants to marry you

[Oghuz]

You're missing bigger picture.
They can not connect with others.
Even if they get marry they feel alone because of trust issues but nobody can help them with their own demons.
We all suffer from this, some more than others.
I can't remember when was the last time I met person without "walls" around, probably never. I'm so tired of that although I'm aware I may look the same and can't recognise honest attitude anymore. That is our human destiny.

If we speak about being alone as a choice then yes I need to be (left) alone often.

Those who do not fix themselves deserve to be punished. Life is an exam. People fail if they do not prepare well.

And I do not believe in this new standard of lonely by choice. Either these people are lying to themselves or to others because we as species are not built to enjoy loneliness.