Is the High school teacher a criminal pedophile or she is a skank?

[Mortimer]

From reddit

My high school teacher and I “dated” secretly while I was a freshman-junior. He’s getting married, and I have the urge to tell his fiancé
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This whole situation is a pretty gray area for me and only now as an adult (26 female) am I starting to see my high school experience for what it really was, through the eyes of someone who is grown.

When I started out as a freshman in my very very small high school (around 60 people altogether), at 14, one of my teachers started paying extra attention to me. He was 34 at the time, and a lot of girls would giggle around about how hot he was and everyone loved him.

Pretty early on I had started eating lunch with him in his classroom, just us, because I needed some extra help. We became close and I developed a huge crush on him. One day I mentioned I didn’t have a ride home from cheerleading practice and he offered to come back and pick me up. When he picked me up, he offered to take me to get food and that led to him kissing me for the first time.

It escalated from there (completely with my “consent” - not that you can consent to an adult at 14, but I did want it) and he took my virginity at 15. We had a full blown relationship, he would wait in his truck after school and I would sneak and leave with him, he would take me to the city and we would go out to fancy dinners, I was over at his house almost every day after school and every weekend, he came to every single game to watch me cheer for 3 years straight, when he’d piss me off and we’d get into a fight I’d flirt with boys in class while he was teaching and get him angry, etc. and we completely got away with the whole thing.

When I was a junior, my dad saw a look he gave me at a parent-teacher meeting and came to me that night and asked me if he was “being creepy” towards me, and “you’d tell me, right? If he said anything inappropriate towards you?” And at that point, I felt like I must be doing something extremely wrong and I didn’t want to disappoint my dad. So I “broke up” with him and told him I wasn’t seeing or talking to him anymore, and I didn’t even though he begged me for the rest of high school, until I left for college.

I recently moved back to my home town and ran into him and his fiancé (his age). He introduced me as one of his “best students” and I felt weird the whole time. I’m strongly considering whether or not I should tell his fiancé he pursued a 14 year old student. I know for a fact he didn’t do that to anyone else while we were involved, but that doesn’t mean he hasn’t tried to do it since. I asked my cousin who is in high school if she thought he was creepy, and she was completely shocked I’d even think that, and was like “Mr. ___? No! He’s the best teacher we have”.

I’m confused morally not just about what I did as a teenager, but whether or not someone who is marrying him needs to know about it.

[PaleoEuropean]

Well a pedo technically goes for children pre-teenage, she is a predator though and it's all the same in my book. She should be put to the gallows.

[nobodyimportant]

this is gross

[TheMaestro]

Pedophille, but doesn't work vice versa with women. If a woman teacher would hit on a guy like this it would be like a dream in a heaven for him XD Which is pretty much contradicting but that's how it is.

[PaleoEuropean]

Pedophille, but doesn't work vice versa with women. If a woman teacher would hit on a guy like this it would be like a dream in a heaven for him XD Which is pretty much contradicting but that's how it is.

Like I said though a true pedo from a psychological standpoint is interested in a younger age range; her type of psychological issue although equally deplorable is in a different category of pyschosexual disorder. All psychosexual disorders generally all have the motive of gaining satisfaction by having power over their victims including more direct and violent deviants such as rapists, arsonists, serial killers etc. Most sexual deviants are asexual and really don't get a great amount of satisfaction in terms of sexual gratification. Asexuality not a disdain or dislike of sex, but a lack of stimulation from normal sexual activity. Hitler and Stalin although sexually active are both great examples of asexuals who use their authority as a means to gain satisfaction.

[PaleoEuropean]

^^^
Also it does go both ways because the psychology and motivations are the same, in states where the age of consent is lower than 18; even teachers and other authority figures are often charged for sleeping or dating students because it's considered rape by instrument of power; meaning they are using their authority (also a conflict of interest even if it is legal and they are above 18) to gain an advantage over someone who is vulnerable.

[Mortimer]

Paleo the teacher is a he not a she the student is the female

[crazyladybutterfly]

both
he was a pervert and she was too easy, he should still be punished while she ruined/punished herself by doing something stupid.

[El_Abominacion]

While this stuff absolutely does happen it's Reddit and there are so many fake stories out there that I question the validity of this

If it is real - he's a pedo who should be locked up, she's a whore and a failure to her parents

[InfamousAngel99]

The teacher is a pedophile. He should've known that a 14-year-old doesn't know what they're doing. Nobody's brain is fully developed by 14. Although alarms should've gone off in her head about the situation, but he is to blame. Pedophile for sure. If you think she's a skank, that's on you, but he IS a pedophile. There is no "or" about the situation.